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DearSugar Needs Your Help: My Sisters Are Unsupportive

DearSugar — Sat, 13 Sep 2008 09:00:00 -0700

DearSugar and Feeling Alone Faith need your help. She's planning her dream wedding, and her sisters are too jealous to support her. She's feeling terribly alone during this happy time in her life and doesn't know how to make things better. Do you have any tips for her?
Dear Sugar,

I'm having a destination wedding soon, and while I'm extremely excited, I'm also upset and let down. To make a long story short, I have two very jealous, very self-centered sisters. My one sister thinks that the sun rises and falls with her, and she is a self-proclaimed "princess." My other sister is jealous too and I've never trusted her.

I helped both of my sisters immensely during their wedding planning, but now that it's my turn, they can't be bothered. They've even decided not to come. Instead of supporting me, all they do is sit around and talk badly about me. Sometimes my mother calls and tells me the hurtful things they are saying and it breaks my heart. For the first time in my life I'm in a good relationship and am incredibly happy, but they are too begrudging to be a part of it. I am a single mom who has struggled my entire life up until meeting my fiance, and it seems like the better I do personally, the less family support I have.

I don't want their behavior to overshadow my special day, so how do I deal with my sisters who feel too threatened to come to my wedding? And, what type of relationship should I expect to have with them after the wedding? My friends say I should be happy they are not coming, but they are my family and I'm incredibly hurt. — Feeling Alone Faith

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Dear Sugar Needs Your Help: Do We Have to Go to This Destination Wedding?

DearSugar — Sat, 13 Oct 2007 09:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar and Not Into it Isabelle need your help. Is she obligated to go to this outrageously expensive destination wedding?

Dear Sugar,

Recently my fiancé got in touch with a childhood friend. In the three and a half years I've known him, I never once heard him mention this guy. Well it turns out this friend is getting married in a year, three weeks after us. It's a destination wedding to Jamaica, and it will probably be at least $2,500 for the both of us!

I'm all for weddings, but I feel really awkward about going to this one, for many reasons. I've never met the guy so how close can they be? Also, this wedding is going to be really small and intimate, so I would feel really uncomfortable sharing this special day when I've never even met any of these people. Plus we're taking two weeks off for our wedding and honeymoon, so how can I take another week off three weeks later? We're also trying to save for a house, and $2,500 is a lot of money to spend for a couple I don't even know!

What do you think? Should I quit being such a stick in the mud and agree to go and make a vacation out of it? Or should I put my foot down and tell my fiancé that it's just not in our budget?

—Not Into it Isabelle

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Fab Finding Follow-Up: Destination Wedding

FabSugar — Thu, 12 Oct 2006 07:20:21 -0700

On Wednesday, I challenged all you Fab Finders to put together an ensemble for a destination wedding, which is a great excuse to wear a summery dress in the middle of Fall. I started things off with this Nicole Miller Keyhole Print Silk Dress, available for $385 here, then asked you to go Fab Finding for two sets of accessories: one set with a summery look and another for autumn. (To learn what a Fab Find is and how to make one, click here.)

I really love the ensembles you came up with, which included lots of strappy sandals, wrap cardigans, and dangly earrings; AtlantaNoleGirl gets extra points for actually finding some aptly named Mexican Wedding Earrings, available for $42 here. Now, onto the great Summer and Fall looks!

Look #1 by AudreyStar, who used a different summer dress with a brown and peach palette that works great for Fall. She also included sunglasses for stealthily staring at the best man.

To see the rest,

Come Fab Finding With Me: A Destination Wedding

FabSugar — Mon, 09 Oct 2006 11:55:14 -0700

More and more couples are hosting destination weddings in the Fall and Winter, which are a great excuse to wear a summery dress smack dab in the middle of Fall. But if you get a dress that's too tropical-looking, you won't get to wear it again for a whole year.

I recommend buying a versatile dress that will look summery with strappy sandals but that could also be worn in the Winter when paired with the right accessories. One example: this Nicole Miller Keyhole Print Silk Dress, available for $385.00 here. Now, let's all go Fab Finding for two sets of accessories: one set with a summery look and another that will be warm enough for autumn. To learn what a Fab Find is and how to make one, click here. To see some of my favorite online stores,