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Dear Poll: Do You Talk About Your Personal Life At Work?

Mon, 07/07/2008 - 4:00pm by DearSugar
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Since we spend most of our time at work, it's inevitable that our co-workers become more than that; they become our friends, our confidants, and our sounding boards. And since having gripes about our loved ones, dealing with family drama, or even financial woes is just a part of life, it's close to impossible to leave those worries at home. I've always been the type to wear my emotions on my sleeve — I'll confide in co-workers as I would friends and family — but I know many people who are opposed to mixing business with anything personal. If you think about it, it's a good idea to draw the line somewhere, but no one way is better; so tell me, do you talk about your personal life at work or do you keep the two completely separate?

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  • chatondeneige's picture
    chatondeneige
    1

    I don't like to involve coworkers in my personal life - I find it unprofessional. When I hear every detail of all the nasty things a coworker and her exhusband are doing in their divorce, I lose respect for her. I have friends to talk with about my personal life. My coworkers are not my friends, so why would I share that with them? The probed and probed at me when I was new, but I think they've learned that I don't talk about my current personal life.

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • Sun_Sun's picture
    Sun_Sun
    2

    yea i never did
    a co worker was like CRAZYYY she'd come one day being all like "i HATE my husband hes a monster hes terrible i want a divorce waa waa waa" then LITERALLY the next day she'd be like "my husband is a blessing. hes extremely inteligent and wonderful"

    wtf :S

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • lauraxtc's picture
    lauraxtc
    3

    I started a new job maybe a few months ago (back in October)and before I started I told myself not to get involved with anyone and to not talk about my personal life with anyone.

    I have stuck to it at least 70% of it.
    But Its hard to when people are nosy and try to talk about your personal life with you.
    So I do but lie most of the time. I just pretend I am a goody goody so no one will have anything to talk about.
    If I am having problems at home, that, I will never speak of.
    It's better not to. Because you never know who will try to talk behind your back and judge you.

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • Red315's picture
    Red315
    4

    I work for a very small company (10 people MAX) and we all openly talk about my family, friends, and relationships. I mostly discuss things with my closest co-worker and one of my bosses. We will go over everything ... we get advice or share to just help us get through the long day. I can understand how it wouldn't work for some but I do think the reason it works well for me is because of the size of my office... I wouldn't ever be that open in a big company!

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • bekah boo's picture
    bekah boo
    5

    I work at my dad's office, so in other words, divulging in my personal life would probably get right back to my dad 'yikes'. There are a couple of workers that I know OUTSIDE of work too, but I try to make certain that my crowd of friends doesn't mingle with theirs JUST SO that there are no problems in the future! =)

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • cubadog's picture
    cubadog
    6

    I tend to keep things seperate just because I tend to be more private than a lot of people. I do not want to hear about your money woes or if your husband is an ass. I work in a very small office and one of the girls I work with is a total b*tch and I do not trust her at all fortunately, our boss see through it all!

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • luxington's picture
    luxington
    7

    I really don't like to talk about personal things at work. I think some of my coworkers have found me standoffish because of this, but I find it so unprofessional.

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • dulcedolci's picture
    dulcedolci
    8

    I really try not to talk about any part of my personal life while I'm at work. I hear enough about everyone else's that I just don't care to share my own. I've always been a private person and I like to keep things that way, plus I just don't like people knowing all that much about me.

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • Meike's picture
    Meike
    9

    Occasionally although I'm a little more private than most at my office. We work in a healthy, laxed environment while being productive at the same time. Everyone likes sharing amusing stories. As for negative stories, they run in smaller circles with co-workers who are closer friends to one another.

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • GlowingMoon's picture
    GlowingMoon
    11

    Nope. Generally, I don't share personal information with co-workers or business associates. It's none of their damn business.

    In fact, I don't talk much about my marriage to family and friends, and vice-versa. Generally, we discuss what we have in common like interests, hobbies, and about ourselves. If we share a common friend or relative, we may talk about that person a little, but not too much.

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • ann418's picture
    ann418
    12

    I don't like to, but sometimes it just comes out. I'm a really open person, and I need to learn to keep my mouth shut sometimes!

    I was getting my hair done the other day and the hairdresser next to me was going on and on and on about his family drama. It was seriously annoying! THAT is unprofessional! And he was the owner of the salon!

    7 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • AutumnLove's picture
    AutumnLove
    13

    Yup. Usually its only my boss and me in the office. I think there's only 6 of us totally and probably only 2 of us in the office at any given time.

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • fleurfairy's picture
    fleurfairy
    14

    No pretty much never. I just wouldn't want my personal life to become office fodder. And it's nice to keep things separate.

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • kiwitwist's picture
    kiwitwist
    15

    I do but I don't get into the dirty details. Just what I did on the weekend, etc. The only other girl I work with knows a bit more but I never share any drama.. I don't want their views to change about my hubby because I was upset over something stupid. Not that that happens often but you know what I mean.

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • CHURCHMMOUSE2008's picture
    CHURCHMMOUSE2008
    17

    YEA! WHEN IT IT COMES TO PEOPLE YOU WORK AROUND.WITH ME NOBODY GIVES A DAMN ! IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN ?

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • bbkf's picture
    bbkf
    18

    Many of my coworkers are my friends, so we talk as friends.

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • Marni7's picture
    Marni7
    19

    I only have one co-worker I became really close with and her and I share alot of personal information with each other. But as far as the rest of them, they may just know the superficial stuff..

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • mn48225's picture
    mn48225
    20

    I made the mistake of talking about my personal life. Nothing big just about the boyfriend and one secretary insisted that my bf was a money hungry no good moocher, I had to correct him. I don't know where he got that idea because no one else did. BUT anyways...sometimes it just slips because you spend 40hrs at work with these people.

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • superstephanie's picture
    superstephanie
    21

    People in my office trust me and consider me a "friend" but it isn't working both ways, because I don't consider them my friends Bottom line is-- they shouldn't trust me with that valuable personal information because I just might have the chance to use it against them! Smiling You just can't trust everyone. Especially in a competitive office environment.

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • JaimeLeah526's picture
    JaimeLeah526
    22

    Somewhere in between. I talk about it when it's relevant but not constantly. It's also not something I talk with everyone only a few select people.

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • LadyAngel89's picture
    LadyAngel89
    23

    I do not bring up personal material just for the sake of talking about myself or my family. We're not that flippin special. But in passing or to someone I'm friends with that's also a co-worker I do mention my home-life to an extent.

    7 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • rannew's picture
    rannew
    24

    I did at other jobs where the teams I worked on were mostly or totally women, and when I was going through something big that I couldn't really avoid at the office like wedding planning. But now I don't really share much at all. I also currently work with all men.

    6 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment

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