I'm definitely OK with a guy that likes his mom a lot, but I don't want someone that has to consult her about every little thing. So I chose Other.

As long as they're still not attached at the umbilical cord I'm okay...

no!

There are momma's boys and mommy's boys. I don't mind if he's close with his mom and sweet to her but I just got rid of a needy whiney mommy's boy. He actually refered to her as mommy a couple of times, then after 3 dates, when I wasn't even sure if I was feeling a real connection with him, he asked if he could take my picture to show to his mom!

A guy who has a close bond w/ his mom is sweet and kinda sexy. But there is another kind of Momma's boy; the kind who can't make a decision w/out her input, talks about her constantly and is too needy and clingy. A man who loves and respects his mom, but also has his own thoughts, opinions, and independence from her is my kinda man!

One of the things my mother taught me about men; never date a man who doesn't like his mother!!!

My love loves his mother a lot, I don't consider "mommy's boy" a nice term, it is demasculinasating, men don't like that besides, I think it's very unsexy when a man doesn't care about or respect his mother (unless there are some strong reasons why he shouldn't like bad parenting, of course)

As long as there's some balance, the guy who treats his mother well gets my vote. But there are men out there who have not cut the ties with Mommy, and that's a problem. I had a boyfriend like that. He consistently broke dates to take his mother somewhere. I finally realized you are not going to win if you have to compete with a guy's mother.

I chose other. It can be really annoying being with a momma's boy, but then seeing the way he treats her is kinda reassuring. Esp when his mom is on your side too...

My bf is a momma's boy, but his mom knows he's a stubborn jerk sometimes and calls him out on it when he's not treating me nicely. Or she'll tell me to knock him upside his head if he's being stupid...she's even knocked his head off a couple times when he was being stupid, and that's pretty funny to see that even as an adult, mom's still have authority LOL

so I yeah, i pickd other cuz yeah it gets annoying sometimes how attached he can be to her, but then know she's on my side and she supports me too so that feels good^^

I agree Marci, everything in moderation. I'd have concerns if a guy treated his mom badly, but an independent nature is very attractive to me.

I think its odd when a guy is really really close to his mom. Its a turn off for me.

Concerns? You should run for the hills.

What Dear said is right, when a man treats his mother well, it is definitely a good indication of how he will treat his girlfriend or wife. Like girllovewarrior said, never date a man who doesn't like his mother. My mom told me that same thing.

Close is one thing, being a mama's boy is totally different.

While I think a man who "treats his mother well" is a good thing, so is taking into account why they're not close. My husband certainly doesn't treat his mother badly, but she left when he was very young and never owned up to anything she did wrong. I don't mind at all that he maintains his distance, in fact I like and respect how well that indicates his sense of reality.

I'm dating a mama's boy right now... and it's weird!
I've never met someone who practically worshipped their mother... but I've becomes used to it, and she is a really awesome person. C'est la vie!

I'm totally fine with my guy being close to his mom, i think it's sweet but i was once married to a hardcore mama's boy, and let me tell you.. it was a pain in the neck. my ex mother-in-law was totally mowing me down because i took her golden boy from her. glad that's over with!

i think it all depends on HOW CLOSE they really are!

i think that if a man respects his mom then its a reflection of how he might treat you. but if i man still wants his mom to cook/clean/shop/dress him--then i'm a lil worried

yes, it's important to me that he has a good relationship with his mom because i think it does indicate how he'll treat his wife/girlfriend. but not to the point that he's like trey from sex and the city! lol

You can have a good relationship with mom without being a Mama's boy. it's a no go for me.

I'ma mama's boy, but not a mommy's boy. Moderation is key. Don't you want your man to have a good relationship with his mother and be close to her as an adult?

ditto girllovewarrior. how a man treats you/ will treat you long term is bound to be a bit of a reflection of his relationship with his mom. I married a man with a quintessential Italian mother. he adores and respects her and now me. actually he's close to both parents and now I am too.

I think it's also key, that she is not invasive in the least. I couldn't handle a Marie Barrone type. ever.

I think that it's important how a guy treats his mother too but I've dealt with a few too many invasive mothers who baby their sons and still treat them like children. In fact, part of the reason I broke up with my last boyfriend was because I knew that he eventually wanted to move back to his hometown and his mother drove me so crazy that I knew I could never live that close to her (there were other issues of course but his mother was definitely a factor). Maybe I need to find a guy whose mother lives on a different continent or at least the other side of one. ha

as long as he close to his mom because he respect her and show love and protect her as a son in normal way.. its okay for me.. i just want my son love me just like he does. The way mama boy treat other girl mostly are nice and sweet.. so.. i think there's no reason to dislike them.

i don't hate mama's boy i just don't date them!

My man and his mom are pretty close - not SUPER SEE EVERY WEEK CLOSE - but he's her youngest so he gets treated a little differently.

I like a man who has respect and love for his mother.

close is one thing, already being the woman in his life is something else. and i would NEVER have dated a momma's boy guy who's mom didn't like me. that's just asking for trouble.

nope!!! my boyfriend has three brothers but he is the closest to his mom

I need to be with someone who loves and respects his mother and his idea of family has to be a positive one. I cannot, however, handle a mother who coddles his son and makes it a point to make it known that SHE is the woman who controls his life. I haven't had a situation like that before but I have an am dating a momma's boy.. but it the good way. He loves his mom and keeps her posted but she doesn't control or try to meddle (too much at least) She is a sweet woman who I enjoy being friends with and I'm glad I have that.

Love and respect for mom doesn't quite make someone a mama's boy, by my definition. It's only when he lets her control him that it becomes weird and creepy.

A guy can be his own man and still love his mother (or, y'know, give her just due respect if she's not a lovable mother, that's okay too). That's not mutually exclusive.

As long as he's not actually mom [i]controlled[/i], I see no problem.

No - I should be his number one, not her.

mmm i think he should love and respect his mom- but, my ex boyfriend was his mom´s only child, and they were very close. She made breakfast for him every morning and took it to his bedroom and woke him up.. he was nineteen then. I found that a bit overwhelming.