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Dear Poll: Would You Want to Fit His Prototype?

Wed, 11/07/2007 - 1:00pm by DearSugar
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We all have pasts, so when you date someone new, it's inevitable that someone has walked in similar shoes before you. In order to make the relationship work, it's important to let that go and understand that you are the one in the relationship now, not the ex.

With that said, in a previous poll, 36 percent of you admitted to dating a specific type of guy, so what I want to know is, would you rather fit your new boyfriend's type, or would you rather be different and stand out as the unique personality and look that was new, exciting and different for your boyfriend?

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  • PinkUnicorn's picture
    PinkUnicorn
    1

    One time I was going out with this guy, and was on his computer while he was at work (NOT snooping or anything)and I found some pictures of his ex (who I had never seen). I wanted to throw up because we could have been sisters we looked so much alike. We were approximately the same height, the exact same build, same colour eyes, skin and hair. It was very disconcerting because I felt like he was trying to replace me with her. It's one thing to have a 'type'; it's quite another to try to find a clone of your ex....

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • Lovely_1's picture
    Lovely_1
    2

    I don't think my boyfriend knew what he was getting into when he met me!
    I totally wasn't interested in a relationship but I decided to give him a chance and vice versa.
    Thank god we both did, because we just clikc. Everything between us just works. He says he has never met a chick like me (which I like haha) and that that's why he likes me. I'm not like "every other girl".

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • MiyaBi_na's picture
    MiyaBi_na
    3

    omg...this is SO on point for me! I'm TOTALLY OPPOSITE of my bf's ex's from his serious relationships....

    I still to this day do not know why he wanted to go out with me since I am soooooo different than what he was dating before me...and he coulda had like 901238579238749238 other really hooooott girls out there who want him.

    I've asked WHY but he never answers Eye-wink I guess it's a secret...? I dunno. Maybe he'll tell me in time? I have no idea..I wish he would though! I'm so curious...

    but all I know is that I do get a little scared that he'll get bored with me cuz I am the opposite of what he obviously like(d). And I do notice that he does treat me a little differently than his ex's and that kinda sucks in certain aspects, esp cuz I sometimes feel like I'm not making him as happy as they did cuz he acts differently with me than he did with them...confusing I know, but I know what my heart feels about it...

    but then it makes me happy knowing what I am able to do for him, how I have been able to help him heal his heart from those bad relationships... =)

    argh..relationships are so....emotional!

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • sevendayrain's picture
    sevendayrain
    4

    I dated a guy and foundout that I was just like the rest of the girls he dated. Same height, hair and eye color. It was sick....and of course the relationship ended like all the rest of them.

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • AujahAcorn's picture
    AujahAcorn
    5

    i really dont know. i guess if i am with him.... i am his type. You know what i mean? if he likes short & brown skin and i am tall w/ pail skin..... i think his type right now is Tall & pail.

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • anniechacha's picture
    anniechacha
    6

    I agree with Aujah...I don't think about it...i just want to be me and if it works wonderful...if it doesn't its just not meant to be.

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • lilwildone1202's picture
    lilwildone1202
    7

    its intresting because compared to all the chicks my boyfriend dated before me..i'm completly different but he's completly different than all the guys ive dated so...

    i dont even know if he has a type :-X haha

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • popgoestheworld's picture
    popgoestheworld
    8

    I think I have all the "core" things that he's looking for, but I am definitely different than his exes in a number of ways.

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • indielove's picture
    indielove
    9

    No, I don't want to fit his prototype, I want to be different and unique than the type he'd usually go for. It's much more interesting that way. Be open to new things and people, I'd love to fall for a guy who I didn't think I'd go for...add to the excitement and newness of it all.

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • indielove's picture
    indielove
    10

    Like popgoestheworld, I'd want my guy and I to share the same 'core' values, or else...what's the point?

    1 year 4 weeks ago Report Comment
  • Random's picture
    Random
    11

    I know my boyfriend's ex, and I'm nothing like her. Well, except that we both have dark hair. And so far, everything is going well.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • sugarsister's picture
    sugarsister
    12

    if his type happens to be me then i'm fine being his type. i wouldn't change myself to suit him

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • demeter's picture
    demeter
    13

    A little bit of both. But I find myself being more what the guy wants. But only if I like what he wants.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • kiwishe's picture
    kiwishe
    14

    It's better to just be yourself than to fit anyone's type. There could be a side of him that he doesn't know he likes about you and it's also better than lying to yourself and to him to be someone you're not. If he likes you for who you are, then great; if not, then so be it, and move on.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • mrspiven's picture
    mrspiven
    15

    i don't want to be anything for anybody! i'm just me! if there are any girls trying to be someone's type, you're setting yourself up for heartbreak, i promise. don't be an idiot.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • leeluvfashion's picture
    leeluvfashion
    16

    Other: I would rather just be "lee" than "girl w/ goals, smart, silly etc..." I just want to be me and I don't think about what "type" I am.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • Vampyre's picture
    Vampyre
    17

    I don't think anybody needs to be anybody's "type". I think it's simple. I'll just be myself, he can be himself, then we'll go from there. If the relationship works, it works, if it doesn't, it doesn't. No need to go conforming to somebody elses expectations.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • Marci's picture
    Marci
    18

    I agree about not wanting to be someone's 'type'. I never had a type of guy I looked for; I liked all different types, and I sure wouldn't want a guy who just wanted a cookie-cutter girlfriend. My fiance told me on our third date that he'd never known anyone like me. I took that as a compliment.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • melda's picture
    melda
    19

    no all my ex boyfriends love me the way i am and all of them said that i am soo different from all girls they have seen before and thats why loved me so much

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • klandrach's picture
    klandrach
    20

    Ok, this was really interesting to me. I always kind of wondered about my BF since his past relationships have been with tall, blonde hair, blue eyed girls that looked like models. I am the total opposite with brown hair, green eyes, shorter and more athletic built. I guess I should be happy about it, thanks girls.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • caraleaf24's picture
    caraleaf24
    21

    My boyfriend's exes are totally different than me. Besides the fact that they were psycho, his two previous serious relationships were both blonde, blue eyed, tall. They were a little different from each other, one more athletic, the other extremely high-maintenance. But I feel like I don't look like the others, and I like it because I don't worry about whether or not he's comparing or having one of those "that's what so-n-so looked like" moments. Being with him for over 3 years now, I would say I'm his type more than his previous "type" ever was. I'm also not crazy (most of the time) and I think that's good too...

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • nikkeeb's picture
    nikkeeb
    23

    I agree, this is a fascinating poll. My fiance's exes were diverse-looking, but still similar looking somehow. But they DEF all had the same personality. I'm not sure how I fit physically speaking (I hope it's not mean or superficial, but I hope I don't fit - even when we were just friends I thought he could do better than the girls he dated), but I'm completely opposite from them personality-wise. Like Miya though, it makes me a little insecure sometimes, because we interact so differently. But I think that the difference in interaction doesn't mean he likes me less or that we're less compatible, simply that he's more mature than he used to be. We're engaged and he knows that in his prev relationships neither he nor the other person would be mature enough for a while.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment
  • htiduj's picture
    htiduj
    24

    id rather dismiss types all together. i want to be 100% me, and let him be 100% him. i dont care about his past or what he liked in his past. they didnt work out. its all about who you both are as people and if you click or not.

    1 year 3 weeks ago Report Comment

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