
I’ve often heard it said that the best way to get over someone is to start dating someone new. And while I’m certainly not against that notion, I do believe that some real alone time for reflection and recuperation can be a lot better than a rebound guy. Even if it’s no big deal to you, often the person you’re rebounding with can end up feeling hurt when you’ve fully bounced back and are ready for other things (or people).

Dear Sugar,
My husband and I have been married for six years and have been together for 10. About three months ago I found out that he had an affair about two years ago. I forgave him, and we have been working together to move past it.

Your friend has always been a little wild, but after a recent breakup with her long-term boyfriend, she’s gone totally boy crazy. Every time you go anywhere together, she finds the nearest guy and immediately starts to flirt with him in the most over-the-top way possible.
This alone is annoying enough, but you're disgusted when one night, while you're out with co-workers, she proceeds to lay the flirt on thick with the guy she knows you have feelings for.
DearSugar --
The man that I have been in love with for several years is finally divorced. He called at first and I just didn't give him the green light because I felt that he needed some time alone, or playing the field before starting up a relationship. When I did not jump in, I think he felt a bit rejected and he hasn't called in a couple of months.