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Do You Use Flattery to Break the Ice?

Wed, 04/23/2008 - 10:00am by DearSugar
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A few months ago I asked you all if you return a compliment when given one, and 71 percent of you said no. I also mentioned that flattering someone is a nice thing to do when breaking the ice, but now I want to pose a similar question in a different way: Do you ever compliment someone just to appease them, almost out of nervousness? Some of us do it as second nature because we know it feels good when people do it to us, but others aren't as forthcoming with accolades, especially to other women. So ladies, what I want to know is, do you offer up compliments as a way of breaking the ice, or do you leave that job to others?

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  • KathleenxCouture's picture
    KathleenxCouture
    1

    Sure, if the situation is awkward at first or something I will (honestly) use flattery to break the ice if need be.

    19 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • mn48225's picture
    mn48225
    3

    I noticed that I only do it to females because we are more adorned and easier to compliment. i.e. I love your earrings/hair/dress/sunglasses/shoes/bag/etc.

    19 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • almost famous's picture
    almost famous
    4

    Well you have to admit DearSugar, some people like to recieve than to give... So, I picked yes! It's nice to hear a compliment every once in a while!

    19 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • skigurl's picture
    skigurl
    5

    i don't think i do this, but i could definitely see it happening, so maybe i do and don't notice

    i have a good friend who compliments you when she feels uncomfortable though...and it's always over the top...if she is forced to hang out with a girl she doesn't like, she will be so nice and compliment everything about her, gushing over every aspect...and if she HATES the way something looks, and is so uncomfortable to have to lie and pretend she likes it (like a new hair cut or an article of clothing) she will gush over how nice it is...if she compliments you for too long, you know she doesn't like it

    19 weeks 2 days ago Report Comment
  • crackaddict's picture
    crackaddict
    6

    I do if I'm like in an awkward position or I feel shy but at work I would not do that.

    19 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • Sydney C's picture
    Sydney C
    8

    I do! If someone looks cute/ has something cute, I make sure to tell them!!

    19 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • AujahAcorn's picture
    AujahAcorn
    9

    i don't like when i do this. I try to call myself out on it and think before i speak. my nervousness gets the best of me sometimes. its always an honest compliment but in my eyes so obviously a nervous complement.

    19 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • Hannah426's picture
    Hannah426
    10

    Yes, I practically always compliment someone I dont feel 100% comfortable around. If I approach a girl that I know but dont REALLY know, then I'll always try to break the ice by saying "Your shirt is so cute. Where did you get it?" That way, I can start a conversation without things being awkward.

    19 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • juicylove's picture
    juicylove
    11

    if its an honest compliment then yes, if not then i dont think so.

    19 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • ninjastarlett's picture
    ninjastarlett
    13

    I have done it, yes. It doesn't always work but sometimes it really does break the ice.

    19 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • aimeeb's picture
    aimeeb
    16

    Maybe if it was VERY awkward otherwise I'll only flatter someone if I mean it.

    19 weeks 1 day ago Report Comment
  • GlowingMoon's picture
    GlowingMoon
    17

    I'm with Juicylove and JaimeLeah526. I only do it when I have a sincere, honest compliment. It breaks the ice because I'm being genuine, and the other person senses that.

    Sometimes, I compliment something they did, rather than something about their appearance. If somenone made me a nice cocktail, I would say something like,"This is delicious. You're good at this!" And if her husband is nearby, I would tell him,"You're a lucky man!" Smiling

    18 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment

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