
Last night we saw history being made. Regardless of the way you voted, a great change has been made to our country. I know
most of you were feeling anxious before the votes were counted yesterday, and since emotions are no doubt still running high, tell me, is your mind a little bit more at ease now that the election is over?

As far as sharing
relationship histories with each other, I tend to believe that some things are better left unsaid. But just because you're not saying it, doesn't mean you're not thinking it. Considering your past relationships in contrast to your current situation can actually help to illuminate the good things you have now or the ways you've changed.

I often hear people refer to “hitting rock bottom” as the impetus they needed to pull themselves back up to the top again. But since we all come from different backgrounds and deal with our own set of struggles, the notion of rock bottom differs for everyone. And even though being in that dark place is never fun, often the changes that come out of it help shape the direction of life for the better.

Dear Sugar,
A friend and I have been talking about moving to New York together after we finish college next May. We haven't discussed anything solid, but we both think it's a good idea to live there because of the areas we're specializing in, plus, it's my absolute dream city!
My problem is that I'm currently in a relationship with a great guy, and have been for about a year and a half.

If you've ever gone through a bad breakup, and I'm sure most of you have, then you know change is sometimes the best cure. Since packing your bags and running away from your problems isn't always possible or practical, a quick fix will usually do the trick. And a change that isn't too brash but will make a difference is, of course, getting a haircut!

No matter how
easy-going you might be, everyone can
lose their temper from time to time. But if you happen to be impatient, well, then biting your tongue or not getting flustered can be very tricky. For that reason I’ve come up with a few ideas to work on increasing your patience.

Dear Sugar,
For some time now, my instincts have been telling me to break up with my boyfriend of one year. For the most part I've been happy, but a couple of months ago it seemed like something changed. And while I'm not sure if he's become different, or if I'm just not willing to tolerate certain things anymore — he can be very harsh and unkind — I know that something in my gut is telling me it's time to get away.

Through the course of our lives, it’s amazing how many times our relationships with our dads will change. And somewhere along the way they can become anywhere from the person we trust most to the person we get along with least. It’s a rough road — what relationship doesn't come with its challenges?

Dear Sugar,
I've been stuck in a rut for years, possibly since I was a preteen. I grew up with a very challenging home life, and spent the majority of my years longing for a guy to come along, fall in love with me, and save me. I met a guy in tenth grade who did just that.

When you and your fiancé first started getting serious, you were both sure that you didn’t want children. Now, after seeing all of your
friends have babies, you can't help but feel differently. In fact, at this point, you can’t imagine not having children but unfortunately, your fiancé hasn’t had the same change of heart.