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Dear Poll: Do You Consider Your Significant Other Your Best Friend?

Fri, 04/25/2008 - 12:00pm by DearSugar
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One of the best parts about dating that special someone is that he or she is not only your lover but your friend, too. While maintaining pre-boyfriend friendships is important, some people aren't as eager since they feel like they have everything they need condensed into one person. I personally think there's a big difference between the relationships we have with our BFFs versus the ones we have with our significant others, but what's your stance on this issue? Do you consider your significant other your best friend?


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  • Beaner's picture
    Beaner
    3

    He's my favorite person to be around since he knows me so well. I can tell him anything, do anything, and I know he'll always love and respect me.

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • imLissy's picture
    imLissy
    5

    It's hard to say. I can't really compare our relationship to the one I have with my best friend. They're so different. There's things that I do and talk about with him and things I do and talk about with her. They're both my best friends and I can't imagine life without either one. I guess I'm closer to my bf considering we live together and see eachother every day and stuff. But my bff's like a sister to me.

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • misslarue's picture
    misslarue
    6

    Yep! There is no one else I laugh with as much! My Hubby is my favorite person to be around!

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Colleeninator's picture
    Colleeninator
    7

    He's definitely, absolutely my best friend, but my SECOND best friend is the one that I actually refer to as my best friend.

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Sun_Sun's picture
    Sun_Sun
    8

    i dont know
    im with my husband all the time, we laugh and talk about everything, we go everywhere together, i can trust him to no limit
    and then there are somee little things i can only talk about with my bff
    i dunno
    hes like the other part of me, so hes me, so he cant be my best friend
    oh whatever i cant explain it

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • jennifer76's picture
    jennifer76
    9

    He is absolutely my best friend. At the same time, having other friends is really important to me.

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Sydney C's picture
    Sydney C
    10

    Okay, well I guess I'm a bad girlfriend. I'm sorry, but my best friend and I have a 20 year history, which far trumphs the 2.5 years with the boyfriend. Sorry, but hos over bros for me!

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • luckyme's picture
    luckyme
    12

    Yup. To this day (I've known him for almost 10 years), I can think of nothing better to do than to spend all day with him (and now our 10 month old daughter too!).

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • vmruby's picture
    vmruby
    13

    Yes I do.....We met years ago and became really close friends before we ever started dating.He treats me the way a man should treat a woman. He is, hands down ,the best thing that has ever happened to me.

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • cherrylistic's picture
    cherrylistic
    14

    He's my only best friend i had a girl best friend and she was just so much drama....I think any girl best friend at one time or another will stabb you in the back i still have friends but my hubby he's the only one i tell EVERYTHNG about me to.

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • ninjastarlett's picture
    ninjastarlett
    15

    There are definitely things I can talk to my girls about that I can't talk to him about but he's my go-to for everything else. =)

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Renees3's picture
    Renees3
    16

    That's hard. I think they're different relationships. I've got a close group that I call my best friends (including my boyfriend of 4 years, my mom and 2 friends). They all know me very well and are important to me for different reasons

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • lms's picture
    lms
    17

    I think they are different relationships as well. I have known my best friend for 23 years and she knows everything about me and vice/versa. I have known my hubby for 15 years and while we know a lot about each other it is just not the same.

    Now, I do believe that guys and girls can who started as friends and then a relationship bloomed could be this way. I do think that some women tend to put all of themselves into a man and give up other friends.

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • rpenner's picture
    rpenner
    18

    I agree that they are different relationships. My SO does know me in ways that my best girl doesn't, but she also knows me in ways that he doesn't. She's lived my history with me, he's just been told it by me. But I live with my SO and we share a life together. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say but I don't think I can compare the two. I probably am at this point in our relationship closer to my SO then I am to my best friend but they're both very important people to me.

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • emalove's picture
    emalove
    19

    Absolutely! We have the BEST time together and enjoy each other's company so much.

    9 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • seraphimm's picture
    seraphimm
    20

    But you can't have small talk with your boyfriend about your boyfriend's cute or annoying habits Sticking out tongue

    there's SOMETHING about girl talk that CAN'T BE BEAT. Definitely. My bf and I tell each other everything but we can't have the same giggly "OMG I KNOW RIGHT?" BFF talks, you know what I'm talking about Smiling

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • Silverlining10's picture
    Silverlining10
    21

    Sometimes, when there are things about my boyfriend I want to discuss with someone other than him, I become frustrated because he's my best friend. However, I've never been more open and honest to anybody else than I have with him (and vice versa). I've also never felt more accepted and loved for who I am than with him...Well, other than my dad...Sort of.

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • julieulie's picture
    julieulie
    23

    I love my fiance more than anyone else in the world, but my best friend is my best friend. My best friend (who coincidentally is male, which I am sure will spark a lot of controversy later in life) knows more about me than ANYONE. It's just that my fiance works long hours and when he gets home and is exhausted, he doesn't want to know the little details of my day, and he hates lab research so he really doesn't want to know about it. My best friend, on the other hand, was a chemist before going to medical school, so he gets exited by what I do, and has always always made room in his day for my little rants. I feel so unbelievably lucky to have BOTH a man I am going to marry AND a best friend in the world world.

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • JaimeLeah526's picture
    JaimeLeah526
    24

    He's so far beyond all my friends and would do anything for me and I would for him.

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • brittanyk's picture
    brittanyk
    25

    He's absolutely my best friend. We were best friends for nearly 2 years before we decided to start dating.

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • Marci's picture
    Marci
    26

    He's the best friend I've ever had. JaimeLeah526 put it perfectly.

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • KadBunny's picture
    KadBunny
    27

    Definitely. Smiling Obviously there's some things he'll never understand (like PMSy, b*tchy girl stuff haha Sticking out tongue) but I have my best girlfriend for that. As far as someone who knows practically everything about me, every ounce of my being and talks to me and gets my dumb jokes like no one does--I only share that with him. Which makes sense since we were friends way before we started dating anyways. Like 13 yrs old. We started dating at 17. Smiling

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • Hootie's picture
    Hootie
    28

    Absolutely!

    I am married to my very best friend!
    It's amazing!

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • LadyP's picture
    LadyP
    29

    My husband is definatly my best friend Smiling I can be my goofy self around him and he's cool with it because he can be goofy as well. We have a lot of fun together.

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • GlowingMoon's picture
    GlowingMoon
    30

    Nope, my husband is my husband. And he's very dear to me.

    I'm my own best friend. I know this sounds crazy, but it's true. Smiling

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • aimeeb's picture
    aimeeb
    31

    He knows more about me than some of my actual best friends, so yes.

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • Zero_Cool's picture
    Zero_Cool
    32

    My guy is my world. He's definitely my best friend. And I am his. We are real homebody's and don't go out at all. I'm perfectly content spending every second with my honey and our dog!

    9 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment
  • nevaeh1978's picture
    nevaeh1978
    33

    Definitely.
    He knows EVERYTHING that's going on (vice versa) and things we don't even tell our friends Smiling

    9 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • bailaoragaditana's picture
    bailaoragaditana
    34

    It's not really something you can compare... I mean, my BFFs and I go back 15 years - which is a LOT when you're only 19 - and that sort of bond is just completely different than a romantic relationship, although those always start out as friendships...

    9 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • lolabella's picture
    lolabella
    35

    oh, hell no!

    my best friend has been with me for the past 25 years. he happens to be a gay male, but even if he were female it would be the same thing. i pester my best friend with the petty things that my husband would simply roll his eyes at. my best friend dresses me (and i him), and give each other relationship advice (well, we both know boys!).

    my husband is my rock, my confidante, my emotional provider. he is the father of my children, and will be buried next to me when i die. he is a good friend, but he is also my lover and my soul mate. i would never confuse the two.

    i think having your spouse as your best friend is completely creepy, like that woman alex and her eurotrash hubby on "the desperate housewives of NYC." [shudder] they are so pathetic, they cannot even be separated for a "girls night out" (she BROUGHT HIM WITH HER). they get spa pedis together! there is something inherently wrong there.

    a girl needs her girls, whether they were born with vaginas or not!

    9 weeks 4 days ago Report Comment
  • lolliriots's picture
    lolliriots
    36

    I love my boyfriend, he's someone I wouldn't mind seeing everyday, and spending everyday with. Sure I like my own time every now and again, but he's just my ideal person to be around.

    9 weeks 3 days ago Report Comment
  • jackandjlin's picture
    jackandjlin
    37

    My boyfriend is my best friend and I am his. Neither one of us are particularly very social so we don't have a huge group of friends, we have a lot of casual acquaintances.

    6 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment

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