On rare occasion I hope for the voicemail, but for the most part the reason I am calling is to actually talk to him, not to play telephone tag.

While I'm married, so not relevant, in general, I almost ALWAYS hope for voicemail. I hate talking on the phone.

I almost never leave voicemail messages... I just figure whoever I'm calling will see the missed call and call me back. I don't even remember the last time I left my boyfriend a voicemail.

If it's the first call or calling someone I'm not that familiar with, I hope for the voicemail, that way I can leave a breezy message, have the control of calling, but then get the power b/c he has to call back and be the vulnerable one...the caller is more responsible for keeping the conversation going, and once I did the hard part of calling and leaving the message, then he gets to call back and be the one left up to closing any silences lol. Total power play:)

maybe i enjoy talking too much, but i always hope the person will pick up. why else would i call? i'd text then. XD

I am so phone avoidant in general... I will directly call voicemails of lots of people thru my provider in my menu just so they don't answer. I just have some major issue with it I guess!

I wish for it sometimes even in normal, non-dating situations. Some days I do NOT feel like talking on the phone, but I feel that I need to call someone back who has called me...and I always hope I'll get their voicemail! I love my friends, but everyone has their days. In new situations, though, I usually just text.

maybeimnot, how do you do that? a friend of mine and I were driving through nashville a few months ago, and he felt that he needed to call a friend who lived there to say hi as we were driving through, but knew it would be an hour long conversation if he did - I have this issue a lot too! neither one of us could figure out how to just leave someone a voicemail.

yeah i'm not much of a phone person either so i'm always a little relieved when the voicemail picks up because my responsibility is now gone. haha.

I HATE leaving messages. I am ridiculous when it comes to leaving a coherent, normal sounding message. I always end up rambling on and on, and then for some reason I always say, "Thank you," at the end. So I always hope for another person on the line.

sunshowers83-i'm with ya on that.

berlin i agree with you completely! unless i have something specific to say- i'm not a good phone person- even with my good friends. i'd much rather text them. then you can drop short one-liners and not have to respond instantly.

if you're at a point in your relationship where you're rehearsing what to say, then yes, i hope for voicemail hands down

obviously with a boyfriend, or even a friend, i hope to talk to them, because i a) like to talk to them and b) less phone tag

LOL! I am such a chicken I always hope for voicemail, then I get it and leave a message and babble on like an idiot.

lol i'm not a phone person either so gummybears i totally agree with you-- "responsibility is gone" haha. only if i am really comfortable with the person i will want to talk to them.

I pretty much always hope for everyone's voicemail.

I have hoped for the voicemail.

but everyone text now. If i meet someone they always text which i'm completely fine with it gives me time to ask friends it that message is perfect to send

Well I don't have to worry about calling back dates anymore, in general I hope for voicemail because I hate talking on the phone

Ugh I hate voicemail. I just feel ridiculous talking to no one. Half of the time I just hang up and call later. If I'm not comfortable chatting with someone there's always texting.

For the first few calls I'd be more comfortable leaving a message than speaking to him face to face. After that I'd rather avoid the phone tag and speak to him directly.