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A Do or a Don't: Withholding Sex as Punishment

DearSugar — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:00:00 -0800

Sex is a powerful tool. It's an act that you have the right to exercise when you see fit. When you're in a relationship, though, sex becomes a special bond that connects you with your partner. Since relationships aren't always wine and roses, it's not uncommon for people to withhold sex as a form of punishment during an argument, but doesn't that create a power struggle in an otherwise healthy relationship? What do you all think: Is withholding sex as a form of punishment a do or a don't?Source

A Do or a Don't: Withholding Sex as Punishment

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A Do or a Don't: Sexy Texts

DearSugar — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Since texting is so common these days, it's definitely had an effect on dating. For some of my friends, flirting with their significant others via text during the day helps keep the romance alive at night! And sure, a couple of flirty texts here and there is one thing, but a steamy text session is another! I’ve actually had more than one person confess to me that they love getting frisky via text. Frankly, it seems a bit tricky to me — I guess you have to have a really good imagination! Have you engaged in naughty texts? Or is a text the last thing you think of as sexy?

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A Do or a Don't: Checking Out Your Lady Business

DearSugar — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 16:00:00 -0700

Last weekend I spent a giddy night with girlfriends just talking — you know the kind of night I’m talking about! In the midst of our conversation, one friend confessed that she’d never really seen her lady business before. Immediately, the other ladies launched into their own experiences on the matter. I couldn’t help but think of the Sex and the City episode where the girls try to convince Charlotte to check herself out in the mirror — even though she was incredibly uncomfortable, she went through with it!

Personally, I think the more knowledge you have about your body the better, but is grabbing a mirror over-the-top? Have you ever examined yourself down there? Or does the idea make you squirm?

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A Do or a Don't: Talking Sex With Male Friends

DearSugar — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Although people have varying opinions on whether or not guys and girls can really just be friends, I do think there’s something to be said for having the male perspective at your disposal. If you’re wondering why your male co-worker always asks you to lunch but never asks you out, your guy friend may be able to shed some light on a subject that your female friends wouldn’t. But would you take it one step further and describe to him a problem or question you have related to sex? Though a man’s viewpoint might be helpful, talking sex with an actual boyfriend can be tricky enough. So ladies, tell me, do you talk about sex with your male friends?

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A Do or a Don't: Jam-Packed Weekends

DearSugar — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 15:00:00 -0700

During the week it’s normal to start planning for a fun-filled weekend. And when the weekend finally arrives, it feels great to be busy and social, but by Sunday night, you can easily feel depleted. For those of us who need recuperation, sometimes mellow weekends are a far better choice, even if it means staying in on Friday night. So are you all about the mellow weekend? Or do you like your weekends to be as busy as possible?

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A Do or a Don't: Getting Emotional in Public

DearSugar — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Last night I went out to dinner with friends and we got seated next to a husband and wife who were clearly having an argument. They ate in silence and then halfway through their meal, she burst into tears. Though I know it's impolite to stare, we just couldn't help ourselves!

When you take your personal drama out in the public, one has to assume that people will not only eavesdrop, but feel slightly uncomfortable, too — an awkward situation for all! Sure, sometimes our emotions get the best of us, but is getting emotional in public — no matter what the circumstances — a do or a don't?

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A Do or a Don't: Supporting a Cheating Friend

DearSugar — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 07:00:00 -0700

In my book, there’s never a good excuse to cheat, but sadly I’ve had friends who’ve cheated, and they’ve always managed to come up with multiple excuses. Even if I can understand their rationale, I still want them to stop. It goes without saying that when I’ve been in the position of supporting a friend who’s cheating, it’s been extremely difficult for me. And yet, I also see it as a time when a friend needs me most, so I can’t just walk away. I support the person, not the action, I suppose. But is that wrong? If a friend is doing something as damaging as cheating, should we turn our backs on them until they turn around? Or should we support them since it’s not our responsibility to judge?

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A Do or a Don't: Rebound Dating

DearSugar — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

I’ve often heard it said that the best way to get over someone is to start dating someone new. And while I’m certainly not against that notion, I do believe that some real alone time for reflection and recuperation can be a lot better than a rebound guy. Even if it’s no big deal to you, often the person you’re rebounding with can end up feeling hurt when you’ve fully bounced back and are ready for other things (or people). So have you ever rebounded? If so, is this how you get over your breakups?

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A Do or a Don't: Lying For Someone You Love

DearSugar — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Though I’ve certainly been let in on some big secrets throughout the years, fortunately I’ve never been put into a position where I’ve been forced to lie on someone’s behalf, because honestly, I’m not sure I could do it. A white lie is one thing, but serious lies make me nervous. Still, I’m sure much of it depends on the person and the circumstance. What are your thoughts on this? Would you ever lie for someone you love? Or would even being asked to do so be a violation of your relationship?

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A Do or a Don't: Partying With Co-Workers

DearSugar — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:29:07 -0700

I love attending work parties. It's always fun to blow off steam with co-workers and see what they're like when they let their hair down. But I always watch myself as drinking too much in the presence of superiors could lead to quite an uncomfortable situation! Luckily, I haven't had to learn the hard way, but I've witnessed people that have and their embarrassment was overwhelming. Of course, no one aims to be a sloppy drunk, but as we all know, accidents happen. So what do you think about partying with your co-workers? Is it a do or a don't?

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A Do or a Don't: Going Into Detail

DearSugar — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 14:00:00 -0700

When I’m being told one of my friend’s dating escapades, I like all the details. Maybe I’m just nosy, but I'd want to make an informed opinion if I’m asked for it. Likewise, I’m apt to walk my friends step-by-step through a situation I've been through. That’s me — I’m all about the details. But not all my friends share my enthusiasm for sharing the specifics.

Recently when I asked a friend to tell me all the juicy details about her date, she reproached me and said, “I want to keep some things to myself.” Immediately, I apologized, because I knew exactly what she meant — butt out. Are there things you’d rather just gloss over when dishing to your friends? Or when it comes to reliving your personal drama, are you a detail-oriented woman like myself?

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A Do or a Don't: Confiding in Others About Body Insecurities

DearSugar — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 15:00:00 -0700

A friend recently confided in me about some issues she’s dealing with regarding her weight — something she's apparently been trying to manage for years. I was totally surprised by her admission; of course she has her least favorite spot, but she always comes off incredibly secure with her body. When I asked why she had never opened up to me about it before, she said that she was too embarrassed.

And it’s true, anything related to our bodies — emotional issues, health concerns, and sex — can be very hard to talk about, but sometimes revealing such a personal matter can help you feel like you’re not alone. Do you agree? If you’re prone to body issues, does voicing them make you feel better? Worse? Or do you tend to just keep them all to yourself?

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A Do or a Don't: Food in the Bedroom

DearSugar — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 08:00:00 -0700

The texture and taste of food is often a sensual experience on its own, so you can see how it could spice things up in the bedroom as well. I’m talking about sexy foods like strawberries, whipped cream, honey, and chocolate! But then again, food is also messy, sticky, and sometimes just downright dirty, which are the parts of sex most people like least. I’m torn on this one, so let me ask you this: Do you think using food as foreplay is sexy? Or is it one of those things that’s a whole lot better in theory than in practice?

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A Do or a Don't: Introduction of an Ex

DearSugar — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 15:00:00 -0700

While I definitely have a penchant for curiosity, I also know when to draw the line. And when it comes to a budding relationship, many things are best left in the past. It’s true that meeting a new love's ex love may satisfy my prying mind, but in the end it only leaves me wanting more or feeling inadequate. Do you agree? Or do you think getting some insight on an ex is actually a good thing? Have you had any telling experiences when introducing or being introduced to an ex?

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A Do or a Don't: Buying Yourself Jewelry

DearSugar — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 09:00:00 -0700

One of my closest friends is single. She does very well for herself and whenever she wants to treat herself to something nice, she buys herself a nice piece of jewelry. She's of the mindset that since she's single and has the means to do so herself, she shouldn't wait around for a man to buy things for her! Since I don't have a man to shower me with diamonds either, I'm OK with buying myself fun jewelry, but I've got to be honest with you, I'm willing to wait for the nice things to come from my future significant other. What about you? Do you think buying yourself nice jewelry is a do or a don't?

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A Do or a Don't: Period Pet Names

DearSugar — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 13:00:00 -0700

I’m a fan of slang terms (uh, lady business!), but there’s something that just bothers me when people use a slang term for their periods. I mean there's nothing cute about a period! I completely understand wanting to avoid using menstruation to describe what’s typically an unpleasant few days, but “period” is just so much less visual and more succinct than Aunt Flo, crimson wave, on the rag, or the monthly gift. So are you with me on this one? Does it bother you to hear these silly names? If not, how do you describe your period?

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A Do or a Don't: Talking It Out With Your Friends

DearSugar — Fri, 08 Aug 2008 11:00:00 -0700

Whenever a problem should arise in a relationship, communication is nearly always the best method to finding the solution, but is that true for friendships as well? Friendships aren’t meant to be a challenge, so it seems almost counterintuitive to assume that there will be issues you have to work through, but as we all know, stuff does come up even between the best of friends. So when it does, do you just take the hands-off approach and let things work out (or not) naturally? Or do you think it’s best to apply those communication skills to your friendships, too?

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Good Idea or Bad Idea: Working With Family

DearSugar — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 11:00:00 -0700

Since we all spend more time with our co-workers than our loved ones, it makes sense that some of you have a desire to work with your significant other, but what about working with a family member? In Hollywood, parents oftentimes double as their children's managers, but oftentimes it can backfire, (remember what happened with Macaulay Culkin?) resulting in a tainted work and personal relationship. Having a momager seemed to work for Usher for a few years until news of a split hit the wire back in May, 2007. No one knows the details surrounding their breakup, but it couldn't have been all that bad because he's rehired her as his manager!

I know my parents would only have my best interests at heart but even so, I'm not so sure it would be a good idea to mix business with family. What about you? Would working with your family members be a good idea or a bad idea?

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A Do or a Don't: Solo Vacation

DearSugar — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 14:00:00 -0700

I like alone time, but the idea of going on a vacation by myself, even for a weekend, kind of scares me. So when a friend recently told me that she was planning a solo trip to France, I thought she was kidding. Imagining someone traveling alone just for the sake of being alone seemed incomprehensible. As soon as she got back, I demanded to know every last detail of her adventure.

I won’t lie; I thought she would say that I was right, taking a trip without company is no fun at all. But instead, she loved it! She was on her own schedule, had plenty of time for introspection, and met some amazing people along the way. I’m not a convert of the solo vaca (yet), but are you? Does the notion strike you as eye-opening or just plain terrible? Or, are there any of you who have already done it?

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A Do or a Don't: Ultimatums

DearSugar — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 13:00:00 -0700

Giving an ultimatum is supposed to be a last-ditch effort in trying to change a particular situation. Most of the time this approach is only used in the most desperate times. However, even as a last resort, ultimatums can be very problematic. Not only can they completely backfire on the person giving it, but they also put the receiver in a very defensive position.

Needless to say, sometimes they don't work out as planned. If you’ve ever given an ultimatum, how did it turn out? If you haven’t, would you? Or do you think it can cause more problems than it’s worth?

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A Do or a Don't: Personalizing Your Cube

DearSugar — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 08:00:00 -0700

Since we spend most of our time at work, our cube or office space essentially becomes our home away from home. I've never gone so far as to put frames on my desk, but I definitely have my fair share of unique touches that makes my desk feel homey and familiar. On the flip side, some people don't even feel comfortable sharing their personal life with their co-workers so I'd assume personalizing their cube would be out of the question. What about you? Do you set up camp in order to make your workplace more pleasant or do you think adding personal touches is a don't since mixing business with pleasure can easily become too complicated?

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A Do or a Don't: Spreading the Word About a New Love Interest

DearSugar — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 15:00:00 -0700

When we meet someone new or find ourselves with that butterfly feeling, the natural inclination is to share the news with friends, family, and whoever else might listen. There’s so much pleasure in going over the details of a chance encounter or eye-opening date, but sometimes sharing too much too soon can lead to feelings of embarrassment and rejection if things don’t work out.

It’s fun to talk about a guy asking for your number, but it can be painful to later disclose that he never called. While I love to hear about my friends’ escapades no matter the outcome, I understand when they keep things under wraps until they get more serious. Does this ring true for you? Do you tend to spread the word about a new love interest? Or do you think it’s better to keep it quiet at first until you have an idea of how things will pan out?

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A Do or Don't: Visiting a Nude Beach With Your Honey

DearSugar — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 08:00:00 -0700

I am well aware that public nudity at beaches occurs, but I don't think any amount of coercion (or cosmos) could make me bare my business for all the world to see. It's not that I'm prude, I'm just private, and what's under my clothes is only for lucky lovers to see. If I shed my clothes for everyone in broad daylight, including the man I was with, well then our alone, naked time wouldn't seem as special. I guess I feel that nudity is for intimacy only — not a public affair.

So would you bare it all under the sun with your significant other? Do you think visiting a nude beach is exciting in a sexual way, or do you think it doesn't leave anything to the imagination?

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A Do or a Don't: Staying in Touch With a Friend's Ex

DearSugar — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 15:00:00 -0700

While I’m always open and friendly, I try not to buddy up to my friends’ significant others — I don’t want to overstep any boundaries or get too involved in someone else’s relationship. But over time, especially if it’s a long-term and serious relationship, it’s inevitable for a kinship to blossom between yourself and a friend’s significant other — you spend time together, swap stories, and end up at the same events.

But when a friend tells you that the relationship is over, suddenly a person you came to know, surprisingly well, is just gone. Admittedly, I’ve felt losses after my friend’s breakups, but from personal experience I’ve learned it’s best to avoid staying friends with a friend’s ex — it can lead to drama and the sensation of being stuck in the middle. It’s too complicated for me, but what have your own relationships taught you? Is keeping in touch with their ex worth it even if it could affect your friendship?

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A Do or a Don't: Taking a Date to Meet the Folks

DearSugar — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 12:00:00 -0700

Normally when we talk about meeting the parents, it’s thought of as a formal introduction of boyfriend to family. In other words, it’s a big step. But lately, I’ve noticed a somewhat blasé attitude about family intros. In fact, more and more people I know seem to be giving up the formality and presenting their parents with their newest date or even crush!

Certainly many rituals surrounding dating and family no longer exist, and I wonder if the conventional family meet and greet is the next to go. So ladies, tell me, is the unceremonious interaction between family and new boyfriends or even potential boyfriends a do or a don't? And if it's a do, is there ever such thing as “too soon”?

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A Do or Don't: Friends Setting You Up

DearSugar — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 12:00:00 -0700

If you ask a group of couples how they each met, “through a friend” is probably going to appear somewhere near the top of that list. And it makes sense since getting to know someone as a friend of a friend is far less nerve-wracking than just trying to make conversation at a bar or the gym.

But just because it’s more natural to interact with a friend's friend, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you want to let your friends test their matchmaking skills on you. There’s an unquestionable difference between a natural attraction growing into something more and a planned set-up, which even under the best of circumstances can be both awkward and forced. So ladies, has experience been good to you in this capacity? Or have set-ups by your friends made you learn the hard way that it's just not your style?

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A Do or a Don't: Marketing Yourself to Get a Date

DearSugar — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 11:00:00 -0700

Obviously the concept of marketing oneself is no new thing when it comes to a job promotion or career jump. But in the past few years, knowing how to market yourself has become, what some of my single friends would consider, a necessity in the dating world. Though I can see the need for some “marketing” when setting up an online dating profile — you need the right picture and a snazzy description — I’m completely torn on the real-world application of this dating method.

It does makes sense to consciously represent yourself as unique if you want to be noticed, but I'm not convinced searching for a significant other should be akin to finding a job. Then again, is it possible the very nature of dating is naturally a form of marketing? And if so, do you really think a girl should have to sell herself to the right guy? Ladies, do you think you market yourself in order to get a date?

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A Do or a Don't: Garter Belts

DearSugar — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:00:00 -0700

The garter-belt toss is a particular wedding tradition that though still in use, hasn’t stood the test of time quite like the bouquet toss and the white dress. I’ve never seen a garter-belt toss that didn’t somehow feel awkward or forced, but I imagine if it's done tastefully, it can be cute. I'm a traditional girl, but still, there’s something weird about watching the bride lift her skirt in front of her closest family and friends! But what do you think? Are garter belts classic or just plain crass?

To see all of our wedding coverage, check out IDoSugar.com.

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A Do or a Don't: Taking Relationship History into Account

DearSugar — Wed, 04 Jun 2008 09:00:00 -0700

Though it's nice to believe that when you meet someone new you’re each starting with a clean slate, the truth of the matter is, you’re both bringing your own mix of good and bad past encounters to the table. When it comes to love, a person can't help but approach things with her own experiences in mind.

Then again, if you find yourself falling for someone, it’s only natural to give him the benefit of the doubt even if his history might tell you to run for the hills. The line between what we know and what we feel is always a difficult one to balance and never without its risks. So ladies, what are your thoughts? When we’re interested in someone, should we always take relationship history into account? Or should the past stay in the past?

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A Do or a Don't: Apologzing Just to End the Conflict

DearSugar — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 16:00:00 -0700

Just as some of us have a tendency to rock the boat in order to add drama to our lives, others have a strong desire to avoid conflict at all costs. In fact, for many people it’s easier to apologize for something they didn’t do in order to end a dispute, rather than argue their own side.

While I don’t think this method of managing a conflict is always the better choice, it can certainly quell many unnecessary arguments. But unfortunately, it also avoids the necessary ones, too. Fighting may be unpleasant, but it's still a way to communicate grievances and avoid resentment. What are your thoughts? Is taking the blame for something you didn’t do worth it to avoid a pointless argument? Or is it better to battle it out?

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A Do or a Don't: Staying Friends Out of Habit

DearSugar — Thu, 29 May 2008 11:00:00 -0700

I’m sure most of us have friends that we’ve known forever, but it’s only natural for that friendship to change over the years. Time can make a bond stronger or turn the best of friends into total frienemies. And for some, the passing time just makes two people less compatible. There's no particular issue, but suddenly the reason you became friends in the first place no longer exists — you're friends just because you've always been friends.

Although I truly believe that there’s no such thing as having too many friends — as long as they’re not the kind that require a potential breakup — I’ve never been one to stay friends out of habit either. Do you have any friendships like this? Is staying friends out of habit worth it for the history you share or just a waste of energy?

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A Do or Don't: Playing Matchmaker

DearSugar — Tue, 20 May 2008 16:00:00 -0700

It's great to see our friends happy in the romance department, and of course, it doesn’t hurt if they’re dating someone we happen to like a lot. But even though it may seem like we know our friends better than they know themselves, playing matchmaker can be tricky business. No one wants to be the cause of horrific dating stories or worse, a broken heart.

In fact, sometimes the less involved you are in your friends’ love lives the better. But even knowing that, I’m still a sucker for trying to make a perfect match. What has your own experience taught you when it comes to playing matchmaker? Are you all about it, or do you leave love to cupid?

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A Do or a Don't: Penis Paraphernalia at Bachelorette Parties

DearSugar — Fri, 16 May 2008 12:00:59 -0700

There is no question that bachelorette parties are a ton of fun, but they have their cheesy moments too. Some women opt for a low-key girls getaway, but others go all out, dressing up the bride in a veil and adorning her in as much penis paraphernalia as they can get their hands on! Yes, it's kind of funny, but I'm not one for embarrassing prenuptial gear. What about you? Do you think penis paraphernalia at a bachelorette party is a do or a don't?Source

A Do or a Don't: Penis Paraphernalia at Bachelorette Parties

A Do — That's what bachelorette parties are for!

A Don't — I just think it's tacky and a bit crass.

Other — Please explain in the comments below.

A Do or a Don't: Phone Sex

DearSugar — Thu, 15 May 2008 16:00:00 -0700

I've never been one for phone sex — I honestly think I'd laugh the entire time, but for those couples stuck in a long-distance relationship, phone sex makes perfect sense! Since I'm a virgin in this department, let me ask all of you this question — is phone sex a do or a don't?Source

A Do or a Don't: Phone Sex

A Do — It's fun to spice things up every once in a while!

A Don't — I'm way too reserved for phone sex.

Other — Please explain in the comments below.

A Do or a Don't: Bridal Shower Games

DearSugar — Tue, 13 May 2008 14:00:00 -0700

Wedding showers are notorious for their getting-to-know-you games, like making a wedding dress out of toilet paper or seeing how few times you can say the word "wedding." Though in theory, games should be fun, sometimes they’re just not! I love the idea of doing something at the shower that both the young and old can participate in, but I think that the typical games can be a little blah if not flat-out cheesy. But ladies, what do you think? Are shower games a do or a don’t? To see all of our wedding coverage, check out IDoSugar.com.Source

A Do or a Don't: Bridal Shower Games

A Do — I actually really like shower games! They may be juvenile but they're fun!

A Don't — They're just a waste of time. I'd much rather get to know someone by talking with them, not playing a game.

Other — Please explain in the comments below.

A Do or a Don't: Complaining About One Friend to Another

DearSugar — Thu, 08 May 2008 09:00:00 -0700

Even if you're the most easygoing girl, your friends are bound to get on your nerves every once and a while. Though we all know blatantly ganging up on someone is just wrong, it’s only natural to want to get frustration off our chests by confiding in one friend about the other. Of course talking badly behind her back isn't nice, but sharing a grievance about a friend can help give you perspective and calm your frazzled nerves. So what do you think? Is complaining about one friend to another a do or a don’t?

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A Do or a Don't: Dressing Like Your Significant Other

DearSugar — Mon, 05 May 2008 15:00:00 -0700

I don't know about you, but I'm not a fan of the twin look. I understand that men and women can easily dress alike by mistake — jeans and a t-shirt are pretty androgynous, but even then it's a bit much. So despite the fact that George Clooney and Sarah Larson look equally good sporting matching leather jackets, tell me ladies, is dressing like your significant other a do or a don't?

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A Do or a Don't: Sharing a Bed With Your Girlfriends

DearSugar — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 13:00:00 -0700

In high school and even in college, I happily crawled right in bed with my friends when I was staying with them; in fact, I might know some of my closest friends’ sleeping habits better than their significant others. But as we’ve gotten older, sleeping in bed with a girlfriend has become less appealing, not to mention so many of us are already sharing our beds to begin with!

While I still think it's fun to have sleepovers from time to time, there are some people who feel strongly that being bed buddies with your BFF is a total don't. So ladies, is there a certain age when sleeping together is just inappropriate or weird? Weigh in and tell me your thoughts — is sharing a bed with your girlfriend a do or a don't?

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A Do or a Don't: Kissing on the Lips

DearSugar — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 13:00:00 -0700

I have a male friend that kisses on the lips every time he greets his friends. He is happily married with kids, so I know he does it out of pure friendship, but it makes me very uncomfortable each and every time. I'm all for kisses on the cheek, but when someone you're not intimate with leans in for a wet one on the lips, I have to say I squirm! Since I'm sure he's not the only one who practices this form of salutation, tell me, do you think kissing on the lips when saying hello or goodbye is a do or a don't?Source

A Do or a Don't: Kissing on the Lips

A Do — A platonic kiss on the lips doesn't bother me at all.

A Don't — I think kissing on the lips is just inappropriate unless you're dating.

I only kiss family members on the lips, not friends and especially not married friends!

Other — I'll tell you below in comments.

A Do or a Don't: Kissing on a First Date

DearSugar — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 16:00:00 -0800

Call me easy, but I think kissing on a first date is important — you can tell if you have any chemistry and get a feel for your partner's level of passion. With that said, I have friends that completely disagree with me — they feel a kiss should be saved for someone you really like, not shared with someone you went on a mediocre date with. So where do you stand? Is kissing on a first date a do or a don't in your eyes?Source

A Do or a Don't: Kissing on a First Date

A Do: If this kiss is bad, it's a tell-tale sign of what's to come, so I'd rather know sooner than later.

A Don't: I like to build the sexual tension and then kiss! It makes it so much better!

It totally depends on the person.

Other — Please share!

A Do or a Don't: Shacking on the First Date

DearSugar — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 13:00:00 -0800

When you first start dating someone, sometimes there aren't enough hours in the day to spend with the the one you're smitten with. So when the clock strikes 2 a.m., where are you to go? Even though 43 percent of you have never had a one night stand, let me ask you this: Is shacking on the first date, even if you don't go all the way, a do or a don't? Source

A Do or a Don't: Shacking on the First Date

A do: I love waking up with my crush next to me.

A don't: I just thinks it's inappropriate to spend the night when you aren't a couple yet.

I've done it before but don't make a habit of it.

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A Do or a Don't: Breastfeeding in Public

DearSugar — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 16:00:00 -0700

It's recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics that babies should be breastfed for the first year of their life. While most women don't end up completing the entire year, a lot of them at least give it the old college try. Some new moms say breastfeeding is more painful and tedious than giving birth while others feel it gives them the best opportunity to bond with their baby. Since not all public places, restaurants, stores, planes, etc. have private lactation rooms, women who are breastfeeding are stuck with no choice but to feed their hungry baby whatever and whenever is convenient. While some people don't mind seeing a woman breastfeed, others have a strong negative reaction to it, so what I want to know is, do you think it's a do or a don't to breastfeed in public? Source

A Do or a Don't: Breastfeeding in Public

A do: It's natural and beautiful - if you don't want to watch, don't look!

A don't: It's tacky and should be done in the privacy of your own home.

Other: Please share!

A Do or a Don't: Dressing like your Significant Other?

DearSugar — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 13:00:00 -0700

Do you ever see couples walking down the street dressed in his and her matching outfits? I went to lunch not that long ago with one of my best friends and her new boyfriend. They showed up at the restaurante wearing matching orange sweaters and blue jeans, looking like they just walked off the cover of a J.Crew catalog. I got a good chuckle out of it, and they did look pretty adorable, but what I want to know is, do you think it's a do or a don't to dress matchy matchy with your significant other? Source

A Do or a Don't: Dressing like your Significant Other?

A do: It's a term of endearment, I think it's sweet and if I could get my boyfriend to dress like me I would!

A don't: It's cheesy. Period.

I don't care either way to be honest.

Other: Please share!

A Do or a Don't: Primping in Public

DearSugar — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 13:00:00 -0700

Last night I was at a restaurant with some friends and a girl in our party whipped out her compact and started powdering her nose right there at the table!! While I am not one to reapply my make up throughout the day/night, I understand that some women are very particular about their appearance -- but at the dinner table?? I have my own opinion on this topic so what I want to know is, do you think it's a do or a don't to reapply your make up in public?Source

A Do or a Don't: Primping in Public

A Do: Who cares, what difference does it make where you touch up your make up?

A Don't: It's tacky and inappropriate -- don't be lazy, just go to the bathroom!

Other: Please share!