I agree with Sugar... but it is easy to say than done. My friend, who is 43, has the same problem. It is fraustrating to see my friend to get hurt...I can't really do anything but listen.

"I strongly believe that there's just no way to have a successful relationship unless you're completely satisfied being alone — it's that alone time that gives you the ability to reflect on past relationships and really understand what it is you want out of future ones."

Truer words were never spoken. After realizing this myself, I went through this with a dear friend who kept jumping from loser guy to loser guy, saying every time "he's the one" and getting her heart broken each time. Once she spent some time alone and figured out what SHE really wanted, she met a great guy who respects and loves her a lot.

This is my exact situation with my youngest Aunt. (37 years old) Believe me, there is no way to tell her this. I have often thought to myself that as soon as she's comfortable and HAPPY with herself as a single and COMPLETE person, she will never be able to make a relationship work.

its like ur talking about my sister. and i cant really say anything. shes too sensitive and defensive and easily offended.
i mean i think every woman would like to have good relationship, but the difference is that some women would take the relationship whether or not its good. thats unfortunate.

A few months ago I had to be straight up with my friend who, though very young, is always dating losers.
She puts herself in these situations, wants to "give it a try because he could be the one", even though she plans never to be married. Anyway shes one big ball of confusion and I am tired of hearing about it.

I was on the phone with her and told her exactly how I felt about the BOYS she dated and her patterns. Of course she got defensive but as the conversation went on I realized that talking to her was more for me. I needed her to know that I know her patterns, wished she would changed, wished her well and a few advice. Now that all of that is out the way I no longer care to hear about her failed relationships and she knows that.

My ears are no longer filled with BS for most hours of the day. Though she hasnt changed at least she knows where I stand with her crap.

Sooooo true.

hmm well I agree with Dear in theory but there can come a point where your friend is trapped in a cycle and needs a genuine caring wake-up. Sometimes always being there to pick up the pieces just enables them to continue being dependent (on guys and you). I won't rant about it but I was in this situation with a friend for a while and you can end up dorwning in their problems becasue you love them and want to be there for them but its really not always good for either of you.

The most important thing you need to remember is that it's not your responsibility to clean up the mess. I've been in this situation and I just told my friend I love you and I think you deserve better than these losers and that I cannot be there to pick up the pieces when things go bad, it hurts me too much to see you like this. She then either makes the decision not to be with the losers or goes to someone else when the problems occur. You can be the fun friend she has and you can take her out to get over the guy and take her mind off of it without having to talk about all the details.