
Dear Sugar,
I have been in a monogamous relationship for the past 10 years. We've had two children, but have never been married. The truth is that I don't get along very well with my partner, but simply manage because of the kids.

Dear Sugar,
My fiancé and I have been together for three years. I love him dearly, but he has ADHD. While his symptoms aren't severe enough to impact me (other than his occasional forgetfulness and constant pacing), I am worried about our future.

As we all know, not all marriages end happily ever after. But after you divorce and start dating again, factoring your kids into the equation is an extremely important step that needs to be carefully thought out. As we've seen in Hollywood, it can be done flawlessly (the Moore/Willis kids for example), but we've also seen the opposite: single parents who introduce their kids too soon, only to have the relationship fail (
Kate Hudson and Lance Armstrong, to name a few).

When you reach a certain age, it's only human to think more seriously about your future in relation to the dating game. If getting married and having kids is of interest to you, many women are of the mindset that time is of the essence. Sure, dating is fun, but if there's no real connection, is there a point of going through the motions with someone you don't inevitably see yourself with.

It seems like there is always a new excuse to treat yourself, and the new trend for expecting couples is to go on a baby-moon — you know, the last time to vacation with your honey before the baby comes. I'm all for living the good life and spending quality time to romance your special someone, but a baby-moon just seems like an excuse to go on an extravagant vacation. Though I'm not a mom myself, I do understand how a couples relationship, and life for that matter, completely changes after a baby.