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A Do or a Don't: Getting Emotional in Public

DearSugar — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 17:00:00 -0700

Last night I went out to dinner with friends and we got seated next to a husband and wife who were clearly having an argument. They ate in silence and then halfway through their meal, she burst into tears. Though I know it's impolite to stare, we just couldn't help ourselves!

When you take your personal drama out in the public, one has to assume that people will not only eavesdrop, but feel slightly uncomfortable, too — an awkward situation for all! Sure, sometimes our emotions get the best of us, but is getting emotional in public — no matter what the circumstances — a do or a don't?

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Do You Have a Contentious Relationship With Anyone in Your Family?

DearSugar — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 11:00:00 -0700

It's no secret that Spencer and his younger sister Stephanie don't get alone, but it seems like he constantly goes out of his way to be mean to her. If he's not reminding her how much he dislikes her then he's making her look foolish in front of her friends, and last night's episode of The Hills proved just that. As we all know, families can be complicated, so tell us, have you ever had an contentious relationship, like Stephanie so clearly does, with anyone in your family?

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You Asked: Did I Destroy Our Friendship?

DearSugar — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I have been broken up with my ex girlfriend for three months — we had been together for more than four years. After the breakup we talked occasionally and our friendship was pretty solid. She recently flew to another city for a job interview and we got into a fight. I had finally expressed my feelings to her for the first time so I had a lot of built up frustration. I did say things out of anger, but they were not insults, I simply told her that I felt she no longer took my needs into consideration. She became infuriated and told me she doesn't want to be friends anymore. I have called her multiple times asking her to listen to my explanation — that I was scared of losing her to a job faraway, but my attempts have been unsuccessful. I don't know how to keep the friendship together and although I am still in love with her, I am willing to just be friends so I don't lose her from my life altogether. I have told her that I will give her space, but I am scared that the space will make her forget about my great qualities and the good times we've had. Do you have any advice for how to keep the friendship together? — Holding on Henry

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Relationship Protocol: What Are Your Re-Occurring Arguments?

DearSugar — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 16:00:00 -0700

Whether he starts them more than you, or you rock the boat more than he, fights between couples are relatively normal. And while some couples steer clear of those touchy subjects, there are some issues that are not easily avoidable, thus becoming regular bones of contention. So do you have any re-occurring fights in your relationship? If so, what causes them?

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The How-To Lounge: Agreeing to Disagree

DearSugar — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 09:00:00 -0700

Even if you’re about as easy-going as they get, disagreements among friends, family, co-workers, or significant others are inevitable. Often, through numerous conversations and a lot of back and forth, a mutual consensus can be reached, but sometimes there’s no end in sight. But before you throw in the towel completely, I have a few tips for learning how to agree to disagree. To see them just

You Asked: Why Do We Keep Fighting?

DearSugar — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. After much thought and discussion, we decided to move in together. The first month things seemed to be going very well. We had to make obvious adjustments to each other's lifestyles, but all in all, we seemed to be managing things well. Recently, however, we have been bickering about a lot of little insignificant things and we both don't understand why these arguments never arose before. It's very frustrating. We spent two years in a long distance relationship and now that we are finally together, we are at each other's throats! Is this something that I should be concerned about, or is this just another step in the relationship that is going to take time? — Cohabiting Casandra

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Relationship Protocol: Competition

DearSugar — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 12:00:00 -0700

I don’t consider myself a competitive person, but I can get pretty feisty during a round of Guitar Hero or a game of Scrabble. There’s nothing wrong with a little competition in a friendly game, but what about when it comes to a relationship? I’ve always kept my tiny competitive edge away from my significant other, but I’ve seen some couples duke it out over Monopoly or worse, their roles at work. Maybe it has more to do with the urge to get out a little tension than an actual desire to win, but what do you think? Have you seen this in other couples? Do you and your man ever go head to head?

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You Asked: I Can't Control My Jealousy

DearSugar — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 06:00:00 -0700

Dear Sugar,

I am in a relationship with a wonderful guy and the only problem we have is me — I cannot control my jealousy. I take every look or stare he gives another woman as a demerit to myself, leaving me wondering why I'm not good enough. I know a look is just a look, but I can't help but take it personally. I end up silently holding a grudge until he makes me upset about something unrelated, then I bring it up again. I know I am being stupid and ridiculous, not to mention causing problems in my relationship, but I don't know how to be all right with it. He used to be the one in my shoes, driving me crazy and getting mad over the smallest glance that I'd give to someone else, yet he doesn't seem to understand how I feel. Please tell me how to pull myself together. — Overprotective Onnalee

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Handle This: Their Marriage Falls Apart in Front of You

DearSugar — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 15:00:00 -0700

At dinner with a friend, your own conversation quickly turns to that of the older couple seated at the table next to yours when you overhear them in the midst of a serious argument. Though you try to mind your own business, it’s impossible not to get caught up in the throws of their fight.

Before you know it, the husband is proceeding to berate his wife, and divorce and previous infidelities are mentioned. They're not loud, but their whispers are like daggers slicing through the tension. You feel bad for them, but they’re ruining your meal. How would you handle this?

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Did You Fight With Your Husband on Your Honeymoon?

DearSugar — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 14:00:00 -0700

After the big day is over, I can only imagine how exhausted the bride and groom must be, and I know when I'm tired, I get cranky and easily irritated. Sure, honeymoons are all about celebrating each other and relaxing after the mayhem of planning a wedding, but being a newlywed doesn't automatically make you immune to arguments. A week in a remote destination can be a lot to handle so ladies, knowing you're only human, tell me, did you and your hubby argue on your honeymoon?

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