
Dear Sugar,
I have been with my boyfriend for about six years now, five of which have been spent living together. For the past year, we have been staying in different cities due to work, although we'll be getting married in a couple of months. He really loves me, and we have never had any problems regarding another woman previously; however, when I went to visit him recently, I found out he was lying to me about a girl.

If you tuned into
The Hills last night, you saw Heidi's sheepish attempt to make amends with Lauren. And even though Lauren has admitted to missing her ex BFF, it didn't seem like becoming friends again was high on her priority list, especially if Spencer remains in the picture. Since their relationship has been on the rocks — to say the least — for the past two years, Heidi got to fear that too much damage has been done to reconcile.

Dear Sugar,
I am a man looking for the advice of women since my male friends aren't sensitive enough to comprehend what I'm going through. I had been going out with this girl on and off for four and a half years. I truly loved her and she was my best friend.

I'm 29 years old and got out of a long-term relationship about eight months ago. My boyfriend and I had been together for three years and were planning on
moving in together and getting engaged within the year. We had a very happy relationship, and I believed we were very much in love.

A few years ago, I started a relationship with a very controlling and emotionally abusive man. Obviously this wasn't clear to me at the time, I just knew that I felt happy for the first time in what seemed like ages, and I truly believed that we were in love. My group of friends had immediate reservations about him — they saw something that I couldn't — and my feelings were hurt that they weren't being more supportive.

Forgiving someone is no small feat. Sometimes it takes real determination and sacrifice and other times, forgiveness just isn't in the cards. While I like to think everyone deserves a
second chance, sometimes that's easier said than done.
Atonement, one of the Best Picture nominees for the
2008 Oscars, is wrought with wrongdoings and drama. In this specific incident, a chain reaction of events actually seems to echo a universal problem that I'm sure we've all dealt with in one way or another — if a message that's never meant to be seen ends up in the wrong hands, trouble always arises. Check out the clip below, and then share your own experiences.

Dear Sugar,
A little over two years ago, when my father was in the hospital, my older sister and I had a horrible fight. Nasty words were exchanged and our argument even turned somewhat physical. I haven't seen or spoken to her since — she has always been a little on the hateful side.

No one is perfect despite how hard you try to be. Pushing the envelope and testing people's boundaries can be thrilling and dangerous at the same time, so ladies, even if you don't typically
confess all your sins, do tell, what is the biggest thing you have ever gotten away with so far? Don't worry, your secrets are safe with me!

I have a concern that's been really bothering me. I was going out with this guy for 3 years. He broke up with me about a month ago, and I was pretty heartbroken (obviously), and I still care for him deeply.