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A Do or a Don't: Withholding Sex as Punishment

DearSugar — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:00:00 -0800

Sex is a powerful tool. It's an act that you have the right to exercise when you see fit. When you're in a relationship, though, sex becomes a special bond that connects you with your partner. Since relationships aren't always wine and roses, it's not uncommon for people to withhold sex as a form of punishment during an argument, but doesn't that create a power struggle in an otherwise healthy relationship? What do you all think: Is withholding sex as a form of punishment a do or a don't?Source

A Do or a Don't: Withholding Sex as Punishment

A do

A don't

Work-Sex Balance: Putting Japan in the Mood to Procreate

CitizenSugar — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 11:30:13 -0800

With one of the world's lowest birth rates, it's not the first time the Japanese government has tried to get in bed with the people. In the '90s, a government-organized dating program failed to produce results — and, yes, by results I mean babies. But now it's turning to the already-married business class, hoping they'll have more children if employers ensure they're home in time for sex.

A new survey shows that the average couple in Japan has sex 45 times per year. That's less than half the global average of 103 times. Why so low? To find out,

Vasectomies: Good Form of Birth Control?

DearSugar — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 10:00:00 -0800

Women have many birth control options ranging from The Pill to the IUCs, but men can only rely on condoms to prevent pregnancy. There is another more invasive option though — a vasectomy. Although this seems like a procedure for older men, it turns out that more and more young men are opting for this minor surgery. The procedure is short, can be done in a doctor's office with local anesthesia, and the guy can usually go back to work within a day or two. Young men are into this as a form of contraception because they've heard it can be reversed. So is it a good form of birth control? To find out

Tip No. 1 For Avoiding a Holiday Sex Slump

DearSugar — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 07:30:00 -0800

I'm so excited to tell you that intimacy expert, author and founder of PureRomance.com, Patty Brisben, is joining forces with DearSugar to help us keep the fire burning in our relationships throughout one of the most stressful times of year — the holidays! Patty will be offering one tip daily for the next two weeks so we can learn how to avoid a sex slump of our own and master how to bring the romance back after the holiday stress is behind you.

Check out Patty's first tip below:

As we all know, different types of food have an effect on the libido; this is something especially important to watch over the holidays when many of us over-eat. People tend to be emotional eaters and the holidays are without a doubt an emotional time; better to stock your shelves with some healthy snacks to choose from! Try healthy foods that boost your libido like bananas, celery, avocado, asparagus, basil, figs, pumpkin seeds and garlic.

To learn more about Patty, click here and to visit PureRomance.com, click here.

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Lil's Favorite Five: Ways to Bring Sexy Back

lilsugar — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 06:00:00 -0800

Sex may not be the first thing on a new mom's mind, but it certainly isn't the last. A whopping 19 percent of lilsugar mothers said they had sex before they were even six weeks postpartum. And most hot mamas weren't far behind, so I've rounded up a few of our favorite ways to bring sexy back for the women with children who still need a nudge. Check out the options in our slideshow.

How Soon After Baby Did You Resume Sex?

lilsugar — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 14:00:42 -0800

Sex is the last thing on a mom's mind after giving birth, but the subject is sure to come up. Most doctors suggest waiting until after the six-week postpartum appointment to ensure that the cervix is completely closed and the uterus has returned to its pre-baby size. Did you follow the doctor's orders, or did you get busy sooner?Source

How Soon After Baby Did You Resume Sex?

Prior to the six-week mark.

At six weeks on the dot!

Around eight weeks.

Around 10 weeks.

Around the three-month mark.

Other — I'll tell you in the comments.

10 Common Places to Lose Your Virginity

DearSugar — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 10:00:00 -0800

Whether you lost your virginity when you were 14 or 24, I'm sure many of you hold that memory close to your heart. It may not have been as glamorous or enjoyable as you dreamed it would be, but nothing can make you forget how it went down. Since I've heard my fair share of virginity stories, I've come up with a list of 10 common places where people get it on for the first time.

At sleepaway camp
Your car or his
Your bedroom at your parents' house
A hotel room after prom
The makeout spot

To see the other five places

Relationship Protocol: How Do You Keep the Romance Alive When You're Not Getting It On?

DearSugar — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 06:00:00 -0800

Over the weekend I asked you all to tell me how important sex is in your relationship, and I was surprised to see that it's an infrequent act for many of you. Sure, once the honeymoon period subsides, it's normal for that initial lust to die down, but if you're not connecting physically, there must be other ways you stay in tune with one another. So ladies, tell me, how do you keep the fire, passion, and intimacy alive in your relationship when you're not getting it on?

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Do Tell: Do You Like Your Partner's Orgasm Face?

DearSugar — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 15:00:00 -0800

It might not be our best look, but we all have one: an orgasm face! Even if you've never seen your own, chances are you've seen your partner's — that unique mixture of deep concentration, relaxation, and release. But like I said, it's not always pretty, which could pose a problem while you're in the act of love-making. Since this is all anonymous, do tell ladies, are you a fan of your partner's orgasm face? If not, tell us why, I'm curious and I bet everyone else is too!

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Shocking News: Juries Don't Believe Date Rape Exists

DearSugar — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 11:00:00 -0800

Date rape is more common than you might think, and statistics show that one in six women will be sexually assaulted in a lifetime. Of those assaults, only 19 percent are reported to the police, which is why recent news shows that it's tough to prosecute sexual predators.

Of all the stranger-rape cases that do make it to court, 68 percent end with a conviction. For acquaintance-rape cases, that number is much lower — only 35 percent. Part of the reason is that juries don't think the notion of date rape exists. In the 70s, most reported rape cases were committed by strangers, so jurors and judges have an image in their mind that a rapist is some crazy lunatic who hides in the bushes and prances on unsuspecting victims. They assume the victim will have bruises and broken bones, and she'll notify the police right away, but as we all know, that's not always the case. Rape situations are much different now. Many victims know their attacker and often times, they are given date-rape drugs so they'll be unable to fight back or say no. These drugs can make details foggy for the victim, so she may not go to the police (right away or at all) because she's unsure of what happened.

I know this is frighting news, but there's still something you can do. To find out what it is