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Turn On or Turn Off: Men That Like Girly Things

Thu, 06/12/2008 - 12:00pm by DearSugar
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I've always been attracted to masculine men — guys who like watching sports, eating burgers, and drinking beer. Of course I like them to have some sensitive qualities, too, but overall, I like a guy's guy. On the flip side, I have a friend that's always been attracted to guys on the more feminine side — guys who would rather watch a romantic comedy than a thriller, cat guys verses dog guys, and guys who sip on Chardonnay instead of big, bold Zinfandels. Some may argue that guys who like stereotypical girly things are even more of a man than an overt macho man, but tell me ladies, is a guy that likes girly things a turn on or a turn off in your book?

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  • AujahAcorn's picture
    AujahAcorn
    1

    i have had long time relationships with both types of guys. i wish i could do a combo of both.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • AKirstin's picture
    AKirstin
    2

    I like a man (and people in general) who doesn't readily fit into any stereotype.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • gabiushka's picture
    gabiushka
    3

    More towards a man man, my husband is very manly in his tastes but still a sensitive guy.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Lovely_1's picture
    Lovely_1
    4

    My guy is pretty much in the middle Smiling
    Well maybe more masculine...
    But still I think he's perfect!
    He likes his guy tings...cars, bikes, beer, BBQ food...
    But he scretly likes some girly things too...my kitty, good salads and stir-frys...

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • mondaymoos's picture
    mondaymoos
    5

    I'll be honest... I prefer a man's man. But I'm not a particularly sensitive person... and I don't think I'd have a good relationship with someone that was.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • annbaby's picture
    annbaby
    6

    I'd like it if he personally was into guy stuff, but had fun with girly stuff when I'm involved (chick flicks, shopping, etc).

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • TidalWave's picture
    TidalWave
    7

    I hate saying this, but a guy who is a bit more feminine is a huge turn off for me. I don't want the guy to be an *sshole or anything but keeping up on sports and being able to change his oil are definitely things i think all guys should do.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • GlowingMoon's picture
    GlowingMoon
    8

    I prefer a man's man, too. I like the strong, silent types -- a man of few words. A capable man. And the only girly thing he like is ME. Smiling

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Sun_Sun's picture
    Sun_Sun
    9

    mans man...handy man, sporty, likes his manly meals
    with a litte bit of....great dresser, clean and sensitive
    = my hubby
    just how i like it

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Neekoh's picture
    Neekoh
    10

    I'd count a girly guy as a turn-on. I think it's nice to be able to talk to him like a girl friend. Although, I also have to add the disclaimer that, if he is overly girly, I'm turned off... no chick flicks, please!

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • brielleblonde's picture
    brielleblonde
    11

    one of my good guy friend's doesn't watch football, or any sports for that matter. And he takes longer to get ready then i do! I could never be attracted to him romantically because of these traits. UGH!

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • zabrow's picture
    zabrow
    12

    before my last boyfriend, i'd always dated guys that are super sensitive & cried more than i did. since i dated my guy's-guy boyfriend, i'll never go back to the sensitive artist crying types ever again.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • xxhaleighxx's picture
    xxhaleighxx
    14

    i like sensitive guys but i wanna be the one who cries on his shoulder not the other way around.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • dollhouse's picture
    dollhouse
    15

    Men that like GIRLY things is such a TURN OFF, ugh. i like me a man's man. At the same time i like a man who is willing to do or go alone with ceratin girly things (like to go watch SATC w/ me) just because I LIKE doing them, not cause thats what they like.

    lol i wouldnt be able to stand a girly guy at all

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • AujahAcorn's picture
    AujahAcorn
    16

    After reading some of your responses, Yeah... I guess I do like that my man can fix anything and stuff like that. he's my hunk hehehehe

    but he also likes fluffy cute fat cats and other things along those lines.... so whatever. maybe I do have best of both worlds. Although he is not much of a feelings express-er. lol!

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • jacrabbit84's picture
    jacrabbit84
    17

    I think it's nice to find a guy who's a happy medium...it's so much more fun if he's willing to something silly/girly with you once in awhile, but seriously there is nothing sexier, IMHO, than broad shoulders, callouses, and chiseled features...mmm! No girlie men for me, please.

    For you country fans...listen to Brad Paisley's "I'm Still A Guy"...love it!!!

    "I'll pour out my heart, hold your hand in the car,
    Write a love song that makes you cry,
    Then turn right around, knock some jerk to the ground
    'Cause he copped a feel as you walked by."

    A sensitive dude who can kick someone's @$$, heck yeah.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • havok636's picture
    havok636
    18

    my guy is a cat person,
    can only handle about one beer,
    and when he told me he was looking at buying a mustang,
    i asked him was year it was, and he said "i don't know...but it's green!"

    but on the other hand, he's a diehard football and basketball fan, hates cuddling, and spends most of his day on his xbox 360.

    so he's a pretty good balance.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • tomatoshirt's picture
    tomatoshirt
    19

    Man likes girly things scares me a lil - always keeps me wonder if he likes boys instead...

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • legallyblonde's picture
    legallyblonde
    20

    The guy I'm currently seeing has a good mix of feminine and masculine qualities! He loves his mom, loves to cook, puts bugs outside rather than kill them, and is excited to see the new SaTC movie with me this weekend. On the flip side, he loves cars, is a firefighter and used to be a power lifter.

    So yeah...my answer to the question is that I like men who are in touch with their feminine side without sacrificing their manhood.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • bengalspice's picture
    bengalspice
    21

    I'm dating a cat guy ... and I love him for being one. His two black cats are simply adorable ... when they're not clawing the hell out of his gadgets.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • looseseal's picture
    looseseal
    22

    Men can like things that are typically categorized as "girly" without being, well, a "girly man". Anyone watch Pushing Daisies? I like how Emerson Cod is such a gruff, no BS man, but he likes to knit. It's just so fun.

    I agree about not being attracted to over-sensitive, over-fussy types - but those kinds of character traits don't look good on either gender. It's not a matter of needing a "manly man".

    Strictly defined gender roles bug me. I hate it when men dismiss women who're successful or know her way around sports and auto-repairs or fight really well as "something wrong with her. Must be a lesbian." So I try not to turn around and do pretty much that same thing to the guys.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Sporky's picture
    Sporky
    24

    My bf was SUCH the masculine he-man type when I met him. And was not a cat lover. I inherited 2 kitties and now, he's still my manly-man (won't wear anything pink, seriously! it's so ridiculous!), but secretly LOVES da kittehs. I think he's getting softer in his old age and it's very cute and endearing to me.

    I must say, I've dated (and married) guys who were more on the sensitive side my whole life, and this is my first more masculine type, and I love it.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Zendakin's picture
    Zendakin
    25

    I am a man and I adore so called "girly" things. I also love doing my "manly" thing as well. I am extremely fond of my pedicures and my manicures as much as I am my poker nights and my football with the boys. I have a huge propensity to go to the salon with my female friends and have a girls day and I love it!

    Is this a turn on or a turn off? I don't know. For me though I can say that being 6'4" and being the only male in the salon is quite an experience. I believe more men should experience this and be more comfortable doing what they want to do rather then what they think they should do. In women I find that it's the confidence to do your own thing that is attractive and I would wager that would be quite similar.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • xxkrist24xx's picture
    xxkrist24xx
    26

    I didn't think loving cats was a girly thing... but in that case, my guy is definitely a mix too. He loves cats (although they have to be cats with some fight in them, haha), is obsessed with sports (essential, since I am too), loves showing off his muscles, and thinks facial hair (on himself of course) is the coolest thing ever. But, he likes to cuddle and is clueless about anything car related... it's a good balance.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • emalove's picture
    emalove
    28

    Oh, and I don't think of liking cats as a "girly" thing...

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • aeschere's picture
    aeschere
    29

    i'm not really attracted to the man's man type... and i'm glad my new boyfriend loves cats like i do Smiling .. except he likes thrillers too. my ex loved romantic comedies, which was great!

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • firedancer's picture
    firedancer
    30

    I like a guy who has a few different sides to his personality, someone who can watch sex & the city with me, have some wine...and yet still enjoy watching sports and being a real man. I think doing 'girly things' make a guy a real man

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Meike's picture
    Meike
    31

    Turn on. I favor these so-called 'feminine' qualities which is common among European men. Effeminate qualities != hypersensitivity

    My husband is pretty even-keeled with feminine tendencies. It makes our relationship easy. He loves cooking, adores cats, likes stuff animals, dresses sharp, enjoys 'feminine' activities (shopping, romantic comedies, spas, dancing) with me, does not drink most alcohol, eats significantly less meat than your typical U.S. male, possesses an observant eye and sensitive ear, communicates effectively with everyone including me, tears up at emotionally driven movies, lusts after 'girly' cars (Smart Cars, Beetles, Mini-Coopers), etc.

    He also preoccupies himself with everything CS/EE, delves into all other nerd'esque related topics, is literally able to fix anything in our household, goes to the gym when he can, and is not afraid to stand his ground given the context of the situation. He won't ever try to be a hero except for those who love him. When he hangs with his mates, they may have a bbq cookout once in a while but mostly, their time is spent on programming, mathematics, and engineering.

    I dislike the stereotypical sports-watching, beer-drinking, burger-eating macho men. I personally find such types a huge turn off. I love seeing my man hit the gym rather than sitting at home watching sports. I love that his system is clean of alcohol and his judgment is never impaired. I love that I have a husband whose healthy diet mirrors my own. In the end, it is about us sharing our ideals and lifestyle together and that makes us happy.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • inertia's picture
    inertia
    34

    I don't think I could date a stereotypically masculine man. I tried it once and we couldn't have a conversation. We had nothing to talk about and when we did find a topic, his point of view was so different that it was almost like talking to an alien. If I was a tomboy and liked things like sports and cars myself that would be one thing, but I'm not and don't want a relationship without communication.

    The men I'm attracted to and get along with have a variety of interests that include some "feminine" things. I think it makes them sexy, not effeminate.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • divinedebris's picture
    divinedebris
    36

    I love a manly man.... but I also like a man that isn't afraid of talking about things and being slightly sensitive.
    A good mix but more manly. Smiling

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • sundaygreen's picture
    sundaygreen
    37

    Somewhere inbetween.

    A man who is rugged, can grow a beard, has body hair, has visible muscles, doesn't use more products than me, can saw a plank in half - but also likes reading design books, clips his toenails, will order wine at a restaurant, owns a good suit....

    You know, the perfect man.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • sparklestar's picture
    sparklestar
    38

    My guy likes doing outdoorsy stuff, loves cuddling and being touched and will happily take over the kitchen for mealtimes. ;p

    At the same time he'll also kick my ass in the gym and he's very protective of me so it's all good. Laughing out loud

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Leene's picture
    Leene
    39

    I'm with sundaygreen on this. You put it well together.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • SusanTeufel's picture
    SusanTeufel
    40

    My fiance dislikes sports, loves animals, cooking, cuddling, and will give me an opinion of "what should I wear" if I ask for it, and uses shampoo as good as mine. On the other hand, he's a full on geek (so am I), I usually have to dress him, and he enjoys eating lots of meat, lol...

    So I love me a less masculine man.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • pure-perfection's picture
    pure-perfection
    41

    60:40 More towards the masculine side. but still, he has to have some kinda lady in him to make him understand more abt US! okay, maybe 70:30, too much of a lady can be a turn off!

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • bingkaycoy's picture
    bingkaycoy
    42

    I love my husband's interest in the TV show, "Friends". He loved the movie, "50 First Dates" and he had liked the story of the "Devil Wears Prada". He used to have a cat. Other than those stuff, he is a manly man. After all, he is guitarist in a rock band, loves baseball so much, engages in jujitsu and a he is a black-belter in karate.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • bingkaycoy's picture
    bingkaycoy
    43

    Oh and my husband loves to cook ----not just ordinary meals, but exotic ones.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • bbkf's picture
    bbkf
    44

    I love a manly man. I don't need another woman in the house.

    22 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment

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