
For me, humor isn’t just an important aspect of a significant other; it’s an absolute must. I need to be around someone who can make me laugh, both in the best of times, and also during the worst. I’ve come to realize though that not everyone shares my sentiments.

Some people are born talkers. They could gab on the phone for hours on end and still find more things to discuss. Then there are those who almost
pray to get voicemail in hopes of avoiding a live conversation.

I’m an observer by nature, but that's not to say I suddenly become shy in a group setting. In fact, I'm happy to be the leader of the pack now and then. Even so, the idea of having all eyes on me does send a shiver down my spine and get my heart racing.

In an effort to help the male readers of
Maxim magazine understand us women a little better, they've asked me to help get you to take their survey about dating, sex, and relationships. Since these are our favorite topics of conversation, this is your chance to clue them in on what women really want: how we like to be treated, what our expectations are, and what their actions say to us — as we all know, some guys need a little direction! There are a bunch of really fun questions, so
click here to take their survey and in the meantime answer one of the questions here — how long do you usually wait before sleeping with a guy after meeting him?

The current economic roller coaster has many of us taking a second look at our account balances on a daily basis and thinking more carefully about the prices of the things we purchase. A recent trip to the grocery store made me realize that I often "splurge" on items that I don't necessarily need. With Halloween and the holidays right around the corner is the state of the economy affecting how you spend on your family?

Around here we talk a lot about how important it is to
trust your instincts, which I’m a huge supporter of. We have those instincts for a reason! But every once and a while wires get crossed somewhere along the way and we misconstrue what are gut is telling us.

Perhaps in this day and age when letters have become antiquated, and when a flux of anonymous emails, no matter how sweet, tend to seem creepy, the idea of an honest-to-goodness secret admirer no longer exists. But I’d like to think that it does — remember in Love Actually when
Keira Knightley’s character gets the knock at the door from her husband’s best friend with the cards confessing his love?
That’s romance! So what do you think; is this notion out of date, or have you ever had a secret admirer?

There’s a reason why “misery loves company” seems to be such a
true cliché — for some people, being around happy people when they feel sad is a lot like having someone laugh directly in their face. But learning how to derive happiness from other’s good moods is a great ability, and one I’m still working on! Do you find happiness in others contagious or just irritating?

Whether you’re having it or you’re not, sex is always a personal choice. For some people, the physical act alone is enough to create a pleasurable experience and thus waiting for an emotional connection is unnecessary. But for many, being close to the person you’re engaging in sex with is an absolute requirement, which necessitates more time getting to know each other.

Leighton Meester is on the current cover of
Us Magazine, opening up about the untold story of her family and her upbringing. Although she didn't keep it a secret per se, the fact that she was born in prison wasn't necessarily public knowledge until now. While both of her parents spent time in jail for a drug ring that smuggled marijuana into the United States from Jamaica, Meester seems to look at her experience on the bright side: "It makes me very nonjudgmental and open-minded.