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Where Do You Stand? Using Sex Toys Alone

Mon, 08/04/2008 - 7:00am by DearSugar
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I am in full support of women having spectacular, mind-blowing orgasms — as many as she can get her hands on in fact. But let's face it: Many women feel like it's only possible or appropriate when they're with someone else. For some of you, the whole idea of masturbation may seem wrong or not very sexually exciting, but I'm convinced that if you have a hard time with the idea of pleasuring yourself, using a sex toy may change your mind. It may help you reach an orgasm when you weren't able to in the past; it may offer you better, stronger orgasms; and it will allow you to get satisfaction without having to rely on someone else.

What do you think? Are sex toys the kind of thing you'd use alone, or do you think they're just too naughty or taboo?

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  • Berlin's picture
    Berlin
    1

    I like using them alone better than with my partner...when I don't want sex but want the orgasm, it's see ya honey, I'm going to have my fun and be back in a flash lol.

    That's just foolish to think there's something wrong with it when you have a partner. Most of the time you both will want a release through naughty lil toys or porn, and you bring it together and separate. It's healthy and sometimes when you just want a quick fix but don't want to go all out under the sheets, then toys are quite practical!

    And I recommend the Berman line's Juliet for such adventures lol.

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • nutella2683's picture
    nutella2683
    2

    I like using them alone more so than using it with my partner.. but we have those sessions where we both enjoy it together.

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Jeny's picture
    Jeny
    3

    The rabbit. And that's all I'm going to say about that Eye-wink

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • CYL's picture
    CYL
    5

    use it alone and with partner Sticking out tongue its funs times either way

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • EnderLadyChaos's picture
    EnderLadyChaos
    6

    There great for having a little fun alone, but for getting the attention of the person your with, perfect!!

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • a nonny mouse's picture
    a nonny mouse
    7

    I easily orgasm many multiple times with my partner, but am never able to climax with toys -- and I've used myriad styles and varieties, of good quality and varying cost.

    They just don't work for me. ((Go figure.))

    But I still sometimes use them with my partner, for his excitement. Regarding my own pleasure, fingers work better -- I also use my hands when I am with my partner.

    I think I just respond really well to the human element. Partner stimulation and mutual masturbation (together) are an integral component of our sexual relationship. I'm convinced that this has helped us maintain a happy, healthy relationship these past twelve years.

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Asia84's picture
    Asia84
    8

    That was the whole reason why i started using them. I was young, single and not trying to screw random guys....

    I have used them with a partner, but if i have another human being (the guy) there, i don't have strong inclinations to use them.

    when i'm in a relationship, i don't use them that much...okay, hardly ever.

    There's "me" time and then there's "me and Dan" time.

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • designerel's picture
    designerel
    9

    I only use them on my own. My bf has said he doesn't mind using toys in the bedroom but I prefer to just keep things limited to us two.

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • princess_eab's picture
    princess_eab
    12

    Bought a couple because my ex was really into the idea, but hardly used them because they hurt more than they felt good . Finally we found the right type and boy I'm glad I have it! It's great to have around.

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • AmyLyn's picture
    AmyLyn
    13

    Loving yourself alone helps you discover what you like in bed...it does not replace sex, which I think a lot of guys worry about. I think there are time to have your toys alone....and time where it can make your time as a couple more fun!

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • courtneyh's picture
    courtneyh
    14

    using your toys alone = not sleeping with randoms

    ( in my own opinion!)

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • smileyface's picture
    smileyface
    15

    Sex toys are the answer to being single and still having a decent orgasm. I must admit that I do get tired of masturbating when thats all I'm doing, but there is nothing wrong with pleasuring yourself, and I masturbated sans sex toy for a very long time before buying my vibrator. And having a vibrator changes things completely. As a matter of fact, since I'm doing so much self-pleasuring these days, I'm about to invest in a few more! Smiling

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • sparklestar's picture
    sparklestar
    16

    I wouldn't use the c*ckring on my own cos that'd be kinda weird but all the rest of the toys were mine to begin with... he just gets to try them out occasionally! ;p

    I'm lucky... we don't really need toys in the bedroom but he's perfectly happy with them when they do come out anyway!

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • brittanyk's picture
    brittanyk
    17

    I actually prefer to use toys alone. Sometimes we'll use them together. It really just depends. I don't see anything wrong with using them alone.

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • ElectricMadison's picture
    ElectricMadison
    18

    I like using one alone a lot..it is something different than sex with a partner. I think when I use toys it allows me to indulge in fantasies that I don't want to play out with others.

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • jennjennnbubba's picture
    jennjennnbubba
    19

    whatever you do, don't buy the dolphin... the rabbit it good though. True story

    I'm all for self love! Its better than sleeping around with ppl for those in between times and you get to control what you want and how much of it you want.

    15 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • LoveSarah's picture
    LoveSarah
    20

    We use them in foreplay, and I'll use them alone if he isn't around and I need some self love.

    15 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • Sexy21's picture
    Sexy21
    21

    I'm just starting out with using toys and so far i like it alot but I want that one toy thats mind blowing for me.. Does anybody have any suggestions?

    15 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • danzerdrea7's picture
    danzerdrea7
    22

    Sexy21, for a mind blowing toy I recommend the tongue. The texture is awesome and it works in a flash. The only downside is that it costs a little bit more.

    I am all for self-loving and getting the orgasm you want. I bought my first toy with pressure from my ex, and then he became intimidated by it. I rarely orgasmed during sex and he actually thought the toy was replacing him, so we stopped using it together.

    I now have an extensive collection, and I find myself not using them when I am single and alone, but using them more when I am dating. Weird huh?

    14 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment

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