
I'm sure you all know by now that I'm in full support of
masturbation. Not only do I think it's completely natural, but I also feel that it gives you a chance to find out what you like and what
gets you excited. That being said, masturbation is definitely a private time, and not something you want the whole world to know you're doing.

I am in full support of women having spectacular,
mind-blowing orgasms — as many as she can get her hands on in fact. But let's face it: Many women feel like it's only possible or appropriate when they're with someone else. For some of you, the whole idea of
masturbation may seem wrong or not very sexually exciting, but I'm convinced that if you have a hard time with the idea of pleasuring yourself, using a sex toy may change your mind.

Dear Sugar,
I was in a long-term relationship for nearly five years. Things were very tumultuous and we finally called it quits just over a year ago. It was a bad end, and I've had a challenging time getting over it.
Masturbation seems to be a hot topic on DearSugar lately, which has got me thinking a lot of about the benefits of masturbation for a healthy sexual relationship, specifically mutual masturbation. This is when two people masturbate in the company of one another or when each person stimulates their partner for them. It can be your sexual act all on its own or a very significant part of foreplay, either way, it can be an important learning experience.

I'm a huge supporter of masturbation, and just like sex, I don't consider it dirty or wrong. Not only is it great to be able to pleasure yourself, but when you know what you like, you can better communicate that to your partner.
When you're single, masturbating is a healthy way to release sexual tension (and can even relieve headaches and help you sleep), but what do you think about it when you're in a relationship?