
Dear Sugar,
A friend of mine called me tonight to tell me I needed to get checked for an STI. She and I both had unprotected sex with the same guy, and her recent pap came back irregular. She hasn't been told what it is yet, but I'm worried that I have whatever it is.

Dear Sugar,
Is it wrong to tell my twice-divorced friend that she doesn't always need to have a guy lined up. She keeps dating these losers, and I end up having to deal with the mess. I want her to learn how to live her own life and wait for the right man.

One of the dating “facts” I hear dispensed time and time again is that people gain weight when they’re in relationships. Whether that’s true or not, weight gain can happen to any of us, and often does over time. But while our devotion to our partner may be unconditional, that doesn’t always mean our attraction is.