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Would Having an Extravagant/Expensive Wedding Deter You From Calling It Quits?

DearSugar — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 09:00:00 -0700

Another celebrity couple has called it quits, and yet again, I have to say I'm not all that surprised. Star Jones, who married Al Reynolds back in 2004, made her wedding more of a celebrity circus than a day to celebrate their love. She had numerous wedding sponsors and she made it very clear that she wanted her wedding to be one of the biggest parties of the year but as we all know, it's more about the marriage than the wedding. So what happens when you have a larger-than-life dream wedding only to have the marriage dissolve? Does it add even more pressure and angst to your decision to separate? Would you feel embarrassed or guilty that you placed so much emphasis on it? Ladies, what I'm asking is, would you have second thoughts about ending your unhappy marriage if you had a big, extravagant, over-the-top wedding?

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You Asked: She Invited Her Family to My Wedding!

DearSugar — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

My fiancé and I are pulling together our wedding on our own with no help from a wedding planner and minimal financial help from our families. We are trying to keep our guest list reasonable so that we can stick to our budget. This has proven to be difficult since we both have large extended families, so we've had to pick and choose who we're inviting. So imagine my surprise when my fiancé's brother's wife called me to insist that her parents (who I've never met) be invited to the wedding to care for her 2-year-old child. It would be one thing if she was a direct family member, but they are a few degrees removed. To add insult to injury, my fiancé's brother's wife is already bringing a nanny, which makes her request even more outlandish.

When she first asked me about this, she did ask, however as I told her about our budgeting concerns, she became increasingly adamant, and ending up basically instructing me to invite them. Since we are paying for 90 percent of this wedding, I feel like I should be able to just say no, but I don't want to start off my marriage on the wrong foot, this is part of his family after all. I'm really told but most of all astounded by her query. Do you have any advice?
— Broke Bride Brooke

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You Asked: My Boyfriend Wasn't Invited to Her Wedding!

DearSugar — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I'm the maid of honor in my best friend's wedding this summer. It's a three day destination wedding and when I received my invitation yesterday, my boyfriend, of four months, wasn't invited. I understand that some people have a strict "no ring, no bring" policy, but I'm her maid of honor, and it's a destination wedding, not to mention my boyfriend and I are inseparable! I know this is her special day and I don't want to add more stress to her life right now, but I can't help but feel incredibly hurt that she didn't invite me with a date, knowing darn well that I have a serious boyfriend. Could this have been an oversight? Can I say something to her? I need your advice ASAP! — Irate Izzy

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The How-To Lounge: Sending Wedding Invitations

DearSugar — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 09:00:00 -0700

Once the save the dates have been mailed, it's time to get your wedding invitations ordered. Even if you aren't having a fancy affair, your guests need to know the date, time, location, and formality of your big day. Of course there are no rules when it comes to your invite, but to see some of the traditions to consider,

You Asked: Is This What My Life Will Be Like?

DearSugar — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I am recently engaged as of a few months. We hadn't even been dating a year when he proposed but I knew without a doubt that I wanted to marry him. We are set to be married this coming Winter. As soon as we started planning this wedding, things have really spun out of control. Our fights can get really nasty and we've never fought like this before. I know a lot of it is me, like I keep getting cold feet, but I can't imagine my life without him. Every time we get into a serious argument, all I can do is ask myself, "Is this what the rest of my life is going to be like?"

I love him with all of my heart, and I just don't know what to do. I want to spend the rest of my life with him, I'm just so scared and I don't understand where all this is coming from. I constantly feel like things are different than when we first started dating. For instance, he doesn't think any of my jokes or the funny things I do are that funny anymore. This really hurts my feelings because he used to think I was hilarious and a sense of humor is so important to me. So what now? Now I just have to not act like myself anymore because it annoys my fiancé? Is this normal to have these kinds of questions? — Getting Cold Feet Connie

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