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Sex: The Long and Short of It

Fri, 05/02/2008 - 7:00am by DearSugar
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Since I write so much about sex and relationships, I got to thinking about the connection between the two. It's a very personal decision for a couple to decide when they're ready for that intimate step, but when the time feels right, they'll know. Everyone has a different comfort level, and every relationship is unique. Sometimes it feels right to really get to know someone first (a few months, a couple years, or even waiting until marriage), and then other times, when the passion is so strong, you can't help but rip each other's clothes off after only one date!

So I was wondering, when it comes to sex and your relationships, what's the longest amount of time you waited until doing the deed? What about the shortest amount of time?

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  • BlueKitten's picture
    BlueKitten
    1

    3.5 years, until we were married. Looking back, I think waiting was a little ridiculous.

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • bengalspice's picture
    bengalspice
    2

    To be honest, I didn't even want to wait with my current boyfriend because I was so attracted to him ... but it was 3 months into the relationship before we went down that path. I wouldn't change that decision at all.

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • subtleheights's picture
    subtleheights
    3

    I waited six months with the first guy i ever dated and six months with the guy i am with currently. i have done sooner with others. i think it wont hurt if you wait , yet some may say what the heck.if you are thinking long term i think its worth the wait and work on other things like really getting to know the person.besides i think it cuts down on the list of "I slept with".

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Greentea1203's picture
    Greentea1203
    4

    Well, with one of my ex's that I dated for 2 yrs, I slept with him the first night. My ex of three years I waited a week or so--I didn't think it would end up a long term so I didn't wait too long--and my boyfriend now was about 1 week or so--I don't think we could have waited any longer--the tension was right up there the moment we met.

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Masqueraded_Angel's picture
    Masqueraded_Angel
    5

    With my hubby, I waited maybe around 2 months or so...but that was because I was technically with someone else and I needed to end that relationship before I even got remotely physical with my hubby. And come this July, we'll have been married for 3 years. Laughing out loud

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • aimeeb's picture
    aimeeb
    6

    Uhhh 2nd/3rd date and my first serious boyfriend uhhhh 5mnths.

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • brittanyk's picture
    brittanyk
    7

    My fiance is a firm believer in waiting until marriage, so I have yet to sleep with him. We've been together a little over 2 years. That's definitely the longest I've ever waited to sleep with someone.

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Beaner's picture
    Beaner
    8

    With my first boyfriend, whom i lost my virginity to (aww), I waited three years. Then after that, with my current man, I waited one week. I found that after you finally do it the first time, and get used to being in a sexual relationship, it's hard not to do it soon after you start dating other guys.

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • tweet hotpants's picture
    tweet hotpants
    9

    i've only had one partner- my husband, and we waited until we got married. it was about 2 1/2 years, and it was REALLY hard to be that patient. Smiling i think it was worth it though.

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • sparklestar's picture
    sparklestar
    11

    Longest - 18 months (he was a christian, but I swayed him... wasn't worth it!)
    Shortest - 6 hours (with current boyfriend but we've known each other for 2 years)

    Laughing out loud

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • bluepuppybites's picture
    bluepuppybites
    12

    The longest I have waited was a month with my now husband. We fell in love right away. The shortest, well that doesn't matter anymore because I'm with the man I love.

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • misslarue's picture
    misslarue
    13

    I slept with my husband the night we met. I picked him up in a bar in our tiny little town and the rest is history!

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • stefsprl's picture
    stefsprl
    14

    I've only ever been with my hubby, and we waited until we got married, which was exactly a year after we met. I'm glad we waited, but that's easy to say now that we've been married for two years...it was really difficult!

    28 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • kikidawn's picture
    kikidawn
    15

    I've only been with one guy (and still with him! 5 1/2 years now!!) We waited 8 months. We were young though!

    28 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • pink_elephant's picture
    pink_elephant
    16

    Ha! when I first read the title of this topic I totally thought it was about something else!! Smiling

    28 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • Lambsauce's picture
    Lambsauce
    17

    Erm... ok. With my boyfriend, my first, only, and current, we waited... about 5-10 minutes after deciding to become "official". We had our first official date the following night.
    To be perfectly fair, we were "kind of" together for three months before that.
    I admit, I do regret it slightly, because I had to persuade him a bit--he was terrified that I'd get pregnant the moment we did it, even with me on the pill and him wearing a condom and he didn't even finish. But I've apologised, he's forgiven me, and we're still together (and I've still gone unimpregnated) two years later, so it's all good. Smiling

    28 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • kenziebaby's picture
    kenziebaby
    18

    shortest was my current, it was ten days... it felt like forever thought Sticking out tongue
    longest was two years, it was the first boyfriend and first time.

    28 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • emalove's picture
    emalove
    19

    The shortest length of time was the first date (oops) and the longest for me was about a year (I was only 15 when I started dating him and wanted to wait until I was 16).

    28 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • dreamweaver's picture
    dreamweaver
    20

    I'm still still waiting...3.5 years, but he's my first boyfriend and I want to wait until I'm married. I must say though compared to my other friends, I'm glad we're waiting. It seems like there is a lot more strain on my friends relationships and when they break it's ten times worse since they have left something with that other person.

    28 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • Ruthiroo's picture
    Ruthiroo
    21

    14 months. The amount of time from the first date with my husband til our honeymoon. He's been my one and only.

    I do remember the waiting being nearly impossible, but then the honeymoon was indescribable!

    28 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • Meike's picture
    Meike
    22

    I've only had one partner, my husband. One first date was all it took. Lol.

    28 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • Silverlining10's picture
    Silverlining10
    23

    WOW. This article title definitely had me thinking this was going to be about size. HAHAHA.

    Shortest: a few hours
    Longest: I think 3rd or 4th date...

    Of course, I haven't slept with many people, so I don't feel like this is a set pattern for me.

    28 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • ThePerfectScore's picture
    ThePerfectScore
    24

    Um 6 months... but I mean he was my 1st and only everything... I highly doubt he will be my last... so I will keep you posted on any future occurrences haha

    28 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • Beastiegirl5's picture
    Beastiegirl5
    25

    Shortest- 3 weeks, longest, 2.5 years.

    It's really dependent on how the relationship is progressing, I suppose.

    28 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • Sophie13's picture
    Sophie13
    26

    The longest was 2.5 years with my first boyfriend. Now with my husband I think we waited about a month.

    28 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • alltherage's picture
    alltherage
    27

    shortest 4 weeks longest 3 months.... depends on the relationship and maturity. i think.

    28 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • fasdy's picture
    fasdy
    28

    My shortest and longest is 15 days after we first met. Our sexiversary is also our anniversary and we've been together for 2 years and 7 months since then.

    28 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • MissChita's picture
    MissChita
    29

    I've slept with guys the first night I met them - but most did not end up in a relationship. It was a one night stand or sometimes a sex buddy sort of thing. But with my recent ex, I slept w/ him on the first night and now I wish I would have waited. I dont know if the outcome of our relationship would have been different, but I feel it could have help. But whats done is done. The longest I have waited was about a month.

    24 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment

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