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What Celebrity Would You Want to Kiss at Midnight?

DearSugar — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 15:00:00 -0800

The holiday season usually goes hand-in-hand with big blockbuster movies, and this year, there's no shortage of eye candy on the silver screen! Since New Year's Eve is just one day away, I thought it'd be fun to play a little game of fantasy. If you could pick one of these leading men to kiss when the clock strikes midnight tomorrow night, which actor would you want to smooch as you ring in the New Year? Source

Relationship Protocol: Do You Know What His Number One Fantasy Is?

DearSugar — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 07:00:00 -0700

The great thing about a sexual fantasy is that it can be whatever we want it to be. The problem is that if a fantasy isn't in the realm of reality, it can be hard to act on, which is why many of our wild, crazy, whimsical, or just impossible ideas end up staying in the realm of make believe. And that's OK, but what I want to know is: Do you know what your man's number one fantasy is? And have you ever tried it to make it a reality?

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You Asked: He's Into S&M

DearSugar — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I'm usually OK with porn. I watch it myself and have watched it with former boyfriends however, my current boyfriend has always refused to let me watch his porn with him, and recently I learned why. The porn he watches is full of incredibly disturbing sado-masochistic porn, which I had no idea he was even slightly into. We've been together for almost two years! I'm definitely not into this kind of thing, and it makes me uncomfortable that he is. Can I approach him about this? And if so, what should I say? I don't want to ban him from porn that would be hypocritical, I'm just so shocked, and I feel like I need to know what about this turns him on.

— Doesn't Do Dominance Dee

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You Asked: I'm Fantasizing About My Ex

DearSugar — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I've been dating the most amazing guy for almost a year now. We are compatible on every level and our sex life is wonderful. Things are going so well that we plan to move in together at the end of the Summer and are considering marriage in the future. The only problem is I can't stop fantasizing about a guy I used to see off and on. He was out of the picture for a while but now he's back. He's not at all stable boyfriend material, but we have the most intense conversations.

I know intellectually that my boyfriend is "Mr. Right" and that this guy is "Mr. Wrong," but why do I feel so incredibly attracted to him when I see him? I am not a cheater — so that's not the issue. I just want to know why I feel this way and whether it's a sign that something isn't quite right between me and my current guy. Or am I just afraid of commitment?

— Hooked on Mr. Wrong Mandy

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Dear Poll: Have You Ever Fantasized About Someone Else?

DearSugar — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 13:00:00 -0700

It’s always been assumed that every once and a while, men fantasize about another woman while having sex. But for women, fantasizing about someone else often leads to feelings of guilt and relationship insecurity. However, truth be told, just as a small crush is perfectly normal, so is fantasizing about someone else while doing the deed. Taking it to an extreme is never good, but a casual appearance by Javier Bardem is fine by me! So ladies, tell me, have you ever fantasized about someone else while having sex with your significant other? Source

Dear Poll: Have You Ever Fantasized About Someone Else?

Yes

Other — Please share below

You Asked: How Do I Shake This Fantasy?

DearSugar — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

Ever since I was little girl, I've really been caught up in the idea of meeting a Prince Charming, having a great love story, and getting that storybook happy ending. Growing up I always had crushes, but I never had a real relationship. I figured that I just needed to mature in order to find my perfect love. I recently turned 20, and my best friend mentioned how I had never been in a relationship. Now all of sudden I'm completely terrified that I'm never going to meet anyone really special. I'm terrified of ending up alone, but at the same time I don't want to rush into a relationship that won't be perfect.

I know that I'm pretty picky. I have a certain idea of how my boyfriend should look, and when I meet a guy and he doesn't look like that, I immediately decide that he's not the right one. I also get turned off if a guy is interested in me. I don't know what it is, but I guess I just feel like I should fall for him first. I realize I'm relying too much on this childhood fantasy, but I don't know how to fix that. What can I do?

— Head in the Clouds Cameron

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What's Your Favorite Fantasy? The Results

DearSugar — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 16:00:00 -0700

The results are in, and I can't say that I'm too surprised that being dominated surpassed all the other choices with a whopping 53 percent victory. Though I must say that almost famous's fantasy, hot sex in Summer rain, certainly doesn't sound bad either! Perhaps we ladies are just more creative! To check out the ranking in Men's Health,

Dear Poll: What's Your Favorite Fantasy?

DearSugar — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 13:00:00 -0700

In the March issue, Men's Health shares the top five female sexual fantasies as determined by a pretty hefty poll of 10,000 people. According to the results, the top female fantasies are actually the same as the top male fantasies — how convenient! While I'm thrilled that the article helps men figure out how to please their partners, it's hard to believe that we share the same fantasies. Let's see if DearSugar readers match the stats. Vote below and tell me which one of these, if any, is your number one fantasy and I'll be back tomorrow to tell you how you measured up! Source

Dear Poll: What's Your Favorite Fantasy?

Creating a sex video.

Getting down in a public place.

Stimulating yourself, while he watches.

A threesome with another female.

Letting him dominate you.

Other — Please share!

Dear Poll: How Often Do You Think About Sex?

DearSugar — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 16:00:00 -0800

Though popular thought would like us to believe that only men think about sex throughout the day, I think there are some women out there, like DearSugar readers, who know differently. It's true, we have to think about sex all the time over here, but I wonder how many of us are truly lusting away in front of our computers or get the urge while running errands. Be honest ladies, how many times during the day do you actually think about engaging in a little nooky? Source

Dear Poll: How Often Do You Think About Sex?

Once or twice a day

Always at least a few times a day.

Off and on all day long.

Never

Other — Please share!

Relationship Fantasies

DearSugar — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 11:00:00 -0800

When it comes to sex, fantasies are nothing new. But what about relationship fantasies? While it's easy to guess that only single women are fantasizing about a larger than life or perfectly quaint relationship, I've found that many coupled women also spend a significant amount of time imagining completely nonsexual scenarios that either involve their own man under different circumstances or an entirely new person altogether. So what about you? Have you ever had a relationship fantasy?

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