I said undecided, because in real life if I was your friend, I would probably think it was funny (especially if he had been mean to you in the past)...but if I were his friend, I'd be SO mad at a girl who did that to my friend. I'm not saying what you're doing is right, it's actually pretty mean. You can feel power from doing other things, just cut the cord already and move on.

Do not toy with emotions like that. When an ex comes back and really wants to try work things out, they are probably putting forth some emotional investment. Toying with his feelings like this will only lead to you causing him more pain and may have unforeseen circumstances. If you are not going to work with him to get your relationship back on track then please do not mislead him. The worst thing that a woman can do to a man is play with his emotions giving him false hope that they can get back together and then one day just act as if it was never going to happen

Sorry but I'm undecided too. I actually did this to an ex a few years ago after he cheated on me with my friend. When things w/ her didn't work out he realized what he had with me and tried to come back. Honestly, I LOVED playing w/ his emotions and then after everything was said and done I left a voicemail on his cell phone telling him everything. It felt sooo good. He was such a jerk so I can relate to what the girl is saying.

it totally depends on why you broke up and what kind of guy he is
a guy who cheated totally deserves to know what it feels like to have a broken heart
otherwise, after an amicable breakup with a good guy, this wouldn't be forgivable
not enough details are given for me to decide!

There are just two situations in which toying with his emotions are 'ok' in my opinion:
- He seriously hurt you in the past (cheating, or maybe he was the one who suddenly broke up) like commenters above said
- You've decided you want him after all (for a second chance), but you're lengthening the 'chase'

If you honestly have NO intentions of not getting back with him...NOT FORGIVE. Sounds like a self-esteem problem if you are being mean to someone else to feel better about yourself.

It is so wrong to mess with people's heads.. call it toying if you want to - I call it bullying, and I abhor bullies.

You are so wrong! But at the same time...work it girl, men do this to women ALL THE TIME, hehe.

well if he did u wrong, then GO FOR IT
if it was amicable, dont do that

Are you so pathetic that you need this little power trip to make yourself feel good?

That's so sad. Get a life for God's sake.

just remember that's karma will come back to bite you.

Worst case scenario....he turns psycho when he finds out and wants "retribution"...the "physical" kind...the YOU "laying on a ditch" kind...

dramatic...yes...possible...yeah, it's happened.

OH...and KARMA is a b*tch!

Unforgive. I think you need to grow up. I'm glad you find STOOPING to his level exhilarating because to the rest of the world it's immature.

When a guy does the same to you in the near future, I look forward to reading that story!

If he never cheated on you, you are possibly turning him into a guy who hates commitment...ruining him for other women.

Stop being immature.

oh by the way, try to keep yourself physically safe. considering he is your ex. he probably knows your address.

This doesn't sound healthy at all...and I'm mostly talking about you. Move on, and stop playing games. What's the point indulging in such negative behavior. Plus, it could be dangerous for you...physically. It's time to grow up.

I have been cheated on by an ex, and he came crawling back, after he realized how stupid he was to let me go....

I had absolutely no intention of getting back with him ever, and I will admit that for a second I thought about how good it would feel to hurt him the same way he hurt me...but then I realized...I am a grown ass woman, and why would I lower myself to that level? What good does it do? If that brings joy to your life....well then I would suggest that you get a life.

Last time I heard that line from a friend about her ex, it was actually a cover for her because she did want to get back with him, even after all the crappy stuff he did to her. She made it sound just like you are, that she was just f'ing with him for revenge, but then it quickly turned into jumping back into bed with him.
If you're done with him, then be done and move on completely. Don't waste your time screwing with his head. Not healthy for either of you.

i'm also undecided. it depends on if he did anything in the past to deserve it. And I'd be careful to not take it TOO far.

i hate it when people do that. total crap. it's games like these that really screw people up.