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Dear Poll: Would You Want Your Ex and Your New Spouse to Be Friends?

Thu, 02/07/2008 - 9:00am by DearSugar
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Demi Moore, Ashton Kutcher, and Bruce Willis are the poster family for how to have a civil divorce, but are the three of them just a little too close? It's easy to keep things amicable if both parties are mature about the split, but becoming buddies with the new guy is taking it a step further.

I think it's really neat to see Ashton and Bruce get along so well, even if it is for the kids' sake, but at the same time, I have to admit their closeness is a little odd. If I were in a similar situation, I don't know how I would feel about my ex being BFF with the new man in my life, but what about you? Would you like your past to be chummy chummy with your future?

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  • Lovely_1's picture
    Lovely_1
    1

    I would want them to get along of course...but be friends? Hell no! that's liek episode of Two and a Half Men where Candy becomes friends with his ex-wife! Too close for comfort!!!

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • TASTEthiss's picture
    TASTEthiss
    2

    "friends" is a bit much. i'd want them to get along if there were children involved but hanging out together is just unusual. and if there arent any children than my ex wouldnt even be in the picture. when its over, its over.

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • aimeeb's picture
    aimeeb
    4

    If there are not any kids why would you need them to be? Maybe if you shared a circle of friends they would need to be cordial but I don't think short of that there is any reason.

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • almost famous's picture
    almost famous
    5

    Just like the first three women said, NO!!!

    When men come together they talk about exs and the current girlfriend...well, enough said!

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Meike's picture
    Meike
    6

    I don't even have anything to do with my ex, why would I want to remotely involve him again in my life by having him and my honey be chummy? No thanks.

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • laluna27's picture
    laluna27
    7

    My feeling is the more love in the world the better. However, I usually don't like to stay in contact with my exs so who am I to talk, haha

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • eightieslingo's picture
    eightieslingo
    8

    My ex-boyfriend that I was with for 2 1/2 years is my husband's best friend. I'm not even kidding. My ex was even the best man a the wedding. It's totally NOT weird, even though people think it is. Most people I met after I knew my husband couldn't believe that I dated my ex. The three of us hang out sometimes and it's fine. I guess the secret is that I was always friends with my ex even after we broke up, so why not continue to be friends? It just so happens that my husband likes my ex, so why cause unnecessary problems and say they can't hang out?

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Sun_Sun's picture
    Sun_Sun
    9

    eightieslingo....u have a cool husband Eye-wink my husband pretends that he's the first man i was ever with and im the same

    so for me, no exes..PERIOD.

    well for me, cuz i dont have kids. with kids, i'd want them to be civil but not friendly. its just awkward =S

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • emalove's picture
    emalove
    10

    Only if there are children involved.

    Otherwise, I think it would just make for a lot of uncomfortable situations.

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • KathleenxCouture's picture
    KathleenxCouture
    11

    ONLY if my ex nd i had kids together. It is very important to me that my hypothetical children have a good relationship with their father so in that instance, yes, but in every other situation its just wrong

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • MandyPinecone's picture
    MandyPinecone
    12

    I don't see the problem in being friends with your spouses ex. I'm really good friends with my hubby ex, they are still good friends.

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Asia84's picture
    Asia84
    13

    i don't have kids yet. so NOOOOO.

    if you're my ex, then that means that we don't even talk anymore. how would you even know who my new boyfriend is, let alone become his friend???

    even if we had the same social circle, they have no reason to meet other than, 'Oh, that's Chuck . . .my ex". but i never had boyfriends who shared the same friends with me, so i don't see this even being an issue.

    and if we did have children, they just need to be cordial. you won't see me being buddy-buddy with my ex-hubby's new wife. just "hi" and "bye", and "you better be nice to my kids, or you'll catch a Manolo".

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • megln1022's picture
    megln1022
    14

    depends on the ex! i'm still friends with some of my exes so i wouldn't stop being friends with them when i get married, so if my future hubby (who i haven't met yet) liked them too, i'd be happy so we could all be friends! now would i want them to be best friends? probably not lol (eightieslingo you're brave lol) but i'd be happy if they got along.

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • Trixie6's picture
    Trixie6
    15

    My ex & my hubby are pretty good friends. They get along really well. When I've needed help with my business, I've had my ex's fiancee work with me. Hubby bartends 2 nights a week & the ex & his fiancee and I go over and sit in the bar and have drinks together. Ex husband and I decided that we were going to have the best relationship possible for our daughter's sake and we just expected the 'new' people in our lives to go along with it.

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • gigill's picture
    gigill
    17

    Civil - yes, friends - no! Like you said Dear, too close for comfort!

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • NinaG's picture
    NinaG
    18

    Well, your ex is your ex for a reason isn't he? And in Demi's case here, perhaps if he gets along so great with your current hubby, they are not so different? She just traded in for a younger model?

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • bluecanary's picture
    bluecanary
    19

    My husband and ex ARE friends, and we've only had a couple of weird moments about it. In a lot of ways they are very similar guys, with lots in common - not hard to see where they would get along. Not to mention, neither one has ever been the jealous type.

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • bbkf's picture
    bbkf
    20

    My mom is still good friends with her exhusband, and her current husband likes him a lot too. Maybe it's because she divorced so long ago (22 years), but they all get along. I'd like to think that I'd be able to follow suit.

    40 weeks 6 days ago Report Comment
  • kayleigh83's picture
    kayleigh83
    21

    No problem with it at all. My ex (who I dated for 3 1/2 years) has been friends with my current boyfriend since elementary school, and my ex is one of my best friends who I can talk to about anything. It works great for us Smiling

    40 weeks 5 days ago Report Comment

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