I think it would be worse if he passed it to you knowing he was at risk. That shows carelessness and lack of character.

If you unknowingly passsed it to him, it was an accident and completely not your fault.

Besides, so early in the relationship, protection should be used anyway.

umm.. tarni, it seems silly to think if it was you it was clearly an accident but if it was him its like he's out to get you.

one word, condoms.

Most STIs can be cured by just a short run of anti-biotics so if he accidentally passed chlamydia or gonhorrea then it wouldnt be a big deal. A little embarrassing but totally understandable (alot of men and woman can have very little or no symptoms for quite a few months after contracting the STI) just pop a few pills, avoid sex for 10 days and then move on. I think neither would be all that bad. They both suck but not the end of the world, or the relationship.

Herpes, HPV, Syphillis or something along those lines on the other hand... that would suck and I dont know if me unwittingly passing it on is worse or him being aware his ex had the disease but still passed it on... both would suck big time and would probably create some irrepairable damage to the new relationship. Yikes.

Both are irresponsible from either side. Although my passing it onto him sounds like an accident - I would have gotten myself tested and really cant imagine this happening to me. Still -if he KNEW about it and STILL didnt get tested? At least I can excuse myself because I had no idea I had it...

Both of those situations would be horrid.

Brielle, it's not silly... it's exactly what it says in the post.

"It turns out that you must have picked this up from your last boyfriend and inadvertently passed it along to your new guy? A quick conversation with your ex reveals that he had signs of it but never mentioned it to you before."

"When you spill the beans to the new guy, he blushes and confesses that his last girlfriend had it, too? Apparently, he didn’t think males could be carriers. You're beyond dumbfounded by his complete lack of knowledge."

Both! Dude, if I caught it from my ex when he knew he had signs, I'd beat his ass; if the new beau got it from HIS ex and said "well I didn't know I could get it! I'M INVINCIBLE A-HURR-HURR" then I'd beat his ass, too. I'm screwed [don't take that literally] either way! >.<

They are both horrible but I agree with Tami715.

wow, both suck

Where is the option for "both are equally awful"??

Both are horrible. But I would rather have it accidentally happen then the person knowing and still passing it. I get myself tested regularly for things even though I am in a monogamous relationship. I think everyone should just to protect themselves.

which is worse, having something and passing it on, or having smething, passing it on, and then finding out your bf is an idiot? why is that even a choice. one bad thing or two? hmm.

Well, either way you get it from your guy-either your ex or your current one. I'd pick the This option because it says I unknowingly give it to him...the that option says he knowingly gives it to me, and I don't want to get an STD from someone who knows they have it (or give it to someone when I know I have it).

In this case it would be worse if he gave it to you. He knew that his girlfriend had it and didn't bother to look it up online and see that he could carry it and transmit it to you.
Your ex is your ex and you don't need to have trust with him anymore.

My answer might have been different if I knew whether or not the STI was treatable/curable. If so, I'd rather not be the responsible party, because there's a lot of leverage to be gained from the guilt of it all.. not to mention the fall out of the flip side.

I think they're both horrible, and should remind everyone to be safe!!