
You and your closest friend have finally been fortunate enough to live in the same city for the past year, for the first time since high school. She moves around a lot and is always searching for the next best place. It’s been amazing having her around and your life feels full in a way you just can’t get from a boyfriend.

Whether you’re having it or you’re not, sex is always a personal choice. For some people, the physical act alone is enough to create a pleasurable experience and thus waiting for an emotional connection is unnecessary. But for many, being close to the person you’re engaging in sex with is an absolute requirement, which necessitates more time getting to know each other.

Dear Sugar,
I've been with my boyfriend for three and half years, and he's cheated on me more than once in that time. Obviously we have a lot of trust issues, and in this past year our relationship has become even crazier. I've finally decided I need a change.
Sex and the decision to have or abstain from it is a very personal decision. I can understand arguments from each side but ultimately, it’s a matter of what feels right for you. Though contemporary women are lucky enough to have more sexual freedom, it’s not uncommon for women to wait to have sex with someone they're interested in until they’ve entered into a relationship with that person.

I consider decision making a skill that you have to hone, much like public speaking. No matter how smart, self-assured, or strong willed you may be, when it comes to confidently making a big decision, it requires an entirely different set of tactics. But fortunately, being more decisive is something that can be improved with just a little dedication and a lot of practice.

In my own experience, I’ve always found my instincts to be right on on the money. In fact, I've come to realize that ignoring my instincts can really lead me astray. While it definitely takes some practice, I’m learning to trust them no matter what — even if it means going against other people’s opinions.

After living the life of an officer-in-training —running hurdles, shadowing a patrol, even enduring pepper spray — on
The Secret Life of a Soccer Mom, Jeannie McCoy declined the scholarship and spot in the police academy that she was offered at the end of the show.
To see how her husband influenced her choice, .
While the stay-at-home-mother of four did struggle during the rigorous training, wanting her children to know that they could do anything, she fought through proving to be one tough cookie.

Dear Sugar,
I can't believe I'm going to ask this but I don't have anyone else to ask and I have come to trust your opinions, so here it goes. I am a very happy married young lady and my relationship with my husband is great and so is our sex life, but for the past couple of months he's been wanting to have anal sex — something I've never done before. I must say I am really scared of having sex that way and I don't even know why ( I guess I think that it will hurt) but I also want to satisfy my husband's needs.