http://dearsugar.com/ Just ask. en http://dearsugar.com/884984 <p>Dear Sugar,</p> <p><span class="inline left"><img src="http://images.teamsugar.com/files/users/1/12981/51_2007/sad.jpg" alt="" title="" class="outline right image preview" height="450" width="300"></span>I stopped talking to my boyfriend for about a week and a half, because I felt like he had no consideration for my feelings. He is always too busy for me, and I don't feel like I am a priority in his life. We have been together for three years, and when I try to talk to him about this and tell him it doesn't make me feel loved, he says I'm crazy and he doesn't want to listen to it. I feel like relationships require work, and he thinks that they don't. </p> <p>A week has gone by with no talking except for fighting through emails. We finally talked last night, and he told me this is hard for him because he is still in love with me. He thinks we need to take a break for a couple months, so we don't fight, but says we should still have sex. He says he can't even think about being with someone else right now because he is so sexually addicted to me. I asked if he would go to counseling, but he said not right away, that we need this break. I'm confused. I know we've been fighting a lot but I don't see the purpose of being separated for months. Is he just trying to get out without hurting me more, or do you think he really wants this time to evaluate what he feels in his heart?</p> <p>He came over last night. He wanted to have sex but didn't know if it would<br /> be a good idea because he didn't want me to get sad. So I pretended it was just sex. Afterward he kept telling me he loved me over and over and wouldn't let me go. He kept hugging and kissing me, and told me he bought my daughter stuff for Christmas. I feel like if this is how it's going to be, I'm just going to try and live like we aren't getting back together. I'm not going to let him think I need him even though I told him I loved him back last night. I'm just going to be independent, finish school, go out with my friends, etc. I never thought it would come to this. Any advice?</p> <p>—Heartbroken and Confused</p> <p>To see Dear Sugar's answer </p> <p><a href="http://dearsugar.com/884984">read more</a></p> http://dearsugar.com/884984#comment break-up heartbroken Sex You Asked Fri, 28 Dec 2007 17:00:09 -0800 FitSugar http://dearsugar.com/884984