http://dearsugar.com/ Just ask. en http://dearsugar.com/2555612 <p>The <a href="http://dearsugar.com/2537267" >drama between Lauren and Audrina</a> over Justin Bobby continued last night on <a href="http://dearsugar.com/tags/The+Hills" >The Hills.</a> Even though Audrina finally came to the realization that the rumor about her best friend and boyfriend was just that, she was still pretty apprehensive about apologizing to Lauren. Admitting your wrongdoings can be a daunting task, but tell me, have you ever been afraid or nervous to apologize when you were in the wrong like Audrina was last night? </p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/49_2008/d6b891191398d944_Picture_1.preview.jpg" alt="" title="" class="outline image preview" width="550" height="300"></span></p> <p>To get all the fashion from last night's episode, check out our new site, <a href="http://www.celebstyle.com/style/tv/The_Hills" target="_blank">CelebStyle</a>.</p> <p>Photo courtesy of <a href="http://www.mtv.com/" target="_blank">MTV</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2555612#comment apologies Audrina Patridge Friendship lauren conrad rumors The Hills Tue, 02 Dec 2008 11:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2555612 http://dearsugar.com/2534480 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/48_2008/cc7e08b504f96b60_cheating.xlarger.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image xlarger" width="266" height="400"></span>DearSugar and Stuck in the Middle May need your help. She knows her friend's fiance has cheated on her, but she doesn't know if she should butt in and tell her the truth. It's a complicated situation, but what would you do? </p> <p>Dear Sugar,</p> <p>In the past year I have become very close with my boyfriend's friends' girlfriends. They are now great friends of mine who I talk to all the time and hang out with regularly when the guys aren't around. One of the girls has been dating my boyfriend's best friend for about seven years, and they are engaged to be married. The only problem is he has cheated on her many times over the course of their relationship and slept with numerous other women. It's been kind of a "don't ask don't tell" situation, but all the guys are in on it. I'm technically not supposed to know this information, but my boyfriend told me in confidence before she and I became close. I'm actively helping her plan the wedding but I just can't shake the guilt I feel for knowing this and not telling her.</p> <p>She is a great girl and does not deserve to marry someone who has cheated on her countless times. Supposedly he has stopped, but who really knows for sure? I want her to know what she's getting herself into before she commits to marriage and has her parents spend thousands of dollars on a wedding, but I know the damage I would cause by speaking up. I want to be a loyal friend, but I don't want to stir the pot. Should I tell or not? — Stuck in the Middle May</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2534480#comment cheating DearSugar Needs Your Help Friendship loyalty Relationships Sat, 29 Nov 2008 09:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2534480 http://dearsugar.com/2537522 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/48_2008/0d9e8e6b28d7bada_cafe.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image xlarge" width="313" height="312"></span>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>I met this guy in college and developed a major crush on him, but nothing ever happened. After graduating we kept in contact via email, then after a couple months, we met for coffee. We got to talking and he told me that he's been attracted to me for some time now, but informed me that he was in a relationship with someone else. He said he needed to figure things out on his end before getting me involved. I let him know that I too am attracted to him, and that I still wanted to maintain our friendship. </p> <p>He emailed me about a week later and suggested we meet up again — I agreed. This time we went to a cafe in the evening and talked for several hours. I know he is with another girl so I wanted to be respectful, but the whole time we were together I was thinking about how much I like him. When we left the cafe, he told me he wanted to do it again sometime, but what does all this mean? Does he just want to be friends? Is he keeping me around just in case he and his girlfriend break up? Am I setting myself up? Please help! — Unclear Claire </p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer, </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2537522">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2537522#comment Advice Breakup Dating Friendship Relationships You Asked Wed, 26 Nov 2008 12:30:00 -0800 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2537522 http://dearsugar.com/2537267 <p>Last night's episode of <a href="http://dearsugar.com/tags/The+Hills" >The Hills</a> was one of the most dramatic yet. We saw <a href="http://popsugar.com/2182488" >Lauren and Audrina's spat over Justin Bobby</a> unfold before the show aired, but watching how it really went down made me realize just how ridiculous Audrina's accusations were. While I understand her reasons behind confronting both Justin and Lauren, their first denial should have been good enough for Audrina to simply drop the issue. I've never been falsely accused of something by a friend before, so I can only guess how frustrating it must be to defend your word against someone else's. Have any of you ever been accused by a friend of doing something you had absolutely nothing to do with? </p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/48_2008/56b898467a414e0a_28-lauren-audrina-winstons.preview.jpg" alt="" title="" class="image preview" width="550" height="311"></span></p> <p>To get all the fashion from last night's episode, check out our new site, <a href="http://www.celebstyle.com/style/tv/The_Hills" target="_blank">CelebStyle</a>.</p> <p>Photo courtesy of <a href="http://www.mtv.com/" target="_blank">MTV</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2537267#comment Audrina Patridge Friendship Honesty lauren conrad rumors The Hills Truth Tue, 25 Nov 2008 11:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2537267 http://dearsugar.com/2515754 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/47_2008/d7131812cc8cb1df_sad.xlarger.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image xlarger" width="263" height="400"></span>Dear Sugar,</p> <p>My boyfriend of two years recently broke up with me. It was completely out of the blue and I still can't understand why he did it. He gave me 20 different contradicting reasons, but the main point is that he doesn't want to be with me anymore; and it hurts a lot. He had planned out the rest of our lives right down to when we'd get married, what church, when we'd have kids and what town we'd live in.</p> <p>We had been best friends for over two years before we got together but we always had this awesome connection. I was very excited when he asked me out, although I was concerned that I could lose his friendship if we ever broke up. I took the chance but now that we're done, he wants to go back to being just friends. I'm not sure if I'm able to do that. My friendship feelings for him are all wrapped up in the romantic ones. We are in the exact same circle of friends and they all think I should give it a try. Half the time I miss my best friend, but the other half hates him for breaking my heart. What should I do? — Crushed Cathy</p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2515754">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2515754#comment Breakup circle of friends Friendship heartbreak You Asked Thu, 20 Nov 2008 12:30:00 -0800 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2515754 http://dearsugar.com/2481738 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/46_2008/b797b05657d035ed_dearsug.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image xlarge" width="312" height="314"></span>Dear Sugar and Worried Wendy need your help. Her best friend has spiraled out of control and Wendy's concerned for her future. She wants her to be happy and healthy, but doesn't know what to do in order to help her get there. Do you have any advice to offer?</p> <p>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>One of my absolute best friends is a major train wreck. We are the typical yin and yang: I am the nice, have-it-all-together type with a stable family, and she is the tell-it-like-itis, free spirit from a broken home. Luckily this was an amazing recipe for our friendship, and I feel extremely lucky to have such an open-minded go-to girl in my life. Unfortunately, she makes awful decisions. I have always known this but recently it's worrying me to no end. She met a guy, and within two months she was moved in and pregnant. Sometime in the following two months, she had a miscarriage, moved out, and dumped the guy — she hasn't looked back since. This was mind-blowing to me, but I was supportive the entire way through. </p> <p>Due to our conflicting schedules, it's difficult for us to hang out as much as I'd like, but we never miss our daily calls to discuss life and everything going on with us. Last week, she called to tell me that she contracted an <a href="http://dearsugar.com/tags/STIs" >STI</a>. To me this should be a wake-up call, but since the cure was just a quick shot and a week of no sex, she is right back in the game again. She's already slept with two guys and is seeing multiple others. This behavior is incredibly destructive. She has no structure and not a care in the world. I absolutely love her as a friend and want her to succeed in life and flourish in relationships, but she clearly doesn't want the same things. Do you think this is a typical case of her being in her mid-20s? I don't know what I can do as a friend and what my boundaries are. Is there anything I can do?</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2481738#comment DearSugar Needs Your Help Friendship miscarriage Pregnancy Relationship sti Sat, 15 Nov 2008 09:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2481738 http://dearsugar.com/2474483 <p>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>I created a Facebook account sometime ago and came across an old friend. We had a tumultuous relationship and she often times didn't see anything wrong with calling me a friend without treating me like one. She was selfish and rude to me. She hurt me too many times so I ended the "friendship." I was devastated, but I realized neither she, nor her friends accepted me in the first place. She seemed hurt as well, but had other people she could rely on.</p> <p>It's been three years since our breakup and since my social life is currently in despair, I've been considering trying to rekindle a friendship with her. I'm nervous that I'm making a big mistake and I really need some advise on this. What do you think I should do? — Friendless Francis </p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/45_2008/bc741abb94131f72_friend.xxlarge.jpg" alt="" title="" class="outline image xxlarge" width="500" height="334"></span></p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2474483">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2474483#comment frenemy Friendship making new friends Relationships You Asked Mon, 10 Nov 2008 12:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2474483 http://dearsugar.com/2473898 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-2473898"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/2473898',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-2473898');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/45_2008/491db3b780ffd5e0_blonde.xlarger.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image xlarger" width="266" height="400"></span>A good friend of mine recently broke up with her live-in boyfriend of three years. Though it was her decision to end things, it was still a difficult choice to make; she still really cares about him. All her friends have been there for her and she's done a great job moving on. In an effort to put the past behind her, she wanted to make a change, so she committed the cardinal breakup sin of changing her look. She'd always had long, dark, beautiful chestnut hair and without consulting any of us, she went to the salon, cut it short, and dyed it blond!</p> <p>She invited me over to come see her new locks and I was speechless — she looked like a completely different person! I could tell that she loved it and I could see a new sense of confidence in her face, but I absolutely hated it. In my opinion, she looked 10 times better before. When she asked my "honest opinion," I gave it to her. I told her it wasn't my favorite look on her. She got incredibly upset, told me I was an unsupportive friend, and asked me to leave her house. Now I'm feeling horrible for hurting my friend's feelings, but I didn't know what to do; she asked me to be honest! I've called her, written her emails, and sent text messages apologizing, but she won't return any of my efforts. I know I should have just lied under the circumstances, but can I be forgiven for speaking the truth?</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/2473898" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>Sunday Confessional: I Told My Friend She Looked Bad</label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> Forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> Not forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> Undecided</label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="2473898" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/2473898#comment Breakup Friendship looks Lying Sunday Confessional Truth Sun, 09 Nov 2008 09:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2473898 http://dearsugar.com/2464899 <p>Audrina moved out of the house she shared with Lauren and Lo last night on <a href="http://dearsugar.com/tags/The+Hills" >The Hills</a>, and while her move should have been an exciting moment for her, it seemed a bit tainted with the looming decision of whether or not Justin Bobby was moving in with her. She seemed to have jumped the gun a bit and while her friends were obviously worried about her intentions and expectations with the move, only one of them spoke up! Sure, it's her life and the decision was already made, but ladies, tell me, if you thought your friend was making a bad decision, would you tell her?<br /> <span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/45_2008/dd6ccc5d1caed950_the-hills.jpg" alt="" title="" class="outline center image xlarger" width="400" height="223"></span></p> <p>Photo courtesy of <a href="http://www.mtv.com/" target="_blank">MTV</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2464899#comment Friendship moving in together The Hills Truth Tue, 04 Nov 2008 11:00:00 -0800 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2464899 http://dearsugar.com/2431770 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/44_2008/620a254903600ee0_upset.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image xlarge" width="313" height="313"></span>DearSugar and Betrayed Becky need your help. She was hurt by her ex <i>and</i> her best friend and she doesn't know what to do. She misses them both but is still devastated by their actions. Do you have any advice for her? </p> <p>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago, but we have been in contact ever since. I ended things with him because I never really trusted him. He's disappointed me multiple times throughout our one-and-a-half year relationship, and I just knew he wasn't the one for me in the long run. </p> <p>I couldn't bear to break up with him so I lied and said I didn't believe in marriage (it's his dream to get married), and that prompted <i>him</i> to break up with <i>me.</i> Despite all that, I still miss him and love him.</p> <p>However, recently I heard that my ex got together with my best friend the very day after we broke up! I was shocked — I felt betrayed, angry and used. When I confronted my ex about this, he denied it. But when I confronted my "best friend," she confirmed it. I sent various angry emails to my ex, one moment forgiving him, another scolding him. Now all we have is sourness and bitterness, but at times, I still think of him and sometimes I still miss her.</p> <p>How do I get over this betrayal and anger I feel? Is there any way I could rectify my friendship with my ex, or with my friend? And should I? — Betrayed Becky</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2431770#comment Betrayal DearSugar Needs Your Help Friendship Relationships Sat, 01 Nov 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2431770 http://dearsugar.com/2426959 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/44_2008/98db0f08c005c068_mean-girls.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image xlarger" width="275" height="362"></span>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>I am 21 years old and have had the same "best friends" for eight years. Since we started university, things have changed, though. I've made new friends and my old friends have not. I feel like I'm living my life at a different pace than them because they're hesitant to break away and meet new people.</p> <p>I've recently noticed that my old friends have been making plans on nights that they know I can't go out due to family obligations. I've also learned that on those nights out without me, they make other plans, again without telling me. To make things worse, one of the girls accidentally forwarded an email chain to me in which they were all talking about how much fun they had the night before, and I felt horrible that I wasn't even invited. </p> <p>Just last week one of my uncles passed away. I know for a fact that they heard the news, yet I did not receive a single phone call, text message, or email from any of them. This has been a really hard time for me and my family and it would have been nice to have my friends' support, yet no one was there for me. What should I do? Have our friendships simply run their course? Were they ignoring me out of spite? — Left Out Laurie </p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer, </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2426959">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2426959#comment Advice Friendship Relationships You Asked Tue, 28 Oct 2008 06:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2426959 http://dearsugar.com/2419183 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/43_2008/f4332c52df9351e0_kiss.xlarger.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image xlarger" width="266" height="400"></span>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>My boyfriend and I have been dating just shy of two years. He is a hugger, he hugs friends and family, and I have no problem with it, it's actually something I love about him, however what I <i>do not like</i> is that once he gets acquainted with my girlfriends, he kisses them on the lips! It makes me incredibly uncomfortable and I'm not sure what to do. Some of my friends don't allow this and will turn their heads so he kisses their check, which makes me feel even more awkward. I did at one time tell him this was not something I felt comfortable with and I hoped that would be that, but that was six months ago! What should I do? — He's Too Affectionate Amanda</p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer, </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2419183">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2419183#comment Friendship Kissing personality traits Relationships You Asked Mon, 27 Oct 2008 06:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2419183 http://dearsugar.com/2412169 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/43_2008/c6e37addb09212d1_Woman-Upset.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left image xxlarge" height="451" width="300"></span>Just because you know someone really well, doesn’t mean that they can’t surprise you from time to time — in fact, many would say a little mystery in a relationship is a good thing! But what happens when what they surprise you with isn’t so great? If what they do is a <a href="http://dearsugar.com/2376760" >disappointment</a>, or worse, a betrayal, I wonder if it’s possible to see the person in the same light again. Just as we can’t forget the good memories, it can be difficult to erase the bad ones too. So ladies, please share your experiences. Do tell: Have a friend’s actions or behavior ever made you suddenly think differently of them? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2412169#comment Disappointment Do Tell Friends Friendship Surprise Sat, 25 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2412169 http://dearsugar.com/2399749 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/43_2008/4f287141d85edfc9_breakup.xlarger.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image xlarger" width="266" height="400"></span>DearSugar and In a Pickle Patty need your help. She's fallen for her boyfriend's best friend and he's fallen for her too, but she doesn't know what to do. She needs some unbiased advice, so if you have any words of wisdom to share, do so in the comments below. </p> <p>Dear Sugar,<br /> I have become enveloped in a very uncomfortable love triangle, and I'm so confused about what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. When we met I was a sophomore in college and he was jobless, living on his best friend's couch. Something just told me there was a reason for meeting him, so I ignored his situation. Things have been bumpy during our entire relationship and we've gone on several "breaks". Basically, he and I are complete opposites; we were brought up completely differently (me in a loving home that stressed the importance of education, he in foster homes), we have completely different views on pretty much everything, and to be frank, he is a jerk 50 percent of the time. But I love him.</p> <p>Insert problem: His best friend. I didn't meet his best friend until almost a year into our relationship because he had been serving in Iraq. He and I hit it off <i>instantly</i> and became fast friends. I have felt a strong connection with him from the moment we met and I tried to just ignore it, but today he confessed his feelings for me too. He is handsome, sweet, caring, and hard-working. Sometimes I wonder if maybe the reason I met my boyfriend was so that I would meet his friend. I know that sounds awful but I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend and I don't want to hurt him, but I don't think he and I are meant to be. I would love an objective opinion on this situation. And for the record, nothing has happened yet. </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2399749#comment Dating DearSugar Needs Your Help Friendship Relationships Sat, 25 Oct 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2399749 http://dearsugar.com/2405885 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-2405885"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/2405885',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-2405885');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/43_2008/e26affc4151d9bcd_work.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image xlarge" width="313" height="235"></span>Job security isn't what it was a few months ago, and for some, even talking about work hits a major nerve. I'm not in the same industry as most of my girlfriends, but when I listen to the ones who are in the same field talk about their careers, you can cut the tension with a knife. It's almost like they're competing; everything from whose company is doing better to where their Christmas party will be this year. It's a scary time right now, so shouldn't we all be supporting one another instead of competing? </p> <p>So do you and your girlfriends have the same kind of competitiveness when it comes to talking shop? Or do you avoid talking about work at all costs for exactly this reason? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/2405885" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>Dear Poll: Are You Competitive About Your Career? </label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> My friends and I do compete about work, but it's all in good fun!</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> My friends and I talk about work, but not in a competitive way. </label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> We don't talk about work. When I'm off the clock, I want to enjoy my time with my friends. </label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="3" class="form-radio" /> Other — Please share. </label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="2405885" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/2405885#comment Career Co-Workers Competition Dear Poll Friendship Job rivalry Fri, 24 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2405885 http://dearsugar.com/2381280 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-2381280"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/2381280',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-2381280');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p>About two years ago, I entered a bleak time in my life and fell into a depression. Fortunately, I was able to make it through, and I feel much stronger today. However, at the time it was difficult to just leave the house, and I really distanced myself from many of my friends. In fact, one of my closest friends was going through her own struggles, dealing with a terrible breakup and the loss of a grandparent. More than once she called me crying and I failed to return the call, too lost in my sadness. <span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/42_2008/509b9c4a5e8a3bea_Woman-Thinking.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right image xlarge" height="315" width="315"></span></p> <p>In the midst of this, it was also her birthday and she begged me to come out with her. With much trepidation, I said yes, but when the day finally rolled around, I totally flaked. Needless to say, that was her last straw. She wrote me an email basically telling me that she was sorry I was unhappy but there was no excuse for my behavior. That email as well as some other incidents forced me to see things differently, and with the help of my therapist, I was able to start putting my life back together. Eight months ago I reconciled with my friend. I told her I was so regretful of the pain I caused her, and though it took some talking, we worked it out.</p> <p>But since then she's been very passive aggressive with me. She often won't call me back. And when I ask, she says, "Now you know how it feels." And she's always quick to remind me of how I hurt her, and even puts me down. She's such a good person, but she seems to have these bursts of anger towards me. I take full responsibility for what I did, and I was even willing to put up with this to some extent, but two years after the fact, it's getting old. I don't feel like this is warranted, but maybe I'm wrong. Do you think I deserve this? Or is it time for me to be forgiven? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/2381280" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>Sunday Confessional: I Hurt Her, But She Won&#039;t Let It Go</label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> Forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> Not forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> Undecided — Please share. </label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="2381280" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/2381280#comment apologies Depression Friends Friendship Hurtful Sunday Confessional Sun, 19 Oct 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2381280 http://dearsugar.com/2376760 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/42_2008/aeb539447f7572e9_Woman-Thinking.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right image xlarge" height="315" width="315"></span>In my book, there’s never a good excuse to cheat, but sadly I’ve had friends who’ve cheated, and they’ve always managed to come up with multiple excuses. Even if I can understand their rationale, I still want them to stop. It goes without saying that when I’ve been in the position of supporting a friend who’s cheating, it’s been extremely difficult for me. And yet, I also see it as a time when a friend needs me most, so I can’t just walk away. I support the person, not the action, I suppose. But is that wrong? If a friend is doing something as damaging as cheating, should we turn our backs on them until they turn around? Or should we support them since it’s not our responsibility to judge? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2376760#comment A Do or a Don't cheating Friends Friendship support Fri, 17 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2376760 http://dearsugar.com/2366029 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/42_2008/Gossip-Girl.xlarger.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left image xlarger" height="400" width="249"></span>Monday night's episode of <a href="http://buzzsugar.com/2364111" >Gossip Girl</a> was filled with the usual hijinks as best friends Serena and Blair found themselves competing for an opportunity to make it into Yale. But their particular method of competition involved consciously humiliating the other and trying to make each other look bad — not exactly friendly, to say the least. </p> <p>Admittedly, their drama was over the top in true <b>Gossip Girl</b> fashion, but still, the idea of sacrificing a friendship for a personal opportunity lingered with me. In fact, I <i>have</i> had friends make me look bad so they could look better, and though it showed me their true colors, it still felt awful. Have you ever been in a situation like this? Are there any circumstances for which you'd potentially sacrifice a friend?</p> <p>Photos courtesy of <a href="http://cwtv.com" target="_blank">The CW</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2366029#comment Competition Friends Friendship Gossip Girl Wed, 15 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2366029 http://dearsugar.com/2349281 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/42_2008/sad-man_0.xlarge.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image xlarge" width="320" height="255"></span>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>I have been broken up with my ex girlfriend for three months — we had been together for more than four years. After the breakup we talked occasionally and our friendship was pretty solid. She recently flew to another city for a job interview and we got into a fight. I had finally expressed my feelings to her for the first time so I had a lot of built up frustration. I did say things out of anger, but they were not insults, I simply told her that I felt she no longer took my needs into consideration. She became infuriated and told me she doesn't want to be friends anymore. I have called her multiple times asking her to listen to my explanation — that I was scared of losing her to a job faraway, but my attempts have been unsuccessful. I don't know how to keep the friendship together and although I am still in love with her, I am willing to just be friends so I don't lose her from my life altogether. I have told her that I will give her space, but I am scared that the space will make her forget about my great qualities and the good times we've had. Do you have any advice for how to keep the friendship together? — Holding on Henry</p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer, </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2349281">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2349281#comment Advice arguing fighting Friendship Love more than friends Relationships You Asked Tue, 14 Oct 2008 06:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2349281 http://dearsugar.com/2339285 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/41_2008/Woman-Concerned.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right image xlarge" height="310" width="310"></span>A friend you used to be really close to throughout high school and college recently reconnected with you after you'd both lost touch. You have nothing against this friend, but most of what made you friends in the first place doesn’t really exist anymore. </p> <p>You have little in common, but she still pushes your friendship. You've been accommodating so far, but only to be nice. At a recent outing she lets you know how grateful she is for your friendship since she doesn’t have anyone else outside of her fiance. Then she proceeds to ask you to be her maid of honor at her wedding in eight months. You can’t imagine saying no, but you really don’t want to say yes, so how do <i>you</i> handle this? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2339285#comment Friendship guilt Handle This maid of honor Wedding Mon, 13 Oct 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2339285 http://dearsugar.com/2329982 <p>When you've known someone a long time, it's inevitable that you'll experience bumps along the road, but with some friends, those growing pains are more frequent. With age comes maturity and a greater sense of awareness, and sometimes the things that didn't affect us before become serious issues in our present relationships. Friendships can either grow stronger or farther apart over time, so if you've ever struggled with an old friendship, do tell, what changed over the years and what obstacles did you both have to overcome to make your friendship work?<br /> <span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/41_2008/friendship_0.xxlarge.jpg" alt="" title="" class="outline image xxlarge" width="500" height="334"></span></p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2329982#comment Do Tell Friendship growing pains Relationships time Fri, 10 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2329982 http://dearsugar.com/2297873 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/41_2008/Woman-Worried.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left image xxlarge" height="451" width="300"></span>Though I’ve certainly been let in on some big secrets throughout the years, fortunately I’ve never been put into a position where I’ve been forced to lie on someone’s behalf, because honestly, I’m not sure I could do it. A white lie is one thing, but serious lies make me nervous. Still, I’m sure much of it depends on the person and the circumstance. What are your thoughts on this? Would you ever lie for someone you love? Or would even being asked to do so be a violation of your relationship? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2297873#comment A Do or a Don't Friendship Love Lying white lies Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2297873 http://dearsugar.com/2301142 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-2301142"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/2301142',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-2301142');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/41_2008/true_confession.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image xxlarge" width="366" height="466"></span><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl0/0/3362/10_2008/confess.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image right preview" height="45"></span>Weigh in and tell us if you forgive or not forgive this <a href="http://www.truemomconfessions.com/" target="_blank">True Confession</a>. <br><br> "I have some pretty strange friendships with the married men in my circle of friends. They tell me all about their affairs but I don't say anything to their wives. Am I as much at fault here?"</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> <p><br clear=all></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/2301142" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>True Confession — I Keep Their Secrets</label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> Forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> Not forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> Undecided</label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="2301142" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/2301142#comment cheating Friendship lies true confessional Trust Wed, 08 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2301142 http://dearsugar.com/2270825 <p>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>I'm really confused about my relationship with one of my male friends. He's gay, so there's nothing even remotely romantic about this dilemma. My problem is that I'm not sure whether or not he values my friendship as much as I value his. He's a photographer and we initially began hanging out when he asked me to model for a couple of his projects. He was so happy with my work that he ended up using me as his model in the vast majority of his projects after that. In working together, we became very good friends.<span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/41_2008/Confused-Woman.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left image preview" height="262" width="350"></span></p> <p>While we always have a good time together, he just doesn't seem to make any effort towards our friendship when it doesn't have to do with him telling me about the next project he has coming up. Now, I know the obvious answer at this point would be that he's just using me for his work, but it's a little more complicated than that. When we <i>do</i> hang out, he always tells me how much he values me as a friend. In fact, a few months ago he even suggested that we become roommates! He's always struck me as completely genuine when he says these things. </p> <p>We met up again recently, and I felt as though I was a burden the whole time. When I brought the roommate subject up again, he seemed completely disinterested. He does have a ridiculously large circle of friends so I can appreciate the fact that he has a lot of other things going on in his life, but I just wonder why I seem to get the cold shoulder sometimes. To be honest I'm getting a little fed up with it. What now? </p> <p>— Friend or No Norah</p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer, </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2270825">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2270825#comment Advice confused Friends Friendship Relationships You Asked Tue, 07 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2270825 http://dearsugar.com/2296480 <p>If you tuned into <a href="http://dearsugar.com/tags/the+hills" >The Hills</a> last night, you saw Heidi's sheepish attempt to make amends with Lauren. And even though Lauren has admitted to missing her ex BFF, it didn't seem like becoming friends again was high on her priority list, especially if Spencer remains in the picture. Since their relationship has been on the rocks — to say the least — for the past two years, Heidi got to fear that too much damage has been done to reconcile. Forgiveness is a personal choice and one that is often incredibly difficult, but tell me if you've been badly hurt by someone you once truly cared for. Is real forgiveness possible, or is the damage caused irreversible? </p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/41_2008/08-lauren-whitney-reading.preview.jpg" alt="" title="" class="outline image preview" width="550" height="311"></span></p> <p>Photo courtesy of <a href="http://www.mtv.com/" target="_blank">MTV</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2296480#comment forgiveness Friendship hurt feelings Relationships The Hills Tue, 07 Oct 2008 11:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2296480 http://dearsugar.com/2271832 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/41_2008/dog.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image preview" width="300" height="411"></span>There's nothing easy about a breakup, but when you own an animal together, things get even more complicated. The way one loves an animal is like nothing else — your pet is your most loyal friend, the one that brings you instant happiness, and your favorite cuddle buddy — so if your partner feels the same way about your four-legged friend, who gets custody? Of course sharing it is always an option, but the constant communication makes moving on that much harder, which is why one person usually ends up saying goodbye to their pet post-split. I've never owned an animal with anyone before, but what about you? Do tell, have you ever lost an animal in a breakup? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2271832#comment Breakup Friendship Loss Pet Tue, 07 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2271832 http://dearsugar.com/2272771 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/41_2008/jealous.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image preview" width="313" height="313"></span>Dear Sugar,</p> <p>My two best friends (guy and a girl) like each other, but I have really strong feelings against them being together. First off, my girl friend is a man eater. She dates a guy for a week and then when things get semi serious, she dumps him. If she does that to my guy friend, he will be crushed and I don't want to see him hurt. Secondly, I have a feeling that if they do start dating, I will be the third wheel and it could become awkward for me to hang out with them together, especially since she makes a habit of ditching me for her boyfriends. </p> <p>I told him how I feel but he freaked out on me and told me stay out of it. I don't know how to tell her not to hurt him or how to stop anything tragic from happening. Am I overreacting? I'm just worried about what the outcome could be. — Third Wheel Wendy</p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer, </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2272771">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2272771#comment Advice Dating Friendship Jealousy left out third wheel You Asked Tue, 07 Oct 2008 06:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2272771 http://dearsugar.com/2173287 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-2173287"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/2173287',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-2173287');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/40_2008/women-Worried.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right image preview" height="320" width="320"></span>Three years ago I met my boyfriend through my best friend's boyfriend, and the four of us have been a great group. But recently, they've been having some problems, so she and I have been logging in some girl time. A few weeks ago we went out for drinks and met some guys. They did their best to hit on us, and I politely shooed them away, but not before my friend started flirting with one. She had been drinking so I dragged her home and didn't think much of it. </p> <p>Last weekend we went out again and I was shocked when she told me that the guy she had been flirting with was coming to meet us. I was angry, and told her I resented her for putting me in that position. I stormed out of the bar, but decided I'd wait a few minutes outside to see if she followed. When she didn't, I went back in to tell her I was leaving, only to find her making out with him. I pleaded with her to come with me, but she wouldn't listen so left alone. </p> <p>The next day I talked to her and she claimed that she realized she had made a mistake, but needed time to sort things out before telling her boyfriend. But apparently the guys talked about how we got home at different times that night because my boyfriend confronted me, asking what happened. I knew that if I told him the truth he would feel obligated to tell his friend, so I told him that we got in a fight and she ended up hanging out with another girl friend of ours. It took some convincing, but he believed me. Now I feel completely awful. Even if it was to help my friend, I've never lied directly to my boyfriend before. If it all comes out, I know he'll be hurt. Do you think this is something I can be forgiven for? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a><br clear=all></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/2173287" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>Sunday Confessional: I Lied to My Boyfriend to Protect My Friend</label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> Forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> Not forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> Undecided</label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="2173287" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/2173287#comment Boyfriend Problems Friendship Honesty Lying Sunday Confessional Sun, 05 Oct 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2173287 http://dearsugar.com/2170223 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/40_2008/confused.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image preview" width="300" height="450"></span>DearSugar and Confused Casey need your help. She doesn't know if she should take her friendship to the next level with her best guy friend. All their buddies say they should, but she doesn't feel the spark. Is she overlooking something or is she just not into him? </p> <p>Dear Sugar,<br /> I call my best guy friend my quasi-boyfriend, because we have a very close relationship that is everything a romantic relationship should be, minus the physical stuff. We’ve been very close for about three years and though there have been flirty moments, we’ve never crossed the line. His buddies insist that I’m perfect for him and that we should be together, and my friends feel the same about him. They are also quite vocal about the issue and won’t let it go. Because they keep bringing it up, the issue is on both of our minds.</p> <p>Last weekend, he confessed to me that he wanted more than friendship when we first met and that he still thinks about being together, especially because of the prodding from our friends. He called it a “deliberate suppression of attraction” because he senses that I just want to be friends. He reassured me that we are friends first and however I choose to proceed is fine by him. I am confident that our friendship will remain intact no matter what.</p> <p>I have no doubt that we could have a very good romantic relationship if I chose to take it there, but I'm just not very attracted to him. He's a very good looking guy and regularly dates very attractive girls, but I just don’t feel a spark with him. I am very worried, however, that I’m overlooking something here. He’s smart, successful, fun, kind, and attractive; in other words, he's a total catch! What if I look back years from now and wonder why I didn’t take advantage of the situation?</p> <p>How do I figure this out and distinguish my emotions? Am I stuck in friendship mode and missing out on something great? Or should I take my apathy as a sign that we just aren’t romantically compatible? — Confused Casey</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2170223#comment Dating DearSugar Needs Your Help Friendship Relationships Unsure Sat, 04 Oct 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2170223 http://dearsugar.com/2150837 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/40_2008/Couple-Friends.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left image preview" height="228" width="350"></span>Doing just about anything with a group can be tricky. The more people, the more opinions and personalities are butting up against one another. And combining two groups together can upset any kind of balance that’s already been achieved, which is often the case when you try to combine your friends with your boyfriend’s. Even so, I think it’s worth a try, since establishing a group of mutual friends is completely convenient when it comes to socializing. What do you think? Do you mix your friends with his? Or are they both fairly separate? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2150837#comment Friends Friendship group of people Relationship Protocol Thu, 02 Oct 2008 15:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2150837 http://dearsugar.com/2078590 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-2078590"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/2078590',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-2078590');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/39_2008/flirting.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image preview" width="275" height="367"></span>Going out with friends and meeting new people is one of the <a href="http://dearsugar.com/2060553" >best parts of being single.</a> But when your <a href="http://dearsugar.com/1864723" >wing woman</a> has the same taste as you, complications are bound to arise. I'm lucky, my single friends and I couldn't have more opposite taste in men, but I've unfortunately witnessed the fallout of two bachelorettes pining over the same guy. Their claws came out and their friendship was never the same. So how do you and your single girlfriends fare in the dating game? Do you tend to have the same taste in men?</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a> <br clear=all></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/2078590" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>Dear Poll: Do You and Your Friends Have the Same Taste?</label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> Yes, unfortunately we do have the same taste in men, and it's caused some real problems. </label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> No, thank goodness. We have complete opposite taste. </label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> Sometimes we have the same taste, but we try not to let it get between us. </label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="3" class="form-radio" /> Other — please share below!</label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="2078590" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/2078590#comment Dating Dear Poll Friendship Singles Week Thu, 25 Sep 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2078590 http://dearsugar.com/2062104 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-2062104"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/2062104',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-2062104');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/39_2008/mani.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image preview" width="313" height="313"></span>When you're in a relationship, your significant other often becomes your best friend in addition to your lover, which makes doing things together a no-brainer. Many couples <a href="http://dearsugar.com/1099904" >work out</a>, run errands, and <a href="http://www.yumsugar.com/1885541" > cook together</a>, but then there are those girly things that most women only do with their friends — get mani pedis, go shopping, or spend the day at the spa. Though I've found this to be a rarity, I do know couples that do <i>it all</i> together, so what about you and your significant other? Is your man up for doing the girly things with you, too? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> <p><br clear=all></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/2062104" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>Relationship Protocol: Do You Do Girly Things With Your Significant Other? </label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> Yes! He secretly loves the girly stuff!</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> No. We do couply things together, but I save the girl stuff for my friends! </label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> Other — Please explain below. </label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="2062104" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/2062104#comment Friendship Relationship Protocol Relationships Shopping spa Tue, 23 Sep 2008 16:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2062104 http://dearsugar.com/2069460 <p>Last night's episode of <a href="http://dearsugar.com/tag/The+Hills" >The Hills</a> sure didn't disappoint in the drama department, but I'm still surprised that Audrina semi-befriending Heidi wasn't made into a bigger deal than it was. I think it's been an unspoken assumption that LC's friends had to pick a side in the Heidi-LC war, but Audrina didn't skip a beat when presented with the opportunity to be chummy again with Heidi. Though LC didn't have the reaction I thought she'd have, I can only assume that their reunion will cause quite a rift in their already rocky friendship. Of course, feeling like you have to pick one friend over another is a tough position to be in, but I have a feeling some of you can relate. So tell me, have you ever had to choose sides between arguing friends? </p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/39_2008/10-heidi-audrina-goa.preview.jpg" alt="" title="" class="image preview" width="550" height="308"></span></p> <p>Photo courtesy of <a href="http://www.mtv.com/" target="_blank">MTV</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2069460#comment Audrina Patridge Celebrity Friendship lauren conrad Relationships The Hills Tue, 23 Sep 2008 11:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2069460 http://dearsugar.com/2033367 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/38_2008/200362237-001.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right image preview" height="452" width="300"></span>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>A few years ago I fell for my very best friend. We began dating, and not a week later, a serious crisis occurred in my family and I told him I could not start a relationship under such circumstances. We went our separate ways, and he was very bitter towards me for a while. He immediately began dating a girl, wound up getting her pregnant, and now they are married. Although our friendship suffered serious blows, he will always be someone very dear to me. On occasion we've run into each other at parties, and it's like nothing changed, until a few months ago.</p> <p>One night we both had a number of cocktails in us and began discussing the unfortunate turn our relationship took. The conversation ended when he grabbed my face and kissed me. Since then, he has contacted me a few times online, asking to hang out. Generally I've ignored these messages, but now he is texting and calling more frequently, asking to just spend a little time with me and talk. I'm not sure how to handle this situation. Spending time alone with a married man with whom I have a past seems inappropriate. I've already caused him to cross the line once, and I refuse to be a part of such a thing again. </p> <p>All I can think about are his wife and her child, and how this would make me feel if I were in her shoes. Am I overthinking his request? If not, is there a way to handle this without causing any more damage to the memory of our friendship or his marriage?</p> <p>— Fraught Friendship Fima</p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer, </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2033367">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2033367#comment Advice cheating Friendship Marriage You Asked Mon, 22 Sep 2008 17:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2033367 http://dearsugar.com/2040185 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/38_2008/annoyed_0.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image preview" width="250" height="375"></span>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>I have been great friends with my boyfriend for 10 years now and we have been dating for three. Throughout that time, I've become close with many of his friends. I love them dearly and I respect the close relationships he has maintained throughout the years, and I know that they respect and love me as their own good friend now too. Unfortunately, from day one, I have never really taken to my boyfriend's best friend's now-wife. She was rude to me when we began dating and later explained that she just didn't like "outsiders" dating her best friend — but I'm not an outsider! We were friends for 10 years before we started to date! Of course knowing how much his friends mean to him, we laughed it off. As the years pass, I can't help but cringe when I find out she will be anywhere we are. And the sad thing is I absolutely adore her husband. He is sweet, kind, smart, and a ton of fun. In social settings, she is alienating, rude, loud, unkempt, and just a total nightmare to be around. </p> <p>I love all the other guys’ girlfriends, but this one makes my skin crawl and I can't take it anymore. What can I do to have a good time when we're all out? I hate having my evenings ruined because I have to listen to the loud, obnoxious things that she says. Any ideas? — Fed Up Phoebe </p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer, </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/2040185">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2040185#comment Advice annoying Friendship Relationships You Asked Mon, 22 Sep 2008 06:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2040185 http://dearsugar.com/2039639 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-2039639"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/2039639',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-2039639');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/38_2008/medfr00182.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right image preview" height="450" width="300"></span>A few weekends ago, I ditched out on my long-time friend to hang out with a guy that I have feelings for. My friend and I had been planning on going to the movies, and when I canceled she got upset with me. Since I so rarely flake out, I immediately became irritated with her, and we ended the phone call on a very negative note. We didn't hang out that night, and I ended up going over to my date's house. </p> <p>Much later in the night, when I was fooling around with my crush, I got a text message from my friend saying that she needed to talk to me. I ignored it out of anger. A few minutes later she called me, and again, I ignored it. Not giving it much thought, I put my phone on silent. I was annoyed, but I figured I'd call her in the morning and we could talk about stuff then. The next day when I checked my phone, I had multiple missed calls from my friends, desperately trying to get ahold of me. </p> <p>As it turns out, my friend decided to go to the movie alone and on the way home, she had been assaulted by some young guys. They took her jewelry and her wallet. Needless to say, she was shaken up, but luckily they didn't hurt her and fortunately, she had her phone in her back pocket so she was able to call for help. As it turned out, she was trying to get ahold of me to meet her at the police station. She eventually got another friend to come get her, but I wasn't there to help her when she needed me most. I feel beyond horrible. I've seen her since and tried to talk her, but things are strained; I'm not sure I should even try explaining myself. I'm so torn up. Is what I did to her and our friendship ever forgivable? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a> <br clear=all></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/2039639" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>Sunday Confessional: I Wasn&#039;t There When She Needed Me</label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> Forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> Not forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> Undecided</label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="2039639" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/2039639#comment Anger Friends Friendship Mistake Sunday Confessional Violence Sun, 21 Sep 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2039639 http://dearsugar.com/2039468 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/38_2008/80918NC1_HILLS_B-GR_19wtmk.xlarger.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image preview" width="264" height="400"></span>It looks like their strained relationship has finally come to a head — <a href="http://popsugar.com/2037715" >Audrina is moving out</a> of the house she shared with her <a href="http://popsugar.com/tag/The+Hills" >Hill's</a> costars LC and Lo. We've talked a lot about <a href="http://dearsugar.com/1909428" >whether it's a good idea to live with friends</a> and in this case, it clearly wasn't. Of course, many factors make or break any kind of living arrangement, but tell me, have you ever lived with a friend and had it go terribly wrong? Have you ever had a friendship be permanently strained because you were just lousy roommates? </p> <p><a href="http://www.bauergriffinonline.com" target="_blank">Bauer-Griffin Online</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2039468#comment Audrina Patridge Celebrity Friendship Living Together roommates The Hills Fri, 19 Sep 2008 11:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2039468 http://dearsugar.com/2032637 <p>I value my friends' opinions very much, and I <a href="http://dearsugar.com/1981069" >often turn to them when I’m feeling down</a>. But no matter how much I respect them as individuals, I have always tried to avoid the habit of comparing my love life to theirs. Not only do I not want admiration to lead to jealousy, but I also don’t want to find myself feeling smug about an issue they're dealing with. However, I’m sure some people use a comparison with their friends to get them motivated or avoid making a similar mistake. What about you? Where do you stand when it comes to making comparisons between your and your friends’ romantic lives? </p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/38_2008/200284437-001.jpg" alt="" title="" class="image preview" height="333" width="500"></span></p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2032637#comment differences Friends Friendship Where Do You Stand Fri, 19 Sep 2008 07:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2032637 http://dearsugar.com/2027878 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/38_2008/baby.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image preview" width="300" height="403"></span>Having a successful date is hard enough these days, so when you're ready to have kids but don't have a man in your life, it might be time to ask your best guy friend to father your baby. According to a <a href="http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/article4761173.ece" target="_blank">new study</a> in the London <b>Times</b>, more than half of the women surveyed — 56 percent to be exact — admitted to considering asking a male friend to be their baby's daddy if they couldn't find the right partner by a certain age. The survey also notes that two-thirds of women have concerns about their fertility, and surprisingly so do 26 percent of men. While having a baby is sure to be on many people's brains, both men and women in Britain are so concerned about it that they'd actually reconsider staying with their partner if they were unable to procreate. </p> <p>For many, the preferred way to start a family would be with someone you're in a committed, loving relationship with, but tell me ladies, would you ever consider asking a male friend to be the father of your baby if you were unlucky in love? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2027878#comment fertility Friendship Infertility News to Me Pregnancy starting a family Tue, 16 Sep 2008 11:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2027878 http://dearsugar.com/1993847 <p>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>It's been two weeks since my college friend, who became a co-worker, has been giving me the cold shoulder. I've asked her if anything was wrong or if I had offended her in some way but she just ignores me. I asked her to coffee, to lunch, and to go for a walk so we could talk, but she turns me down each time.<br /> <span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/37_2008/buck_0.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image preview" width="300" height="200"></span>I just found out through a girl at work why she's upset: she was offended when I made a comment about her buck teeth during lunch one day. I said, "I never noticed this before but you have buck teeth! It's cute! My sisters have them, too. It's like Kate Hudson." I didn't mean to hurt her feelings; she just went on with the conversation so I didn't know that I had. I've tried to apologize several times but as it turns out, she's been talking about me behind my back. What should I do? — At a Loss Annie</p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/1993847">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/1993847#comment Advice Friendship passive-aggressive upset You Asked Mon, 15 Sep 2008 17:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/1993847 http://dearsugar.com/2020063 <p>Like many of you, I saw <a href="http://buzzsugar.com/tag/The+Women" >The Women</a> this weekend. While I was pretty disappointed with the movie overall, the film did bring up some interesting topics. Without giving too much away, all the characters come together to support Mary, played by Meg Ryan, whose high profile husband of 13 years cheats on her. Though they are all on her side, Mary's best friend Sylvie ends up selling her story to the press in order to save her job. When the source of the story is revealed, already broken Mary tells Sylvie that <i>her</i> betrayal was far worse than that of her cheating husband's. The deception from both is no doubt heart-breaking, but the notion of a best friend's bad faith stinging more than that of a significant other's really got me thinking. As someone that values friendship like family, I can completely sympathize with Mary's pain but ladies, tell me, do you think the betrayal of a friend hurts more than the betrayal of a lover? </p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/38_2008/the-women.jpg" alt="" title="" class="outline center image preview" width="400" height="266"></span></p> <p><a href="http://www.imdbpro.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/2020063#comment Betrayal Celebrity cheating Friendship The Women Trust Mon, 15 Sep 2008 11:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/2020063 http://dearsugar.com/1970693 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/37_2008/frinds.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image preview" width="300" height="241"></span>The company you keep says a lot about the person you are, so whenever I meet a woman who doesn't have many friends, I am curious as to why. Like all relationships, friendship takes work, commitment, honesty, and trust, so why is it that this new potential friend is friendless? Is it because she prefers being independent or is it because she's a bad friend? Is it because she's selfish or she can't be trusted, or am I just jumping to conclusions? Tell me, where do you stand on befriending those without other established friendships? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/1970693#comment Friendship red flag Relationships Where Do You Stand Fri, 12 Sep 2008 12:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/1970693 http://dearsugar.com/1982678 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-1982678"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/1982678',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-1982678');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/37_2008/stk130394rke.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right image preview" height="315" width="315"></span>Every relationship needs some kind of intense romantic chemistry to get things going initially, but over time it’s natural for a mutual respect more akin to friendship to also develop. For many people, friendship is just what naturally comes about along the way, while others establish that bond before they even begin dating. What about your relationship? Were you friends first or did that come later on?</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/1982678" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>Dear Poll: Were You Friends First? </label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> We were friends first, that’s how we fell for each other.</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> We both had feelings for each other, but we developed a friendship before we started officially dating. </label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> The passion came first, and we became friends over time. </label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="3" class="form-radio" /> Other — I'll explain.</label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="1982678" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/1982678#comment Dating Dear Poll Friendship Relationships Fri, 12 Sep 2008 08:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/1982678 http://dearsugar.com/1969572 <p>Dear Sugar, </p> <p>I have been really close with one of my friends since we were about six years old because our parents are childhood friends, too. About five years ago I hooked her up with my best male friend, and they really hit it off. I also started dating someone and we all became a group of friends; we used to double date and do everything together. </p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/37_2008/skd254449sdc.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right image preview" height="312" width="312"></span>About a year and a half ago they broke up — he dumped her. It was a really nasty split, and she was left deeply hurt. Of course, me and my boyfriend were there for her and tried to make her feel better. At one point she got really mad at us because we were hanging out with him too. We tried to explain to her that we didn't want to take sides, but she didn't seem to care. She decided to stop talking to us. At the beginning of this year my significant other and I broke up, too, and a month later in a drunken stupor, I ended up having sex with my friend's ex (my closest male friend). </p> <p>It's been six months since that night and it actually developed into a beautiful relationship. But sometimes it's hard because in public places or in front of common friends, we have to pretend that we`re just good buddies; we can't let my ex or friend find out. Honestly, I don't really care about what they think but I'm afraid that her parents would get mad at my parents for what I've done. I really don't want to ruin my parents' friendship if this gets out. What can I do? We're sick of hiding it. </p> <p>— Hiding Hannah</p> <p>To see DearSugar's answer, </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/1969572">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/1969572#comment Advice Breakup Family Friendship Parents Relationship Issues Relationships You Asked Thu, 11 Sep 2008 17:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/1969572 http://dearsugar.com/1932937 <!-- no strip poll --><div id="epoll-view-1932937"></div><script type="text/javascript">new Ajax.Request('/epoll/view/1932937',{method:'get',onSuccess:function(transport){var epoll=$('epoll-view-1932937');epoll.update(transport.responseText);}});</script><noscript><p><p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/36_2008/skd229647sdc.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left image preview" height="459" width="300"></span>For the past year, my good friend has been going on and on about how she never meets guys and how she's doomed to be alone forever — she's only 26! She's a cute woman who's smart and successful, but she refuses to really put herself out there. Throughout numerous conversations, I've explained to her how to approach guys and talk to them — I'm single too — but she refuses to try and then just complains!</p> <p>On top of being depressed about her non-existent romantic life, she tends to be jealous of our other friends in relationships, or the single ones who are having dating success. I know the feeling of loneliness that comes from thinking everyone else is happy in love, but at this point it's hard for me to be sympathetic. Outside of these complaints she really is an amazing person, and a true friend, but I hit my limit. So out of desperation, a few weeks ago, I signed her up for a reputable online dating site without telling her. Her profile ended up getting a lot of interest. </p> <p>Pretending to be her, I started emailing with my top picks and narrowed it down to three guys who I thought would be great for her. Obviously they all wanted to meet up with her in person, so I had to tell her what I'd done. At that point, I figured she'd be so excited about the dates that she wouldn't be upset. Well, I was wrong; now she claims I'm not the good friend she thought I was and is ignoring my phone calls. I feel like she's completely overreacting, but our other friends are divided and it's creating a huge problem in our group. I really was just trying to make something happen for her, which she said she wanted. Shouldn't I be forgiven?</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> </p><!-- no strip poll --><form action="/1932937" method="post" id="epoll_view_voting"> <div><div class="poll"> <div class="vote-form"> <div class="choices"><div class="form-item"> <label>Sunday Confessional: I Made Her an Online Dating Profile, Without Permission</label> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="0" class="form-radio" /> Forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="1" class="form-radio" /> Not forgive?</label> </div> <div class="form-item"> <label class="option"><input type="radio" name="edit[choice]" value="2" class="form-radio" /> Undecided</label> </div> </div> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[nid]" id="edit-nid" value="1932937" /> <input type="submit" name="op" value="Vote" class="form-submit" /> </div><input type="hidden" name="edit[form_id]" id="edit-form_id" value="epoll_view_voting" /> </div> </div></form> <!-- no strip poll --></noscript><!-- no strip poll --> http://dearsugar.com/1932937#comment Dating Friends Friendship online dating Sunday Confessional Sun, 07 Sep 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/1932937 http://dearsugar.com/1909428 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/36_2008/stk130510rke.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left image preview" height="320" width="320"></span>Living with someone can give you an entirely new perspective, and unluckily it’s not always for the best. The close proximity created by a living space creates many opportunities for butting heads, and so I often hear people say that it’s better to live with someone you don’t know, rather than with a friend. It’s easy to lose a bad roommate but harder to lose a good friend. </p> <p>But I’ve never agreed. I think friends are the ideal roommates, as long as you’re aware that you’ll be facing their good along with their bad. But do you agree? Or do you think it's only a recipe for disaster? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/1909428#comment Friends Friendship living situation Roommate Where Do You Stand Fri, 05 Sep 2008 13:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/1909428 http://dearsugar.com/1696527 <p>I'm all for a little embellishing when it comes to chatting about what happens in the bedroom, but how do you feel about outright lying? Are there times when it's appropriate to fib about what guy you've done it with, how often you and your man have sex, or how good it is? Have you ever felt the need to lie to your friends in order to impress them? Of course lying about such a private matter won't really hurt anyone, but tell me, where do you stand when it comes to lying to your friends about your sex life? </p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/1/12981/36_2008/friends.jpg" alt="" title="" class="center image preview" height="337" width="479"></span></p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/1696527#comment Friendship Lying Sex sex life sex talk Where Do You Stand Fri, 05 Sep 2008 08:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/1696527 http://dearsugar.com/1909838 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/36_2008/fight1.jpg" alt="" title="" class="right outline image preview" width="313" height="313"></span>In the world of friendships, it's impossible to get along all the time. When conflict inevitably arises, it can sometimes be easier to run the other direction than deal with it head on. Of course, we all know that communicating is the better option, but when you're afraid of confrontation that can be easier said than done. I hate fighting with someone I care about just like anyone else, but I'm of the mindset that it's better to talk it out — no matter what the circumstances are — than to let an argument fester, possibly to the point of no return. Are you the same way? If not, tell me, where you stand when it comes to confrontation.</p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/1909838#comment Communication Conflict Friendship Where Do You Stand Thu, 04 Sep 2008 13:00:00 -0700 DearSugar http://dearsugar.com/1909838 http://dearsugar.com/1893958 <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/upl1/0/3362/35_2008/sting.jpg" alt="" title="" class="left outline image preview" width="338" height="506"></span><br><br>I have some overly generous friends, but I also have a few stingy friends — stingy with their time, their money, their food, you name it, they're stingy with it! While I understand the importance of keeping some things sacred, being stingy isn't the best attribute if you ask me. So do you have any stingy friends who take their selfishness to a whole other level? If so, how do you react to their behavior? </p> <p><a href="http://www.gettyimages.com" target="_blank">Source</a><br /> <br clear=all></p> http://dearsugar.com/1893958#comment Do Tell Friendship Money selfish stingy Mon, 01 Sep 2008 09:00:00 -0700 DearSugar