
A bunch of my girl friends have this theory about
Halloween. According to them, if you've been dating someone but aren't sure whether you want to be with them or even if it's going anywhere, then Halloween marks a pivotal time. You either have to cut it off right now or you'll be stuck with them through the entirety of Winter.

For some, being single and dating is a lot of fun, but for others, being single can be frustrating, lonely, and just plain exhausting. I think both have their pros and cons, but if you've been feeling unlucky in love,
Rabbi Shmuley's (of Oprah fame) 12 steps to falling in love might be of some help.
- Admit you can't fall in love: Since many people couple up to avoid loneliness, Shmuley feels that admitting the reason why you want to fall in love will help gain realistic expectations.
- Get help: Opening up about wanting to, but having a difficult time finding love will help alleviate some of the pressure and burden.
- Heal the love wounds: Make amends with former lovers you may have hurt in the past.

Dear Sugar,
My boyfriend of a year and a half — I'm 23, and he's 21 — told me that he wants to break up because he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. But he also says that he wants to be good friends. We met at work, so we see each other all the time.

Dear Sugar,
I have been with my boyfriend for a little over four years. We've made it through a lot of obstacles together, and I love him dearly. We recently hit a plateau and have broken up several times in the last few months.