i asked my bf...but never really got a REAL number...
i honestly don't even know mine too - i tend to block out lots of things from the past.

That is the one question in my book thats None of anyones business. The only question thats relevant and related is "have had sex" and if yes than "have you been tested" you should never ask "how many" or offer it up, its crude

Yeah... I asked my guy what his number was at the beginning of the relationship and he wouldn't tell me because according to him, "It's never a good conversation." Now I guess I can see how that is so. He was my 1st and he knew that, but he was also 6 years older than I was so yeah I can see how he could have racked up a few. But he was honest about being tested. So I can't hold anything against him.

same here, ThePerfectScore - i asked my bf early in our relationship on a weekend away, which also happened to be the first weekend we became intimate...and he said "i don't even want to go there." i guess it's not really my business, so i let it go. i don't really want to tell mine either, not because it's really high, but i dont want to invite commentary, really. plus, not high to me might be high to someone else...you never know

I never ask because I don't want to know, nor do I want to disclose my number. I'd lie if someone asked me, so what's the point?! I'd be like... "Is 'somewhere between 3 and 30' a good enough answer?" Haha.

It seems that if people were more honest about a lot of things there would be less cases of STI's. According to another article that was posted today, the number of herpes cases in NYC has increased. Ick.

I asked, but out of curiosity, and I never got a definitive answer.

Same as ThePerfectScore, he was my first so he knows my number. But he is 10 years older than me, and was kind of wild as a teenager/twentysomething, so I'm sure he has me beat by a few.

I couldn't imagine him or i going above one, I am not even worried about hearing an answer i don't like. If you keep THAT number private than why dont you keep YOUR PRIVATES PRIVATE!!! i dont want half the city inside me!... no wonder aids and STIs is so prevalent in our society.. can anyone keep their pants on and be patient??

I asked, but well into our relationship and just as a matter of curiousity. I was floored 'cause it was WAY higher than mine!

ok - I had to laugh out loud at glamourous wink. But I think you're so right about it.

I am definitely curious, but I don't want know! The past is the past...

i wouldn't care, as long as i knew he was safe.

I never asked but I know because he said it once (before we ever started having sex) when we were just hanging out with a group of friends one night. I think one of our friends may have asked him out of curiosity since he said he's never been able to keep a girlfriend for very long but kept sharing stories about girls he'd slept with.

This isn't making him sound like a very good guy. heh. But he's great with me and I won't hold his past against him (especially since we're in college).

I asked, asked and asked...So he told me hehehe...

This article was published on Divine Caroline on April 13th 2007.

Dear, can you please explain exactly how this thing works again? I thought you were going to be a guest but your answer doesn't show up at all. Plus, these are all really old.

Is this a partnership or a one-sided deal or what? I'm seriously confused.

my boyfriend & i shared our numbers after we'd been dating maybe a month or two. it was out of curiosity & hearing his number (strangely) didn't upset me or make me jealous or make me wonder about him or anything, even though his number is way higher than mine. all that i really cared about was that he was safe & STI free.

I knew my boyfriend's number before we started dating because we were friends (he's been with 2 now including me).

Mine is a closely guarded secret though... and he's never asked.

"More than you" is the assumption. ;p

My bf has my number and I have his "estimate" lol. My bf actually guess my #, exact... lol It's not an issue for me; I was curious and everyone has a past. I would only get jealous about the present...

i've asked every guy i've been involved with (with the exception of one, it was probably in the 100s or something... manwh*re!). i just like to know... and asking that also leads me into the STI convo (have you been tested, etc. etc.) if the number is higher than i expect (and it has been a couple of times) i am taken aback, but it usually doesn't stop me-- what's in the past is in the past.

My friend gave her number and the guy freaked out and said that whatever number a girls says has to be doubled cause she cuts her real number in half. He couldn't get over the fact that she's slept with more people than he has.

*The past is in past for a reason* Great quote! Amen!
I don't want to know numbers. Because your right it does add fuel to the jealousy fire! And that kills a relationship!

Never ask. Its is one of those conversations you just don't need to have. First of all..so what. Does it change anything? I mean it happened already so what ae you going to do about it. Unless you are worried this person has slept with so many people that they may have STIs or what not...but than the convo should be about STIs and not numbers..because you can get STIs by sleeping with only one person who has it anyways.

Secondly SOMEONE will invariably feel inadequate and someone will invariably feel slutty. So why bother with someone that will just make trouble and accomplish nothing.