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The How-To Lounge: Asking For Help

DearSugar — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 10:00:00 -0700

Although being independent is great, if you happen to have a stubborn streak, your determination may hinder you from reaching out for help when you need it. For whatever reason, asking for help has become synonymous with not being tough enough, but I’ll be the first to say, that’s just not true. So if you’re one of those girls who has to do everything herself, read my tips for how to reach out for help when you really do need it when you

The How-To Lounge: Finding a Therapist

DearSugar — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 10:00:00 -0700

As you already know, I’m a huge supporter of therapy and often suggest it as a means of working through a specific issue — some problems are best solved with professional, and specifically, unbiased help. But finding someone who can meet your specific needs and whom you can trust is not an easy task. I’ve compiled a list of things to consider when seeking a therapist. To check them out

Help DearSugar Name New Kittens!

PetSugar — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 16:30:09 -0800

How adoro are these two?! DearSugar's mom just added the lil preciouses to her family — the aqua-eyed Tonkinese made the trip up from Fresno and are now settling in nicely at their new home. The duo arrived yesterday but there's one big problem . . . or two, rather. They're so adorable that she can't decide what to name them!

To make it easier for myself, I'm gonna creatively refer to these babies as "one" and "two. " The feisty kit on the right ("one") is trying to claim her throne as queen of the household and prances around like she owns the place. But I think soon "two" (on the left) may stage an attack — this cat may be smaller and more timid, but she has a big, bold voice and is already meowing up a storm. So, as classy as my temporary names are, Dear's mom wants something a little more fitting for their beauty. Can you help out? If you've got name ideas, leave them in your comments below. I'll keep you posted on the naming process!

Dating Coach: Would You Use One?

DearSugar — Wed, 03 Oct 2007 13:00:00 -0700

The New York Times published an article last month about dating coaches. We all know that the dating game can be incredibly difficult, but some women are going to the extreme and hiring dating coaches for that extra push in the right direction to find their perfect match. According to the Times, dating coaches are very different than matchmakers, they don't arrange dates; instead they act as cheerleaders and advisers, pointing out less than helpful behavior.

Ms. Slotnick, a New York City dating coach, wants women in their 20's and 30's to devote at least 15 hours a week to the cause in addition to turning their "cab light on" so men know that you're in the game so to speak. Slotnick offers guidance on learning how to balance assertion and aggression, and whether to kiss on the first date, which she advises so the man knows you want to see him again.

Of course their services are pricey, ranging anywhere from $125 an hour to $10,000 for an entire weekend, but Lisa Clampitt, a dating coach and a founder of the Matchmaking Institute, thinks it's well worth it. “We have business coaches, dietitians, accountants, but we don’t have an expert for our love life? It doesn’t make sense. It is really the single most important aspect in our life.”

I know you will all have an opinion on this one, so let's hear it! Do you think it makes sense to hire help when it comes to your dating life? Do you think you would benefit from a dating coach and cheerleader, or do think it's just a scam and a waste of money?

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Wise Guide: on helping

DearSugar — Thu, 15 Mar 2007 10:31:00 -0700

We work on ourselves in order to help others, but also we help others in order to work on ourselves. ~ Pema Chodron

Can you think of a way you've helped someone that also helped you understand or get past your own personal issue?

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Putting It Off, Again: Procrastination Week

DearSugar — Wed, 07 Mar 2007 14:30:00 -0800

Believe it or not, this week is National Procrastination Week. You might be wondering why I'm just now making a post about it, on Wednesday? Or you might have figured out already why the topic appeals to me, and why I'm writing about it midweek. Are you always thinking things would be different if you just got organized? Or practiced better time management? Or maybe you've already purchased a dozen different kinds of dayplanners, folders, files, containers and books, but you still delay finishing -- or even starting -- important and necessary tasks.

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Website of the Day: Audible.com

geeksugar — Mon, 11 Dec 2006 09:01:55 -0800

If you plan on traveling this holiday season, but want to listen to something other than Christmas music or your same lineup, check out the download options at Audible.com.

Audible.com offers more than 23,000 digital audio programs - unabridged best sellers in genres like fiction, comedy, mystery, nonfiction, politics, self development, and language learning, informative audio newspapers, and public radio programs such as This American Life and Booknotes. It only costs $7.49 a month for the first two months and you can easily burn your downloads onto CDs or upload them to your MP3 player.