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Do Celebrities Make You Feel Better or Worse About Yourself?

Mon, 06/09/2008 - 2:00pm by DearSugar
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It's no secret that Americans have a fascination with celebrities. Of course knowing that they live in a completely different world than we do makes admiring them from a far all the more fun, but new research shows that praising celebrities can actually improve self-esteem in those that suffer from low self-esteem. Jaye L. Derrick and Shira Gabriel of the University at Buffalo said:

Connections to celebrities — or parasocial relationships — can allow people with low-self esteem to view themselves more positively. . . . These parasocial relationships, which have very low risk of rejection, offer low self-esteem people an opportunity to reduce their self-discrepancies and feel closer to their ideal selves.

While I find this research interesting, I happen to feel the exact opposite — though I would never want to be a celebrity myself, I do look at them through envious eyes. It's their perfect exterior that makes me feel inferior, even though I'm fully aware of all the help, time, and effort it takes to make them look that way. What about you? How do you feel when you compare yourself to celebrities? Do they make you feel better or worse about yourself?

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  • MartiniLush's picture
    MartiniLush
    1

    I guess it depends...If I am comparing myself to, say, Natalie Portman, I might feel worse about myself cuz she is so perfect. But then, I could compare myself to, say, Britney Spears, I tend to feel pretty dang good about myself! Eye-wink

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • stephley's picture
    stephley
    2

    I would say it works out to a 50-50 split - some days I feel like a total schlub and think even the stupidest actress looks better and is more successful than I am, other days I notice all their imperfections and insecurities and feel just fine about being me. When I was younger, I probably measured myself more harshly but as we've all gotten older I've realized that behind every perfect seeming person is a mess they hope no one finds out about.

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • AujahAcorn's picture
    AujahAcorn
    4

    I think i see it as it is. I have been around my share of "celebrities". they get wasted, say stupid things, cry about boyfriends, act superior or they try there hardest to be noncelebrity-ish.

    all in all i don't feel any different than when i compare myself to a beautiful woman walking down the street. btw, i hate it when i do that.

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • GlowingMoon's picture
    GlowingMoon
    5

    Uh, I don't compare myself to celebrities, or to anybody for that matter. I view another person as a disconnected individual, separate from me. That's the truth of the situation.

    I think I have a strong sense of boundaries. I know where I end, and where someone else begins. I do not relate my ideas of myself based on someone else. That's blurring the boundaries. If blurred the boundaries, that's like saying I feel cold because someone else sneezed. That's irrational (not to mention laughable).

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Marci's picture
    Marci
    6

    I usually feel pretty good about myself, but I'd be lying if I said there aren't days when a photo of a celebrity can make me wistful and wish I had different attributes. But that's rare, thankfully.

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • brookrene's picture
    brookrene
    8

    i'm going with the usually worse too. It's funny, when i was in high school, i had all the self-confidence in the world (when it came to my body anyway) and i was about 20 lbs heavier! Now i weigh less and though i'm more confident about myself, my body confidence has slowly gone downhill. I attribute a lot of it to growing up in a small midwestern town, and have for the past 7 years been living in a major city. Lots of more beautiful girls around.

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • austerity's picture
    austerity
    9

    Better, definitely. I love to draw inspiration from their styles and looks and define them in my own way. I'm very confident about my looks and body, I guess that helps a lot.

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • Silverlining10's picture
    Silverlining10
    11

    Celebrities kind of make me feel better because I know all the preparation that went into making their face and their body. I also know they have access to miracle creams, make up and fitness trainers that make them perfect, and they just always seem so fake to me. People like that I'm natural and I don't need to be "made up." That makes me feel good about myself. When I look at a celebrity or a model that looks stunning in pictures, I realize that if someone did my make-up, I could look just that good. I believe in the power of make-up to do anything! Just look at celebrities without make-up! They're blotchy, gray and saggy. No need to feel inferior to these people!

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • JaimeLeah526's picture
    JaimeLeah526
    12

    Stephley actually said it just how I was going to. It totally depends on who I'm comparing myself to. If the person is a trainwreck I definitely feel better about myself.

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • jillerin457's picture
    jillerin457
    13

    They generally make me feel fat an in need of laser treatments, but also remarkably chaste and well-read.

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • divinedebris's picture
    divinedebris
    14

    It depends on the celebrity, but I'm jealous as heck. It's not all about how they look it's more about the success and creative freedom, that some musicians and artists enjoy.
    A part of me wants to have more in life and I envy the celebrities that look like it comes so easy to them.

    23 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • bbkf's picture
    bbkf
    16

    The only time I compare myself to celebrities is when I'm thinking, "it's a shame someone so uneducated gets paid so well and has an audience for his/her opinion!"

    23 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • Kristinh1012's picture
    Kristinh1012
    17

    I would never compare myself to someone who basically has the world at their finger tips. I have pretty solid confidence and a fair measure of self-esteem. But if anything they just make me wish I had their money! As that is my biggest worry, never having enough money it seems!

    But I really don't think anyone outside of "celebrity life" should ever feel bad about themselves because someone can easily drop $500 bucks on high end products that transform their face in an instant. Ever see the celebrities without makeup pics?

    23 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • alethia037's picture
    alethia037
    18

    I don't really compare myself to celebrities... I don't see the need to!

    23 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • missmari's picture
    missmari
    19

    I would have to say I agree with the research. I think that's probably the only reason I come to the celeb photo section of this site. I feel good about seeing certain celebrities who look more like normal people but are beautiful. Seeing certain actors/musicians makes me feel even better about my own body. And I wouldn't say that I have low self-esteem; it's just refreshing and a source of affirmation to see someone who has a body similar to yourself. Since I don't look at superthin celebrities for that affirmation, it doesn't negatively affect my psyche. Also, I think my admiration of musicians and actors probably got me through some tough times in high school.

    23 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • vmruby's picture
    vmruby
    20

    Neither..... I don't see the point in the comparing myself with any celebrity. I'm happy being me so it's all good.

    23 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • wadewifey3's picture
    wadewifey3
    21

    Ya they have money, but they get followed by the razzi, there whole life is on blast. Ya sometimes cuz my hair is jacked up or i don't have a six pack but most of the time I'm fine. I just wish i had more money. I would want to be Royalty not celebrity!!

    23 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • Isista's picture
    Isista
    22

    I don't compare myself to celebrities. They're human just like everyone else, so I don't see a point.

    23 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • CaterpillarGirl's picture
    CaterpillarGirl
    23

    I could never compare myself to someone I dont know. It would be like comparing one book to one you have never read but only saw the cover.

    23 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • K is For Kait's picture
    K is For Kait
    24

    Whenever I see celebrities who everyone worships for no appropriate reason (i.e. the Lindsay Lohans and The Hills cast members of the world) mess up, I can't help but feel better about myself.

    23 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • michelle c's picture
    michelle c
    27

    I think it depends on my mood. I don't have very high self esteem, but in general I try and keep a positive out look if I can. I normally look to celebrities for inspiration, I like Natalie Portman, I think shes beautiful and smart and successful. But I'm not really that interested in most celebrities.

    22 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment

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