Looking at porn does not mean he is going to cheat 90% of men look at it. Has he done something to make you question his honesty? Why don't you look at it together!

I'm glad my boyfriend looks at porn-I see it as more of a release so that he's not out looking for other girls to cheat with. I think you should try looking at it/watching it with him...you may even like it and be pleasantly surprised. Also, I do not know any males (friends, exes, brothers-ewww) who don't have some sort of porn, so its really not something that should be so shocking.

Yes I think it just depends on your background with this sort of thing. Just about every guy looks at porn - so what? It's just about fantasy and having a visual right in front of you. Women look at porn too - i know I do and I'm in a relationship (albeit long distance) and not to be graphic but sometimes it's nice to have a visual stimulus to start one off and then it leads to fantasy's about your SO. I think it's harmless to be honest it definately doesn't sound like he's addicted or anything.

I'm with bookgirl on this one - my husband and I almost always watch porn movies and pictures and such together. Sometimes it just adds a little inspiration or there are certain elements that just add to our experience. It's like our own little private experience and we have a couple different videos now.

It certainly doesn't make me think that he'll cheat. Most men own it or look at it and I've come to enjoy looking at it with him. Plus, then he's looking at it WITH you. Plus, to be honest, a lot of porn is girl on girl and my husband knows he's not going to get that, so why not watch a fantasy?

I think my husband was embarrassed to bring it up to me the first time that he was interested in porn, but we've since obviously moved past that point. But that might be why your significant other didn't talk to you about it.

And looking at porn doesn't necessarily mean that he's bored with you or your relationship. A lot of times it's just about the fantasy. I mean, sometimes I'll close my eyes and picture George Clooney naked, but that doesn't mean that I'd leave my husband for him or that I'm dissatisfied with my current relationship. As my mother once said, if you ever stop looking (and only looking!) then you're dead! (And she and my father have been married 30 years and counting!)

I am with everyone else. Porn really isn't that big of deal. It doesn't mean he is going to cheat on you maybe if you joined in you would also enjoy. 99% of men like it and I don't know anyone that has suddenly left their boyfriend or girlfriend from watching porn.

I found my boyfriends porn recently... I'm not a porn-watching type of girl and I'm not interested in looking at it with him. So I just blocked it out. It doesn't bother me that he watches it for some reason. Don't worry about it. I'm fairly certain MOST guys use it.

Great advice DearSugar.

I agree. Men love to look at sexy things. They are visual little things. If he doesn't have a history of cheating, then I wouldn't worry about it. Guys hide their porn because they had to hide it when they were teenagers. Don't you have a few things hidden out of sight? LOL.

If you feel like you need to spice things up to a naughty girl level - visit www.threewishes.com. They have adorable sexy costumes that are pretty cheap with fast free shipping. I have ordered a few of them and used with them my boyfriend. And let me tell you, any guy goes ga-ga for a girl in a nurse/schoolgirl/nun outfit.

His looking at manufactured stimuli is not going to lead to his cheating.

There is no reason to freak out about porn unless it's extremely violent or strange. There is a huge difference b/t looking at other women that are actually in his physical presence and someone in a magazine or on tv. I would just let sleeping dogs lie.

i would actually be surprised if i dated a guy who didn't have a porn stash, just because it's so natural for them to have some porn! my boyfriend has it, no biggie. yeah, sometimes i get jealous that i'm not skinny and gorgeous, but you live with it. at least he's not cheating! and most of the time, i assume i'm the only one really watching it anyways.

the fact that women still get mad or surprised about this makes me laugh. it's like if a guy found his wife's shoe collection and was all, "what is THIS? huh?! you don't really love me!" and stormed off.

and i agree with above, don't freak out unless it's harmful to others. and by harmful, i mean involves children, animals, blood, or suffocation. a little spanking is just kinky, not freaky.

ther's porn and then ther's porn. if he needs to be constantly looking at sexual images i'd say that's a problem. if it involves underage individuals or animals i'd say that's a problem. if it makes you uncomfortable i'd say that's a problem too.

this is your relationship so what works for anyone else isn't really important. i use to think that what ever went on the the bedroom between consenting adults was fine, but now i'm not so sure. if we are constantly raising the bar on expectations for looks, number of acts, positions, etc, based on some media enhanced images that isn't healthy. the things you do together and individually can either bring you closer or pull you apart. what are yout bf's recent actions doing? any effort he puts into self satisfaction is less effort for him in the relationship department with you. if that's a problem for you then tell him. if you don't mind let it go.

the wording troubles me here "he looks at porn whenever I'm not around" makes it sound as if he has zero impulse conttol and the second you're out the door; there he goes. if that is truly the case it's creepy.

i found my boyfriends old playboy's yesterday. And seriously, I am completely not surprised. Most men just LOVE to look at anything female and naked.... don't take it personally. Just know that women are sneakier... seriously, you know you check out the construction workers on the highway!!!!! Men just aren't as creative, they need assistance!

porn doesn't not mean he's gonna cheat.

All guys watch porn no matter how much sex you are having. It has nothing to do with cheating. It actually pretty normal to watch it unless it's some kind of weird porno. The problem here is not with your boyfriend, it's just your insecurity. It need to work on your self esteem if you think that watching porno is going to make him want to cheat.

sorry :)you need to work on your self esteem

My boyfriend looks at porn, he has long before we ever got together and quite frankly, it doesn't bother me at all. Now and again he'll say he wants to try something that they do. I say sure why not. At least he know's I am not a porn star and doesn't hold a grudge or say horrible things to me like why can't I be more like the porn stars. Later for him if that should happen. And out of boredom I sometimes ask him to mail me some video clips if I am bored at work or something as our internet is secure. But shh, that is my secret at work haha...

Looking at porn is natural to most men -- and those who say they do not look at it or like are probs lying. I think the issue is with your self esteem. Looking at porn does not mean that he finds these other women more attractive or finds sex with you boring. Plenty a man, have a very active happy sex life and still partake.

i look at it! my boyfriend does too. it's a good way to expose yourself to new things and give you good ideas that you can bring back to your significant other and explore.

Welllll...I just thought of something. There are some things that girls do that other girls won't. It could get a bit uncomfortable if your guy is watching a porn star getting her back end rammed or him releasing on her face. And if it's something you just won't do, he might want to live that fantasy elsewhere....think about it.

In my younger days, I HATED that my guy looked at porn...it truely bothered me BUT as I got older, I got to where I don't care and now I send him porn pics/videos all the time and I myself look at it too. I don't think looking at porn is a big deal IF it doesn't become an addiction where he has to look at it ALL the time (even at work) and rather be with his porn rather than you (which requires no intimacy).

Everyone is different...if someone doesn't like porn that doesn't mean they are childish or have low self esteem. People like what they like and some people just don't!

My girlfriends love porn! she encourages me to watch all the time. Porn is not a big deal.

he was spanking the monkey long before he met you and will continue long after the relationship is over....and apparently, everywhere in between....in the meantime, throw on some chaps and give him some sex on a platter so he can get in tune with reality!!!

boys look at porn that's just what they do
haha girls do it too.. were just a little sneakier about it
but my boyfriend is pretty honest about it.. like yea look at this girl kinda thing.. so he has made it known that he has nothing to hide and he isn't ashamed about it.. its just entertaining!

and then when we are bored we watch it together haha.. why not!

My boyfriend really doesn't like porn! He has two magazines and one DVD that I boguth him!
i look at porn WAAAYYYYY more then him, he just says it does nothing for him and he'd rather be having sex with me!
he doesn't care if I look at it either, and I could really care less if he ever decided he liked it haha!

we live in a techno society of sin, even i have porn girlie, its something u must accept

A lot of guys don't realize that what they do in their spare time can make their girlfriends feel paranoid, jealous, or hurt for much the same reason: you're not enough for my libido.

Many women either think that their guy's on the brink of infidelity if he's looking at another naked chick because the next step would be going from looking to touching... or they'll think that there's something wrong with them because they aren't good enough... or they'll feel betrayed because they trusted their guy to be only sexually interested in you. If you haven't set out ground rules in the relationships that he can't look at porn, you really shouldn't be upset that he broke the unspoken rule. MEN AREN'T MIND READERS.

I was upset that my ex was looking at porn when I was living with him (while sitting next to me, nonetheless) because he didn't show sexual interest in me. Granted he was on medication, but it was very insulting. If I were to look at ("gay" ...solo guy or guy-on-guy) porn, he'd get furious at me.

Men either get turned on or defensive if you're looking at other nude men. You could try giving him a taste of his own medicine if you're willing to let it backfire and have porn become a spice to your sex life.

I have been trying to find someone with almost my same problem, I just found out my bf watches porn, but the only thing that bothers me is that When I ask for sex he is too tired, yet he is never tired to watch porn(while alone).My question is what the hell is up with that? Makes me sometimes wonder weather im just not good enough for him.Just like Sek said if I watched it he would get upset yet how is this suppose to work? Did I miss something somewhere, where its ok for a partner to watch porn even though you are willing to give him some yet he wont?Someone please enlighten me.