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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Had a Rivalry With Another Woman?

DearSugar — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 10:00:00 -0800

Blake Lively dispels the rivalry rumor between her and Leighton Meester in the December issue of W magazine. She blames the media for starting it, but it got me thinking about competitive and contentious relationships between women. It seems like many of us have had a frenemy at one point in our lives, but tell me, have you ever had a full-blown rivalry with someone before? Source

Dear Poll: Have You Ever Had a Rivalry With Another Woman?

Yes, I'm in one right now actually.

No, I've never experienced that kind of relationship before.

DearSugar Needs Your Help: My Sisters Are Unsupportive

DearSugar — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 09:00:00 -0700

DearSugar and Feeling Alone Faith need your help. She's planning her dream wedding, and her sisters are too jealous to support her. She's feeling terribly alone during this happy time in her life and doesn't know how to make things better. Do you have any tips for her?
Dear Sugar,

I'm having a destination wedding soon, and while I'm extremely excited, I'm also upset and let down. To make a long story short, I have two very jealous, very self-centered sisters. My one sister thinks that the sun rises and falls with her, and she is a self-proclaimed "princess." My other sister is jealous too and I've never trusted her.

I helped both of my sisters immensely during their wedding planning, but now that it's my turn, they can't be bothered. They've even decided not to come. Instead of supporting me, all they do is sit around and talk badly about me. Sometimes my mother calls and tells me the hurtful things they are saying and it breaks my heart. For the first time in my life I'm in a good relationship and am incredibly happy, but they are too begrudging to be a part of it. I am a single mom who has struggled my entire life up until meeting my fiance, and it seems like the better I do personally, the less family support I have.

I don't want their behavior to overshadow my special day, so how do I deal with my sisters who feel too threatened to come to my wedding? And, what type of relationship should I expect to have with them after the wedding? My friends say I should be happy they are not coming, but they are my family and I'm incredibly hurt. — Feeling Alone Faith

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Do Tell: What Do You Envy About Your Mate?

DearSugar — Thu, 15 Nov 2007 07:00:00 -0800

Does your boyfriend have amazing hair, does he always beat you at Trivial Pursuit or does he lose weight without even trying? If so, I would hate him too! Sometimes men just have it so much easier than women, so ladies, do tell, what qualities do you envy about your partner?

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Do Tell: What's the Most Spontaneous Thing You've Ever Done?

DearSugar — Thu, 18 Oct 2007 07:00:00 -0700

Are you the type of person that doesn't have to think twice before jetting off to Las Vegas on a whim or before taking an impromptu road trip with your boyfriend? I certainly am not! I'm a total planner but have always been envious of those who fly by the seats of their pants, so ladies, do tell, what's the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?

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Overcoming Jealousy

DearSugar — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 11:00:00 -0700

We've all been there. That angry, envious, kind of sad and resentful feeling that builds up inside us when we see our boyfriend talking to his gorgeous new neighbor. Or if a co-worker gets the promotion you should have gotten. Jealously is a horrible feeling, and it can turn us into mean and obnoxious people. Even though these feelings are normal and sometimes unavoidable, we can end up doing or saying something we regret later.

Being jealous is not an attractive personality trait, and it has a lot to do with our own insecurities about how confident we feel about ourselves, our abilities, or our relationships. Here are some tips on overcoming jealousy:

If you are feeling jealous, and it has to do with a friend or boyfriend giving someone else attention, talk to them about it. Many times people are unaware of how their actions make others feel, so being honest is always a safe road to travel.
Lack of trust may be causing you to have jealous feelings. If your boyfriend goes out without you and you're worried about other girls or that he may not make all the right decisions, your jealousy is only a symptom. Take those feelings as signs that it's time to get to the root of these fears.

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The How-To Lounge: Beating Summer Frizz

DearSugar — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 10:00:00 -0700

I love when women take a casual approach to summer looks, especially when it comes to their hair. Beach waves have made a huge come back, but with humidity and scorching temps comes frizz, especially if you have curly hair. To learn some tips on keeping your hair under control this summer season, click here to

Do Tell: What Makes You Envious?

DearSugar — Mon, 26 Feb 2007 06:30:00 -0800

According to our poll on the the seven deadly sins, 81 of you said envy was your weakness. So we got curious, ladies. What kinds of things do you covet? Do tell, what exactly makes you most envious?

For a more detailed look at envy and some interesting links, see Oscar Envy.

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Oscar Envy: Dealing With the Green-Eyed Monster

DearSugar — Sun, 25 Feb 2007 08:00:00 -0800

Since the first Academy Awards presentation in 1929, the list of those performers who have won an Oscar remains tiny compared with the long list of those nominees who didn't win or those who weren't even nominated for important performances. Of the twenty performers nominated this year, only Streep, Dench and Blanchett have won an Oscar. And 10 of the twenty nominees have been up before, including those 3 women.

Film is a notoriously ruthless and competitive field, and making it in Hollywood can be both a personal and professional gauntlet. Contacts, ambition, chops, looks and talent don't guarantee anything. Stars appear, endure, fade or flame out every day. Still, success in any field often demands intense effort fueled by passion, desire, ambition and competition. Despite many worthwhile accomplishments, it's still true that not everyone can or will achieve the success they dreamed of, which means disappointment and envy will be our companions at some point along the way.

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