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Ask a Bad Boy: Are Hot Men Only Interested in Hot Women?

DearSugar — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 07:30:00 -0800

Steve Santagati, the author of The Manual, is back! To ask Steve questions of your own, simply submit them here or in the comments section below. Enjoy!

Dear Steve,

I'm no Ugly Betty, but I'm not a super model either, and I'm having a hard time meeting a man. It seems like the hot men I'm attracted to are only attracted to beautiful women — regardless of their personality — and I'm starting to feel incredibly discouraged. Whatever happened to a guy being interested in a woman for her charisma, her humor, or her intelligence? I'm trying hard not to lump all men into the same category, but not one has proven me wrong. Are men really that shallow? Are looks all that matter? — Frustrated Faith

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5 Tips For Being on Time

DearSugar — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 11:00:00 -0800

Being late happens from time to time, but if it's your norm, it can make other people feel that their time isn't respected or valued. Since perpetual lateness can be irritating for those waiting for you, I've come up with five tips on how to be more punctual.

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Have You Ever Dated a Guy Who Owns a Motorcycle?

DearSugar — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 15:00:00 -0800

There’s something about a guy who rides a motorcycle. He’s cool, spontaneous, fun — a rebel. Somebody your parents probably wouldn’t want you to date. That’s part of the reason some women are drawn to him so tell me . . .Source

Have You Ever Dated a Guy Who Owns a Motorcycle?

Yes I have, and I loved that about him.

Yes I have, but motorcycles aren't my thing.

No, but I've always wanted to.

No, and I'm not interested.

Love It or Leave It: The Little Pink Card

DearSugar — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 10:00:00 -0800

I just came across this handy dandy tool that could make life a whole lot easier for the men out there! It's called The Little Pink Card, and it's a one-stop place for women to jot down important dates (anniversary and birthday) and her likes (favorite flower, designer, store, candy, etc.) so the man in her life knows exactly what to buy her, and when. It's designed to fit right inside his wallet for easy access! So what do you think — do you love this pretty cheat-sheet, or would you leave it?

Dear Poll: Do You Admit When You're Wrong?

DearSugar — Mon, 17 Nov 2008 09:00:00 -0800

Even if you're not typically stubborn, sometimes admitting when you're wrong can be difficult. This becomes even harder if you were particularly adamant about being right — something I tend to do myself! When I'm wrong though, I'm wrong, and I usually have no problem saying so, but what about you? Do you have a hard time admitting when you're incorrect? Source

Dear Poll: Do You Admit When You're Wrong?

Yes, I loathe being wrong!

No. I'm with you Dear, if I'm wrong, then I'm wrong.

10 First Date Questions

DearSugar — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 07:30:00 -0800

First dates are typically meant for getting to know one another, but when our nerves get the best of us, it's easy to walk away from the night without really learning much about him at all. To prevent that from happening, I've come up with 10 first date questions that are sure to enlighten you on some of the important character traits you'll need to know later down the road — sometimes knowing how he takes his coffee is as important as whether or not he wants kids! Check out my questions below and please add your own in the comments below.

Are you a dog or cat person?
What's your favorite food?
What's your least favorite food?
Are you a night owl or a morning person?
Winter or Summer?

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Dear Poll: Does High Self-Esteem Equate Cockiness?

DearSugar — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 09:00:00 -0800

Last week I asked you to tell me if you have high self-esteem, and some of you that answered yes feel as though your confidence is easily confused with cockiness. I think that's a common misconception — that just because you're sure of yourself you're automatically arrogant or rude, when in fact, those two characteristics are completely different. So to all of you self-assured women out there, tell me, is your confidence often confused with cockiness? Source

Dear Poll: Does High Self-Esteem Equate Cockiness?

Yes, people often think I'm arrogant just because I'm confident.

No, I've never been accused of being cocky.

I don't have high self-esteem so this doesn't really apply to me.

Dear Poll: Do You Enjoy Being Naked?

DearSugar — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 14:30:00 -0800

Many women have a volatile relationship with their body. One day they love it and the next they hate it, which is why flaunting your birthday suit is not for everyone. Plus, if you're not used to being naked, when you are, it can make you feel incredibly vulnerable. But there are also those women who love just being in their own skin and nothing else. Which sounds more like you?Source

Dear Poll: Do You Enjoy Being Naked?

Yes — I love being naked!

I only like being naked if it’s in the heat of the moment.

No — I don’t feel comfortable when I’m totally nude.

Other — Please explain below.

Dear Poll: Do You Have High Self-Esteem?

DearSugar — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

According to Merriam-Webster, self-esteem is defined as “a confidence and satisfaction in oneself." That sums it up, but I think it’s so much more. Self-esteem is about defining yourself outside of other’s perceptions. It’s about recognizing that you’re an imperfect person and that that’s OK. People with high self-esteem naturally make those around them feel more comfortable and confident, while persons with low self-esteem can easily end up closing themselves off from others. I know we all grapple with insecurities — that’s just part of being human — but would you say that you have high self-esteem? Source

Dear Poll: Do You Have High Self-Esteem?

No — I wish I were more confident.

Yes — I'm proud to say that I do.

I'm not sure.

Other — Please share below.

You Asked: Am I Not Making Myself Available?

DearSugar — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,
I have never been a real commitment person. I have had a couple flings in the past year but nothing serious. I'm ready to open up to a more serious relationship and am actively looking, but I haven't found anything worthwhile so far. I have been told, repeatedly, that I am constantly putting up "single signals," which apparently keep others from approaching me. What are these and how can I stop them? — Playing the Field Phoebe

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