So often I hear people refer to having the “the talk” in a new relationship to determine where the relationship is headed. Deciding to be in a committed, exclusive relationship is a big deal for many couples as they quickly move from single to taken. Even still I’ve always held onto the romantic notion that the exclusivity talk isn't always necessary; instead, a relationship can grow gradually, until you know he’s not seeing anyone else because he’s always with you!
On the other hand, making something official removes opportunity for confusion (or seeing other people), so in that context I can understand the desire to have “the talk.” In your own relationships, have you found a discussion about whether or not you’re exclusively together to be necessary? Or like me, do you prefer just to see what your relationship grows into?
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My big thing was always how do you know when is the right time to have "the talk"? Are you going to scare them away? What if you do and they're simply just not ready for such a decision? I've always found it just fine to take things as they come. The last time I remember having the "talk" with a guy was in the sixth grade and he asked me to "go steady" lol. Ever since I have always just let life play itself the way it wants.