
Dear Sugar,
When I broke up with my boyfriend, I was devastated. We were head over heels for each other but things just weren't working out so we ended it. At one point when I was trying to get over him, I threw away all the pictures I had of him and us, all the CDs he made me, and anything that reminded me of him.

As far as sharing
relationship histories with each other, I tend to believe that some things are better left unsaid. But just because you're not saying it, doesn't mean you're not thinking it. Considering your past relationships in contrast to your current situation can actually help to illuminate the good things you have now or the ways you've changed.

Sex can be a very impulsive act — I mean, that’s where some of the fun comes from — but that kind of passionate spontaneity can also lead to second-guessing later on. I’m a person who likes to believe that everything happens for a reason, and any mistake is just another lesson learned, but there are still things I regret. We can't take things back, but wouldn't it be nice if we could have a few "do-overs"?